My best friend and i started to drift apart last spring. We would always get in fights about her boyfriends and how she was treating me. I felt like she was ignoring me and she wouldn't even talk about her guy w/ me anymore. I was the one who always ended up apoligizing during these fights so we could be good again. But things just kept getting worse, she lied to be many times about hanging out with her guy when we had plans. We started to drift away from eachother. I still tried to be there for her when her grandpa died, but she ignored my calls and texts. I thought she picked her guy to talk about it with. Then recently this winter she sent me a message asking me where was i all this time. She blamed me for not being there for her and that she was depressed all summer and cried herself to sleep, but she also said she forgave me.That made me mad that she didn't see how much i tried. I still love her lots and don't want to lose her but i can't take the fact she always blames me.
2007-12-16 04:29:03 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
the best thing to do is to sit down and talk to her and tell her how much you tried being there for her.
2007-12-16 04:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your best friend doesn't quite see the things that she did. If she really is your best friend, then you should be able to tell her how much you care for her and also be able to tell the way that you felt and your point of view.
If she won't listen or seems to think that you are wrong, etc...I would just let it go. No matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides to a piece of bread. In other words, your point of view should be as important to her as her own.
Tell her what your heart feels. If she listens and understands, that's great. If she gets mad or feels that you are wrong, when you know you're right...it's not going to get any better. You should not always be the one sacrificing. That's not friendship.
Take Care
2007-12-16 12:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a no-win situation. She only wants to hear from you when she needs a shoulder. Also, you can't read her mind. If she does want to hear from you or talk, and hasn't heard from you for awhile, then she should call you. Tell her this. Let her know that the lines of communication work both ways and you would be happy to hear from her when she'd like to talk. Chances are she'd only call you when she needs something. Sad really, I think we've all had a friend like this. She doesn't know what a "real" friend she had in you.
2007-12-16 12:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by Nicki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you like being used as a bunching bag> Why have some 1 that hurts you and argues all the time>Keep her a distance till she ask you what's wrong then tell her>If it works have fun if not move on>
2007-12-16 12:34:25 · answer #4 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend exactly what u told us. Tell her u want to start your friendship over. A new start. Both of you wipe the past slates clean. AND just be there for one another. If you friendship was strong, it WILL survive. Give and take is the ticket. Good luck
2007-12-16 12:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship is very important. talk to her and u have to tell her that how u feel . inform her that u did ur best to stand by her in her hard time ,but u were ignored. Maybe she will understand. if she still blames u than u should move on.
2007-12-16 12:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, but not exactly. My theory about "friends" means that you can make up to brake up just like an intimate relationship. If you cherish this friendship just see it as your fall outs, if you feel like you are being taken advantage of, drop her. Thats not a friend. I cant stand fake people...sincerity and honesty is everything even in a "friendship".
2007-12-16 12:34:44 · answer #7 · answered by mv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are her equal and although you love her, you do not need her. Best friends does also change over time; one goes so the next one can come. Be not afraid to drift apart.
2007-12-16 12:33:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well friends are blind sighted when a tragic event happens in their life happens and they have blinders on and can't see that you were in fact tring to help. I know all this from experience when my grandpa died I pushed all my friends away who were tring to help and i blamed them when actually I was blaming my self you should be mad that she blamed you cuz people handle grieving in many diffrent ways you should show her that you were there and that you never left her hanging there.
2007-12-16 12:38:25 · answer #9 · answered by Ashlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both of you need to calm down. if she's got a man, she's not going to spend as much time w/you. sounds like you had unreasonable time expectations of her. it also sounds like the 2 of you did not discuss your expectations in a reasonable manner. giver her room to breathe. clearly she still wants to deal with you, or she would not have sought you out. it sounds like you don't have a man. as a result, you have more free time than she does. you guys need to communicate better about your feelings towards each other, and the expectations you have of each other as friends...
seriously, chill out...
2007-12-16 12:37:01 · answer #10 · answered by DF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋