I fell deeply in love with a girl in college. When we met, I didnt know she lived just a half mile from my house. I had been with her for a few months and became very fond of her and I was very atracted to her. One night at the movies she felt the need to tell me about her past. She had been addicted to CRACK. I loved her enough to over look it but I happen to know about the crack addiction so I asked her if she had ever sold sex for drugs. Of coarse she had. I was very upset and confused. Torn between loving her forgiving and forgetting and leaving and forgetting. I stayed with her because I really loved this girl a bunch before I heard this news. Time went by and the subject came back up at times causing major fights. I still love her and I wish I could over look it but it is very hard for me, for I come from a very christian home and my mom N pop have a sacred marriage.
We are split from her choice now. Should I try to get her back. OR LET HER GO???? I still love her. Sh won talk
2007-12-16 02:52:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She just doesn't sound like the right girl for you. Find someone with better morals. To help get over her when you think of her try to remember only the bad.
2007-12-16 03:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by beebee 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Peple should always be ready for the answer if they ask the question or dont ever ask. Attorneys never ask questions in court that they already dont know the answer to, to avoid sudden unexpected surprises. You aske on of those questions and she honestly answered you but you didnt really want to know the answer for fear ofwhat it was going to be and it was and now you cant really handle but are trying to overlook it now and cant. Your imagination coupled with the answer are gnawing at you which is a very normal reaction in relationships. The damage is already done and you can never change it so can you let her past die and remain as life before your relationship,and move on to a whole new life with her. If not then the time has come to part as friends and move on because staying together will never serve either any good purpose. You have hurt her by forcing her to bring up apast she probably regrets and is trying to shake which is why she wont talk to you now. t personally looks like toomuch damage has been done to recover from sobetter pln on moving on now. Good luck and Happy Holidays
2007-12-16 03:08:27 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being raised in a christian home, you have some fantasies that are deeply embedded in your mind. It will take many years for you to overcome them, and then only IF you really want to. Another thing to consider is the permanent damage that has been done to her from her drug use. Those things CANNOT be overcome. A relationship with her would be a constant struggle. You can blame yourself, or her, it doesn't matter. A good long lasting relationship DOES NOT require much effort. Both of you could easily fall back into bad habits.
2007-12-16 03:06:03 · answer #3 · answered by phil8656 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you are very judgmental, she trusted you enough to tell you about her past, which I guess she should not have done so. If you love her like you said, you should forgive and forget(isn't that the Christian thing to do?) but in your situation maybe is better to let her go, since obviously you can and will not be able to forget her past, remember Is Her Past!, it has nothing to do with you, your life together started the day you guys met. Didn't Jesus himself forgave Mary Magdalene? so I guess you are the christian only in name and appearances. and that's is not christian at all.
2007-12-16 03:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by shopper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a past some not so good. If you really loved her you should have over looked her past. The christian background were you learned to forgive yet you were not able to forgive her???? I think you need to good back to the Bible and learn to forgive maybe mom and pop need to also.
2007-12-16 03:13:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have no not made any major mistakes in your life?
And how would you like it if the person you loved kept bringing it up time after time, rubbing it in your face and making you feel like you were less than human?
She's not doing drugs now. She reached that low spot in her life and was able to pull herself out of it.
Give her some credit for that!
If you're going to keep nagging people with your "holier than thou" attitude, you had better accept being single for the rest of your life.
2007-12-16 02:58:44 · answer #6 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you continued to throw her past in her face you should move on and let her find someone more forgiving
2007-12-16 07:28:26 · answer #7 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really came form a christian home, you would know that ppl mess up, and that if they change, you need to forgive them, even if they dont change.
shes different know, and you have to repect that. and be happy that she trusted you enought to tell you.
try to get her back, but honestly you dont deserve her
2007-12-16 02:57:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who can blame her for not talking to you. For being "very Christian" you were the first one to judge her.
2007-12-16 02:57:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
if you cant let it go, dont even try it
2007-12-16 03:04:29 · answer #10 · answered by tommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋