2007-12-16 05:44:40 · 21 answers · asked by surayanaik 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If I was flirting with you and your husband told me to stop, I would punch his lights out.
The only person who can tell me to stop is YOU.
2007-12-16 13:33:00 · answer #1 · answered by boundless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you should be able to handle this situation like an adult. i got married at 21 and men still hit on me. i simply said, "thanks for the compliment, but i'm married."
i don't know why you would think the situation deserves any more response or effort than that. besides, what is your husband supposed to do? go everywhere with you and proclaim loudly, "stay away from her. she's married!"
you do the same thing now that you did before when someone made unwanted advances. politely decline and go on with your business. involving your husband only makes it seem like a big deal and perhaps makes him wonder why you think it's a big deal. it will also make him wonder if you are tempted to stray or if he needs to be less trusting of you.
2007-12-16 05:55:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is tell these "boys" that you are happily married and committed to your husband and your vowes. What will your husband be able to do about it? Beat the crap outta them? What will that prove? As long as you aren't giving them false hope there is nothing you can do to make people respect you unless you commend that from them. And hey, one day when guys aren't looking at you, you will have the memories of a time when they did.
2007-12-16 05:56:27 · answer #3 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im married at 21 and i have the same prob but me and my husband make a big joke out of it- we think its funny. i dunno maybe we're just reallly secure with each other. I think that if you guys have a really open and loving relationship and youre not worrying abt the other ever cheating or anything like that then the next time someone hits on you and you tell them youre married and better luck next time then it'll just be another little thing that happened that day that you go home and tell your husband about and kiss him and tell him how lucky you are to have him. it work s with me!
2007-12-16 06:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first yes you should tell your husband. ok of course your not going to like other men chassin you, but you have to remember its part of life, and men just tend to do that, and some of then tend to chase those woman who are taken. i have the same problem. there as so many men in this town who want me, and i dont feel the same way.. i have told my boyfriend and the other men have told my boyfriend, and at the end of the day theres really nothing you can do, because you cant stop someone else's feelings can you? anyways dont worrie about them, live you life and just be happy. good luck
2007-12-16 08:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by mummy of 4 babies :) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would not exactly inspire confidence in your man. He wants to believe that you only notice him looking at you. When the boys flirt with you, tell them you are married to 10X the man that they will ever be. You haven't the time for boys when you have a Man. That may shut them up.
Or you can have fun with this and give them your husband's phone # and let him know to expect the call. LOL
2007-12-16 05:58:49 · answer #6 · answered by Charles S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why it's your problem not his> If you didn't put out the look or smile or talk to them> You wouldn't even know they were there>See who's fault is it they are after you>You like the attention>& Want your Husband to pound knots on them more attention> You are married so act like it>Be nice but your married>
2007-12-16 05:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The common sense thing to do is to not put yourself in that type of situation. if a guy comes up and is really trying to get into your pants then bluntly tell him your married and if he persists tell someone.
At 23 years of age you know the difference between right and wrong AND your supposedly an adult, act like one!
2007-12-16 07:07:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men will hit on you anyways if they like you.
Respect yourself and your husband by standing your ground and let them know you're taken and they have no chance. If they persist to where a person is unavoidable and you feel threatened then you should inform your husband.
2007-12-16 05:51:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, just handle it on your own and tell them your not available. Don't put yourself in the wrong situations, it is totally up to you! Guys don't care if you're married or not, they'll take anything they can get! It is your responsibility to remain faithful and stand up for yourself! Why make your husband feel threatened or jealous.
2007-12-16 05:50:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no harm in telling him, but to build trust you have to show him that you have rejected all their advances at the moment you realized what they were doing. If he thinks you may entertain it even in the slightest that could plant a seed that may cause him to wonder down the road. As long as you are good at telling guys know, then inform your husband. if you're not, then you better learn fast.
2007-12-16 05:58:08 · answer #11 · answered by haigazimo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋