How do I tell him that miracles happen and wishes DO come true, but this particular one is not going to happen. His father and I have been divorced for four years. I'm remarried to a wonderful man (who my son adores truly) and his father is dating a great woman who loves him too. Still, all children wish they parents would get back together...so they will have EVERYONE they love in their lives daily. I know that. Some suggestions as to what to say to a little nine year old so he still believes in wishes, miracles and prayers...granted.
2007-12-16 06:06:01 · 6 answers · asked by Beach Girl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sit him down and tell him that mummy and daddy are still very good friends, but will not be husband and wife again. You say he is nine now and you have been divorced for four years, which would have made your son only five at the time - have you and your ex ever actually sat down with your son and explained to him what divorce means?
Then tell him he is very lucky - instead of just having two parents who love him very much, he has your husband and his father's partner as well.
If possible, could you arrange to spend Christmas day all together? That way your little boy at least gets part of his wish.
2007-12-16 06:22:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try telling him that .... where he wishes "mommy and daddy" would get back together now, he would be wishing for them to separate if they would have stayed together......Maybe try to let him know that the true miracle is that he has not only two people in his life that love him, but now he has 4 people that love him....Some children are lucky to have even one parent who love and care for them....Never too early to start appreciating what you have and not what you don't have....
2007-12-16 06:26:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess he has been watching way too many Christmas movies, where miracles happen. Barf! You need to sit him down seriously and explain that life is not like a Hollywood movie, and that adult relationships involve grown-up people with many complications. You are married to someone else - it is not fair to your current spouse for your son to wish that, so your son needs to be told that this is a dream that is not going to happen, and it is not up to him, no matter how hard he wishes. Then think VERY carefully about the movies that you allow him to see.
2007-12-16 06:14:32 · answer #3 · answered by eldots53 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him that wish isn't going to happen. Explain that now you have more people to love him - and... MORE christmas presents from all of you - because you have 2 households (hopefully that works) lol
2007-12-16 08:18:23 · answer #4 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cynthia,
sorry bout your luck..
maybe you married the wrong guy?(2nd hubby)
are you lonely?
feel betrayed?
why did your 1st husband divorce you in the first place?
2007-12-16 06:14:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
idk how old he is but just tell him that wishes and dreams always come true except for ones that werent ment to b. and say that me and daddy arent ment to b together and we have "new husbands name here" now to love you. and daddy has "his girlfriends names here" to love you now!! that should work!!!!
good luck!!!
2007-12-16 06:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by Zenaide 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋