He is a good guy, and about a month and a half ago clearly told me that he just wanted to be good friends. He had been flirty in the last couple weeks, and was the one pushing us getting together.
I don't want to be so naive as to think he wants me back, however - I am fine with waiting things out as long as I am not completely getting used. I stopped things just short of sex. He thanked me a couple times for 'staying' and wanted ot make me breakfast although I couldn't stay in the morning.
Anyways, is it best to just let him steer what happens next, or am I being silly to even think there is a chance?
2007-12-16 03:25:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Rather, he'd been asking to hang out in the last couple weeks, not to 'get back together'.
2007-12-16 03:26:36 · update #1
From this description, it seems like he's interested in a friends-with-benefits set-up, as opposed to a romantic relationship. If you think you can handle that, go for it. If not, it's best to remove sex (and hooking up) from the equation. You ought to steer this time.
2007-12-16 03:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Tell him very clearly your objectives as "just friends." If he is a good guy he will understand, otherwise I think that he will take advantage of you and your heart. He has been with you before, and knows that at some point your interest in him will grow, and he will use that to get you into bed. But trust me, his feelings will not be the same as yours -- you will fall back in love with him while he may be may just be doing it for the sex. I think he is banking off of the idea that you will believe there will be a chance -- when all he may truly want is the sex. Don't do it; have more respect for yourself, and make him have more respect for you -- because you deserve better than to just be used!
2007-12-16 11:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by Drew 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
its always better if you are at the helm steering when its your life in the boat. Theres nothing wrong with being good friends but having sex would not be in the picture. That implies a different type of relationship. You are walking a fine line here and may get hurt when he finds a new girl friend. Dont let a friend keep you from moving on with your life and forming new relationships.
2007-12-16 11:36:39 · answer #3 · answered by Diane M 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
A few possibilities, or a combination of specific possibilities.
- He's easing his way into being with you, from being concerned that he may get hurt. Possibly because the thought of you with someone else since the breakup, or just afraid that you are using him.
- He's using you for sex.
- He's using you for temporary emotional support until he finds someone else.
- He's confused and doesn't know what to feel, so out of respect, he is trying to not lie to you and tell you he absolutely wants to get back together. (He's giving it time)
- He really does want to get back together, but is afraid of coming on too strong which could cause you to back off and not want to be with him. He may be trying to get a feel if you really want him back.
Despite the general consensus that men are bad and evil, you really don't know what his motivations are. All I can suggest, is to safeguard yourself from the negative possibilities while giving the positive possibilities time to fruit.
2007-12-16 11:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by Nep 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Doing that (stopping things in the middle) is illegal in most states and is punishable by a fine not to exceed $500 or three months in jail ;-)
2007-12-17 09:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he just wants to take it slow...nothing wrong with trhat. You said he's a good guy, so try taking a couple steps backward and letting things go as they may!
2007-12-17 09:57:20 · answer #6 · answered by zen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No chance-- well a very slim one--he just wants to hit it again-- he couldn't find anyone else last night -so he went to option 2.
Sorry !!!
2007-12-16 11:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by boilerrat 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, sounds like he left you for some other floosy, that didn't work out and now he wants to weasel his way back in.
2007-12-16 11:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by Orion Quest 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy the carnal delights with him. Give him pleasures. You will feel good in the morning for doing so.
2007-12-16 16:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes because you may get a little
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