If young girls are having sex?

Question

Why do they allow themselves to get pregnant?

Stupidity?

Did they REALLY want a kid?

Too afraid to ask mom to take them for birth control?

Im looking to hear from mostly young mothers. Tell me your story, what happened?

Answer 1

There is no one absolute answer to this question. First, sex-ed needs to be taught much earlier! My high school didn't teach sex-ed until 9th grade.....but we had students in 7th & 8th grade girls having babies! Some girls may come from a broken home and look for uncondtional love through having a baby. Some may be afraid to ask for bc or too lazy to take it properly; they may feel invincible. But lets not forget that it takes teen boys to get these young girls pregnant! Where are they? Why are they not forced to take responsibility? Some get raped.
*Each girl has their own story

Answer 2

I HATE reading responses about how "older" mothers think ALL teenage pregnancies are ALL an outcome from the same thing.
It's not. I will be 17 when my daughters born. I'm 33 weeks. I was using protection thank you, and it was an extremely pleasant surprise. I was with him for 3 years. ONLY person I've ever had sex with. Therefore was not sleeping around, and I didn't want to get pregnant. It happened. It happens. If you think that it won't happen to your children you have another thing coming. If they want to have sex THEY WILL. No matter what you say, you can educate them on everything. But as we all know nothing is 100%, including birth control and condoms.

Older, married, mothers are no better than any younger mother. There are some deadbeat older married mothers. and then there are some AMAZING hardworking teen mothers. It doesn't matter the age, it matters how you care for your child. Who are you to tell anyone younger, or not if they should or shouldn't be having a child. I'd really like to know how you are better as a parent than I am? You're NO DIFFERENT. you have love for your child, as do I. You "give up" things for your child, as do I...Finances aren't EVERYTHING just because you make a good decent amount of money does not mean that you'll make a good parent.

I for one, worked and went to school until they didn't want me there. I didn't drop out of school and I am planning on going back next year to continue and finish my schooling. I WILL go to college. If anything this has pushed me to work harder and do something with my life.

There are however the stereotypical "teenage mothers", who hand their babies off, and don't want to give up the fun life. WELL I know a lot of older people who have done the same thing.

It just gets me frustrated that older parents believe they are better,when I am here 17 and trying to prove people wrong, not every sexually active teen is the same.

edit- my mother talked to me about it all. We went over everything. Condom use. birth control everything.

Answer 3

Young girls.. I dont know why the reason to have sex. Mostly because they are pressured, dont want to feel left out, feel embarrased, being a virgin, or look for an emotional cause to it. Trying to fill a void. A reason why they get pregnant is because they dont think about the consuquences and the needed protection. They just go. Some wants the "idea" of a baby, some dont even want a kid. They just dont think about it. If they are at belief they are pregnant or have a chance they might be, they are too afraid to ask a mom and its too risky to attend a clinic without a parent finding out. So they just stay quiet about it. Some just dont care at all whatsoever.

Yes I am ongoing 17 in less than a month and Ive had sex to my deepest regret. I talk about experience, but not about the pregnancy issues. Ive dealth with friends who have been through pregnancy, etc.

Answer 4

mostly i think a girl just doesnt think it would happen to them. also, at a young age they can be very easily pressured into sex by a persistent male who might use emotional blackmail and refuses to wear a condom or uses it incorrectly.
going on the pill may not be an option for a young girl due to the medical profession being against it, the threat of parents finding out, or simply not having the money to pay for it.
many young girls dont even tell their friends if they are sexually active because they feel embarrassed, and are afraid of getting a reputation. as a result, they are isolated and put bury their heads in the sand.
i became a mum at 18 even though i was so sensible in other areas of my life. i was in love, or so i thought at the time. my daughter is almost 16 now and is 100 times more sensible in her attitudes to sex. she has learned from my experience and we have a very open relationship when it comes to discussing such matters. when i was her age, there was no way i could approach the subject with my own parents.

Answer 5

Simply because it's natural for a woman to become pregnant after having sex. Birth control, condoms and special methods are all unnatural, and all are ineffective at times. In the heat of passion, people tend to do what comes naturally, especially young people!

The young woman tends to look at the guy she's with as her own Prince Charming, and to think that he will take care of her and the baby if she does get pregnant. She thinks it would be neat to have a baby of her own, like a living doll she can play with and pass around. She's naïve and foolish, like most teenagers, and the people she looks up to aren't much help, because they all tell her to go have sex, and that leads directly to pregnancy.

Answer 6

...I was 17 (not too young), but young enough! My b/f and I always used caution, and protection. There was the ONE time where the condom broke, and resulted in pregnancy. I believe that young girls go through the stage of finding the guy they want to fall in love with. Which means in some cases they will do anything, if that means having a baby with a man so he sticks around, then so be it! I was a pregnant teen, but I've been with my fiance 5 yrs. and we have our 3 1/2 year old daughter, and the expecting our second one. Like most teen parents they usually don't last. But I'm happy to say I'm not in that situation!

Answer 7

Young people, particularly teenagers, tend to think of themselves as invincible - nothing bad will happen to them - unless they've already had a serious accident or other calamity happen to them. They go for the pleasure of the moment, taking risks without thinking of the possible consequences. This is why I support appropriate sex education in all schools, public and private, at an age prior to the onset of puberty, so that both boys and girls would become more aware of both positive and negative outcomes of the various activities they might be tempted to indulge in.

After all, there are a number of things that can be done that DON'T result in pregnancy. It's just too bad that the various religions have brainwashed most of us into thinking that ALL sexual activity is dirty, or forbidden and sinful before marriage.

Answer 8

STUPIDITY!!!!!!!! I was just stupid and my mom even got me on birth control but I always forgot to take it and never used protection. I was only with the one guy while I was in high school but after I got preggie he left me,... but unlike some I faced my mistake grew up took care of my responsibility and went to college while I worked and now I am married have a wonderful son 8 years old and just had a baby girl and I wouldn't change what happened. Even though it was hard as hell and I missed out on alot my son changed my life because I was not hanging out with the best crowd and I was doing drugs and such and when I found out I was preggie. I changed it all. I wish every young girl that got preggie could be blessed like I was to do the right thing!!! Have a Merry Christmas!!!!! : )

Answer 9

Sad to say one of the most identifiable features of adolescence is the idea that "I did not INTEND for this to happen". Like getting into a car crash, or having a drug over dose. They have not yet reached an age yet where they realize that things can happen no matter how much you do not intend for them them to happen, like pregnancy or everything else I mentioned. They don't get yet that not INTENDING to get pregnant is not good enough to stop it from happening, that hard and vigilant actions must be taken to prevent it and that even after that it still might happen.

Using birth control ALWAYS reduces the chances of pregnancy but does not completely eliminate it. Like wise I don't like to talk on a cell phone when I drive, I know that distracted driving is much more likely to get me into an accident even though I do not intend to, so I take action by avoiding talking on the phone. It requires a person to reach at least their early twenties for the part of the brain that controls responsible behavior to develop enough to start affecting their personal decisions and actions, this is why adults absolutely think and behave differently than teenagers.

Answer 10

Unfortunely their brains are now inside their legs... Sex Ed doesnt do much these days as the teachers are thinking that they're (our nations children) are out doing it already... They need to tell the youth that sex can kill too, as well as the cost and everything of having children (take into consideration that livivng does go up, eg nappies, baby food ect)... The youth these days think that they can just live off our taxes... Condom prices can be very high here (in New Zealand), i dont know what they are like in US or CANADA, they should make it that if the youth are going to have sex they have the pill or some other form of birth control and condoms....