He's gentle and carying but sometimes a little distant.He's not the kind of guy who talks about his feelings but he shows me affection and he calls me every night to ask me how my day was.Last week we stayed in his house 4 days totally but this week only Saturday and some hours on Sunday.He doesn't like pressure and we never program what to do in advance,so sometimes i see him a lot and other times a little.I started falling for him and i'd like to spent more time with him but i can't tell him as i don't want to press him.In my previous relationship, my bf wanted to spent a lot of his free time with me so i can't understand this guy.So,i go as he likes or what?Maybe i'm 2 available for him?
2007-12-16 03:08:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I put my question here as i need advice from more experienced people.
2007-12-16 03:09:52 · update #1
Check out the website catchhimandkeephim.com , I think 4 days is way too long to spend with him at this time. You need to keep him wanting more and know when to leave him, when he is not bored with you. If he calls every night, at least he is thinking of you. Go a little slow, make plans with friends and when he calls and you are busy, it will make him need to make plans to see you and not be a last minute date. Good luck and keep him wondering. Blessings.
2007-12-18 05:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by Chantii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really not mixed signals dear there's nothing wrong with needing some time alone your previous boyfriend may have wanted to much of your time, but he's an ex-boyfriend now! something happened there? At any rate give it some time after all it's only been 2 months quick answers are nice but quick anything isn't always the best Time will tell a real lasting relationship is an investment. see what happens give it til the end of summer, If you have anymore questions then or before then we are all here to help good luck Dear
2016-04-09 06:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like what you cant see plays alot in the relationship. Severalscenario come to mind here; he might be on the rebound from a very current relationship and is afraid to get involved againor he might already have a steady girlfriend who works traveling, or hes possibly seperated from a marrige and can truly comit to anyone and is only using you. The time has come to find out exactly what he has in store for the future with you and then go fom there but prpare for any kind of answer from him. I get a strange feeling that something is wrong here by what youre saying but you hae to find out for your sake an you do have a right to know. Good luck and Happy Holidays
2007-12-16 03:18:12 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not make plans ahead of time because he is keeping his options open. He wants to be footloose and fancy free. You are his backup when nothing else or no one else is available. Sorry but it is true. A lot of us have had guys play or try to play this game with us. You have to realize that a lot of them are dogs. There are guys out there who will use you and hurt your feelings and not lose a minutes sleep over it. Stay away from this guy and all others like him.
2007-12-16 03:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only be dating this guy for two months and you've already spent four days with him at his house? And now you're wondering why he doesn't want to spend as much time with you as he did...After 4 days at his place so early in the not yet relationship I would say he got what he wanted...and it's time for you to wake up and smell the coffee.
2007-12-16 17:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life is too short to have to second guess him. If he isn't open and upfront with you - move on. I noticed that you are more concerned with what HE likes and wants. Forget it - worry about what you like and want. If not, you are going to be putting your wants and needs aside in this relationship.
Stop being so pleasing and accommodating. He'll only walk all over you because he knows you will be there for him whenever he wants you.
2007-12-16 03:18:04 · answer #6 · answered by jayjay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he calls you every night then he is into you. Guys don't do that if they're not into you, trust me. You don't have to spend every waking moment together, you two DO have separate lives. Don't worry so much. If you go a few days without seeing each other it gives you time to miss each other then when you do see each other you'll be closer. You'll want each other more.
2007-12-16 03:14:28 · answer #7 · answered by <> <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may be too available for him. He's having his cake and eating it too. He's obviously afraid of a committment so if that's what you're looking for, either give him an ultimatum or find someone who's not so afraid of a solid, committed relationship.
2007-12-16 03:11:31 · answer #8 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not experienced, but I watch a lot of these problems on TV and read them from books. Maybe he's those bfs who like to take it slow and not rush to conclusions. He likes you most definately. (however u spell it)
2007-12-16 03:12:19 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO idea lah :-)... may be good..may be bad... may be he get more girls like you.. so he manages time by meeting u sometimes very often and other times very less...
not sure... keep a watch......don't be in a hurry
2007-12-16 03:15:08 · answer #10 · answered by mns_25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋