I have asked for sex and been rejected by my husband twice within less than one month. I feel so hurt and I've been crying since then. Don't get me wrong, I'm not crying for the sex, I'm crying because I feel rejected and hurt so deep.
The timings were probably not the best (when I asked) and that's why he rejected. The first time we had just had lunch and the second time we were almost going to be both exhausted after a v. long day.
But isn't' sex supposed to be spontaneous and not always done in the "perfect" time?
And no, he's not cheating on me for sure.
Please help me, my heart is aching so bad.
2007-12-16 06:15:27 · 10 answers · asked by Grace 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Edit: we were almost going to BED both exhausted after a v. long day.
2007-12-16 06:16:50 · update #1
That's one of my biggest fears, rejection! I couldn't handle it and I'd be hurt too. The only way I can deal w/ it is by waiting for him to initiate which isn't fair but u can't help the way u feel!
2007-12-16 06:33:05 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Pure Evil♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes there's a problem.I can't say it is with him or you though. Nor do I really want to know. I would for sure ask some pointed questions and be prepared for some not so nice answers! Either it has to do with an over weight problem, or a boring love life area. Actually there are zillions of reasons, but for guys, we tend to categorize everything into those 2 areas. Sorry for the problem, but let me tell you this, my wife is pushing 280 pounds. I lost the desire years ago. I still do it for her though. Love is an action. It's my responsibility to show I love her. And I do. I just lost the lust for her. She is still a fabulous wife, funny entertaining, and a joy to be around. My best Friend!!!
2007-12-16 14:27:59 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ask tonight. It can be scheduled if your lives are hectic. Try also seducing him and giving hints throughout the day. Men do have emotions and sometimes you might want to check and see if he's feeling okay and supported first. I'm sure if you just apply a little understanding he'll come around. Also try in the morning a little early when he's nice and rested.
2007-12-16 14:28:11 · answer #3 · answered by haigazimo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that feeling all too well!
My husbad has a very low sex drive and I had to ALWAYS ask for it!
90% of the time i get turned down.
So you can imagine how I feel by now, I already have a bad self esteem and am overweight, so it realy hurts when he turns me down!!!
If we weren't trying to fall pregnant I would have stopped asking VERY LONG AGO!!!
Good luck, I hope your hurt feels better soon!
2007-12-16 14:38:23 · answer #4 · answered by Ethan-Mikyle's Mommy! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens to my wife sometimes also. Believe it or not, sometimes men also need to get turned on, especially if we're expected to overcome fatigue. Take the time to make the effort, but try not to be too overt about it. We feel a lot better about jumping into it when we're actually H O R N Y!
2007-12-16 14:26:42 · answer #5 · answered by oogabooga37 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be spontaneous and not ask, I'm sure you know how to turn your husband on with foreplay and the rest will fall into place once he is aroused don't stop being romantic because you are married go on girl and let that inner freak out!
2007-12-16 14:37:07 · answer #6 · answered by ms. vee43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop feeling sorry for yourself. You said it was bad timing so keep that in mind. How about helping him with some chores around the house....like mowing or whatever he busies himself with on the weekends. Get up early and get your chores done.....then you will have time for each other. Stop being so dramatic because you will only drive him away from you. Men don't understand so much drama.
2007-12-16 14:28:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rejection stinks-try not to dwell on it- but if this continues I'd think about the marraige and whether you need to be there. Maybe he has an issue( or ego problem) with not being the one who initiaties things-dont ask him again
2007-12-16 15:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asked> how about show him you want to make love with him>If rejected take a shower and have fun>
2007-12-16 14:32:53 · answer #9 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously how hard is it for him to lay back & let you take a ride if he's not up for it?
Selfish---------all men are!!!!!!!!
2007-12-16 14:43:15 · answer #10 · answered by THIC007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋