Suddenly husband has withdrawn his attention away from me...what's wrong?? men's opinion only plz.?

Question

I'm sure I nag a little, but suddenly my husband has stopped talking with me. Just giving one word answers...No hugs or kisses...and when sleeping will not hug/hold me. Maybe he doesn't really love me?? Just married about 3 months. BUT he calls me all the time to check on me...but in person he says nothing.I m hurting.

Thanx for all the great answers. I now have a different perspective on how men think. We got married w/in 1month of meeting...he does have some worries lately...maybe that's it!! Also he IS a very controlling person...I blame his military training on that though...AND since it is winter here in my area I HAVE been wearing lots of warm/dowdy clothes to bed...not my usual "sexy" stuff...I will change back to my nitey's. But still his inattention is pretty harsh...leaving the house w/o saying goodbye etc..

Answer 1

try to understand his problem. the best time for this is bed time. just impress him with yur lovely sexy image and try to control his emotions and while resting take him into yur lovely hug and ask about his problem and try to find solution, if possible

Answer 2

Gaby,
I think there is something more to this than just your nagging. He has suddenly found something not interesting in you and it prevents him in having close contact with you. You said you are married just 3 months, were you known to each other earlier and how long and how were you then?
If you had known each other earlier, I am sure the premarital time would have been good together, or else you would not have got married. Is he doubting you now? Did he have any chance to doubt you? I dont think he is cheating on you. Either he doubts you or he has found something suddenly not interesting in you. That indicates why he calls in check on you while he does not show affection while near.
You need to taslk. Ask him what makes him keep away from you physically these days, is there something you need to improve things between you. Please make sure it does not get into blaming or abusive sessions or statements like "you dont care for me.." etc. Blames will close the openness or any possibility of solving the issue. Take it slowly. If you think there are things you can improve by yourself about you, do it. Try to think what could make you feel more attractive or desirable, may be the dress, cleanliness, a bath before bedtime, nice fragrance, clean hands, fingers, toes and nails, clean hair, using mouth freshner.. lots of things.. Make him desire for you while you sleep next to him, probably that is where you can draw him closer easily..
Take care.. dont get stressed too much, I am sure you can solve this.. Even he too may want to come out of the shell and start doing things..
All the best.. Take care..

Answer 3

Ok:-
1 Relax, and take stock.
2. what eles has changed?
3 how long have you been together?
4. Is his work going fine?
5. Are you trying for a family?

It could be that he is just recovering from getting married
IT could be that he is panicking that he/ you have made a mistake.
Is the sex good (man needs sex to feel loved Woman needs love to have sex).. Could it be that he doesn't feel loved? so won't return the affection you crave.
He (misguided) see's touching as forplay and a prelude to full blown ( pun intended) sex.. You see physical caress as love and comfort and need this as security. But you haven't told him ( well not in a way he understands) this and probably spurned his advances as being to bold, This will turn you off and against physical enjoyment..

Change the way you seek physical affection.
Cuddle him from behind SPOON HIM not him you.
Stroke his chest and avoid areas of sexual excitement. When you're UP FOR IT be up for it and let him know in no other circumstances. And TELL HIM BE BLUNT!
Then as you educate him, you will both learn.
Woody allen summed it up in one of his films!
Dr to female patient How often do you have sex
FP " Constantly 3-4 times a week!"
Dr to female patients partner asks same question
How often do you have sex
FPP " Hardly ever only about 3-4 times a week!!!"
Good luck

Answer 4

Welcome to marriage and reality. The second both of you said "I do" your loving relationship was over. Some people realize it in weeks other lies to themselves and last years. Your husband just realized it and he would rather be with his mistress. Learn your lesson and never get married agian. You should also learn the facts of life while you are still young:

1. There is no Santa
2. There might be a Bigfoot
3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
4. Marriage ruins relationships (moving in is the same)
5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
6. Life is not fair

Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me if you want to hear the truth. You can ask me anything. I don't lie unlike the other answers you will get.

Answer 5

It's time to make him sit down and talk to you. Tell him if this doesn't happen, you're going to sign you both up for counselling. If he doesn't go, then you're leaving.

He sounds like he might be a "controller" type - sometimes they use the silent treatment to keep you on a short leash and under their power. Don't let him do this.

Answer 6

Sounds like the thrill is gone lady. If you nag, then stop it completely. Don't nag a little. Nagging is childish. Ask him point blank, does he still love you? Whatever your answer is your answer, deal with that instead of making up stuff. It' commom for marriage to die down after the initial thrill is gone.

Answer 7

hi, your problom is gen. problom at this time, u must to know that what is reason for that. may be ur husband is having more other pprobloms and he do't want to say u. and it may be that some person tell something wrong about u to ur husband. he is not satisfied with u. but u should discuss with ur husband about ur problom, and tell him that u r a his wife and a part of his. and u give him good joy and a happyness to him, and u sould not be angry with him, and when u face him smile allways. and time to time will cahnge, and u must try to all. bye and take care

Answer 8

1. You're coming on too strong....
2. he's perhaps thinking he has married one toooooooo needy, or
3. he has another lady....

any or all of the above.

Answer 9

dont go negative before you get all the info and to get that is to talk your husband and listen to what he has to say. dont force him but let it talk about it on his own harassing him might make him clam up.

Answer 10

Sounds like he is stressed about something. Talk to him!