I have no desire for anything sexual whatsoever. In fact, the thought of it makes me want to get sick. I'm around 11 weeks and DH is starting to complain about not getting any. The thing is, he NEVER wanted it before I got pregnant unless I was on my period and he knew he couldn't have it. I've tried to "help him out" but it seriously makes me gag. I feel terrible.
Any suggestions on what I can do? Haha. I already know what some of you answers will be but I'm just curious to see if anyone has some sort of good idea they can pull out of their ***.
By the way, I'm bi and we have brought other females into the bedroom solely for him, but I don't think I can handle knowing he's with another woman right now. I guess I already feel alone in this.
2007-12-16 02:54:10 · 8 answers · asked by Momma Jette 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Im 14 weeks pregnant and i have totally lost interest in sex! Its very normal...i am starting to feel abit more like it...but in all honesty im usually so tired that i cant even if i want to. Since i got pregnant my partner and i have been intimate twice. I would never suggest that my partner or yours should go somewhere else. When you energy levels raise in your 2nd trimester things should get better (i live in hope of that). Til then...try kissing and cuddling in bed until you feel maybe a little more like it. All else fails a quickie with your hands is better for him than nothing (I wouldn't suggest giving head - Morning sickness is bad enought without adding that to the mix). Just see how it goes and if he can be patient give him a DVD and an empty house! Surely he can work on himself for a few weeks!
2007-12-16 03:07:41 · answer #1 · answered by Lise 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-24 05:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by tonya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm starting my 11th week tomorrow and I completely understand. It's not that I'm not attracted to my husband, b/c I am very much so. However, there just isn't an ounce of libido in me, and hasn't been for quite some time! At first it was b/c of the extreme fatigue during the first 2 months of being pregnant. I'm not as tired anymore but the libido hasn't quite kicked back in. Right now, we might do the dance twice a week and of course, that isn't nearly enough for him. He would love to have it every other day, or even every day. I just don't have the desire right now and I do feel really bad. I'm hoping that the 2nd trimester brings my libido back.
I'm not bi so while I can't completely understand the dynamics of your relationship with your husband, I don't think it would be a good idea to bring any other people into your marriage bed. Pregnancy is a very emotional time and you don't need the stress and complications of another partner in the bedroom.
2007-12-16 03:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by tfled23 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have the perfect solution!!! Just tell him no...too damn bad! My hubby is the same way about wanting it all the time now and he's just had to deal with the fact that I'm not in the mood...and haven't been in the mood since day 1. For my second pregnancy I wanted it all the time and he would tell me dumb stuff like "I'm too tired", "I'm not in the mood" or "I've got a headache"- I figured this is his punishment! I offered for 9 months and he didn't take it. Now that he wants it...well it sucks to be him.
I sometimes give in about once a month...but if he gets too push I hit him over the head with a fish net. Personally I don't even like to sleep with him at the moment but that's just me. Of course I've been pregnant for 64 weeks since Aug 2006 (with about a 6 week break between the two) so I'm all out of "helping" feelings at this point!!!!!
2007-12-16 03:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by Shiningami_Gurl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok.. First... I would befinately not bring any other females into the mix. No way!
Second... your pretty early in your pregnancy. During your second trimester, you might feel differently. I hear a woman's libido get's really high during that time. You actually might wear your husband out.
Third... Know that you are not alone. I am sure that other women have gone through the same thing. Know that some women are told not to have sex at all during their pregnancy. Especially if they are a high-risk pregnancy.
Hang in there. Things will get better.
2007-12-16 03:01:11 · answer #5 · answered by Operator 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait a couple of weeks...I am 16 weeks and want it all the time, whereas at 11 weeks I coudn't stand it.
2007-12-16 03:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have no obligation to have sex with your hubby if you're not in the mood. With my first I didn't have desire so we didn't do it. He'll live.
2007-12-16 03:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
take it and act like you like it..he wont be long...good luck
2007-12-16 03:06:17 · answer #8 · answered by man behind blue eyes 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋