Just had massive row with bf he's gone back home now.I am really bogged down with college work and he wanted to go out for a drink.Also I've stopped smoking and keep craving so going for a drink wouldn't helped.Is he showing a lack of understanding or am I being unreasonable?
2007-12-16 02:55:08 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
he's not understanding. just tell him you really can't tonight. Maybe set up something different for a different time that you can do together. If he still doesn't cooperate, maybe take a little break and put your mind at ease. No offense, but someone isn't worth the effort if all they do is cause you stress.
2007-12-16 03:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being unreasonable. If he wants what is best for you he will understand you need to study. Also he should support you now that you've stoped smoking and yes drinking will definitly hinder your chances of staying off smoking. Relationships are all about compremise perhaps he wants to spend some time with you. Take a break from college work every now and then and suggest you do some non drinking activity together perhaps go see a movie or something. If you simply have too much work perhaps you shouldn't be in a relationship at this time. Hope this helps. Good Luck.
2007-12-16 03:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like communication breakdown to me.
He deserves to be able to go out, and you do to. He probably wanted to spend some time with you away from the school work. Sounds like maybe you guys haven't been spending much time together?
However, if it's that he doesn't understand the priorities in your life then maybe you two really aren't compatible.
You need to honestly look at your relationship and decide if it's worth it. You need to talk with him about it and ask serious questions.
I've seen a lot of people stay in relationships that were doomed, and it does nothing but waste your time.
2007-12-16 03:18:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he's showing a lack of understanding. He should know drinking associates with smoking. He should help you kick the habit. If he wants to drink, let him go to the bar., or bring it home.
2007-12-16 03:00:44 · answer #4 · answered by napolee_nj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is showing of lack of understanding and a lack of respect for you trying to improve your life. Move on without him and finish your education. Later on you can find a gentleman who like you appreciates the value of an education and no one can take that education away from you.
2007-12-16 03:00:07 · answer #5 · answered by dianemarieperrine 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He should want you to do well in college. It would been a better job for you in the future. He is being unreasonable.
2007-12-16 02:58:57 · answer #6 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope, your being very strong. If i had given up something and had something as important as my education to focus on and my husband was cohearsing me to do something fun but wrong, i would totally cave. Good for u, and u may want to find someone that respects your wishes and morals.
2007-12-16 02:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by mykidzrkute 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares !!! Life is too short for arguements - if you really care for each other, ring him, tell him it's too silly to argue about grab a couple of cans of lager, a chinese, come back to you and have a romantic night in !!!!
2007-12-16 03:02:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's thinking about himself. He must not like change. Is he loosing a smoking buddy? Men are really stupied sometimes.
2007-12-16 03:01:41 · answer #9 · answered by honeybee_lll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is unresonable look after your education first so u can set your future right, from the looks of it he might not be in it but your education will.......it also depends he might want you to go so you will pay for the drinks some bf can be tight.
2007-12-16 03:11:49 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋