Im a little offended by my male friend in work. I emailed him and asked if he fancyed meeting up after the works do which he didnt reply to and i texted him in the evening which he didnt reply to. Weve been friends a while but every time in an email i suggest do u want to do anything out side of work he answers everything else part from that. He asked me over his flat which i went and we go to lunch why is he like that. Is he one of those people. Hes very worksworthy and takes his job serious
2007-12-16 05:03:30 · 14 answers · asked by shelley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Business emails are for business, not for recreation. Ask him to his face on your break. If he is your friend then respect his work ethic.
2007-12-16 05:07:44 · answer #1 · answered by 2U2 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be that he isn't the type to mix business with pleasure, and finds email an inappropriate medium for social matters. It's also possible that he's scheduled tightly, and generally can't accept spontaneous invitations. It could be that he doesn't check his text messages, or, if he sees that the time is past for responding, he sees no point in responding. I knew someone like that - very responsible at action items at work, but made the assumption that not responding was equivalent to declining for social invitations.
Or, if he's of the opposite sex to you, he may be starting a relationship with someone, and feels uncomfortable socializing with other women after hours.
To the original question, "Are they a bad friend?" that's up to you. I will say that they need not be, if you can accept this is how they are.
2007-12-16 05:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by roderick_young 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i dont think so. sometimes people have a lot on and dont get time to meet for coffee, chat on the phone, reply to that email or text back. often its lifestyle factors that influence how much spare time is available to respond to friends. its not that they arent good friends, its just they may be very busy with career or family etc.
2007-12-16 05:16:27 · answer #3 · answered by fluffypurplealien 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't want a relationship with you outside of work.
I don't think he is 'crap' at contact. This sounds deliberate.
You should try asking him out face to face when you see him at work and work out from there what his response is.
I think you see him as more than a friend, ask yourself you feel about this man.
If you are both true friends, you should both uncross your wires and try to reach and understanding.
2007-12-16 05:12:38 · answer #4 · answered by "*♥*Nafisa*♥*" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be a busy dude, it happens. i tend to leave my phone as far away as possible on some days,just not to be bothered. he could be just a very private person,did you hang out as his house after lunch for a long time or was it less than a half hour? does he ever rush you out when ya'll hang out?
or he's got an old lady and don't want you to see each other.
2007-12-16 05:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by Stoner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No , Just because there bad at contact doesen't mean there bad friends, If You laugh together, Help eachother out , Share money, And talk about girls/guys.. Then your good friends. But contact doesent mean your bad. Maybe hes losing interest but he still wants to be friends...
2007-12-16 05:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by Pafto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might just be very busy, or perhaps he honestly doesn't realize your efforts to get a hold of him. There is also always the chance that he is not interested. Keep trying to contact him and if he continues to ignore you, confront him politely. I'm sure it's all just a misunderstanding. Good luck with it all!
2007-12-16 05:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe because he doesn't want people in your guys' office to think that there is a "work place romance" which could lead to one or both of you written up (whatever the company policy is) OR one or both of you could get fired. i don't hink that he's willing to get in trouble or lose his job just to hang out with a female employee. maybe if there were more than just the 2 of you then he would
2007-12-16 05:08:57 · answer #8 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
either:
1. hes shy
2. he doesnt like you
3. he feels bad for you
4. he doesnt want to get into trouble with da boss for having an "inside of work relationship"
duhh.
pick one.
2007-12-16 05:07:31 · answer #9 · answered by lizzy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
People are different. Some just don't like to communicate that way. You have to put it in context of knowing the bloke.
2007-12-16 05:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by dhdaddy2003 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋