Why does every woman become a porcelain doll when they find out they're pregnant?

Question

I just find some of the comments to my questions interesting, and some of the questions I see on here as well. Women have been having babies forever and they were doing just as much work as the men back in tribal times, so why do women think now when they get pregnant, that it's not ok to do ANYTHING!! If you do any kind of work you will hurt your baby. I refuse to be one of those women who expects everyone else to do the work while I just sit around and get fat. I worked with a girl who refused to do everything because she was pregnant and she wasn't even showing yet. She wouldn't lift anything, she wouldn't bend over if she dropped something and she was constantly going in the back room and eating and leaving everyone else to do her job. When my best frineds daughter got pregnant they refused to leave her at the house alone because she might get upset and that would hurt the baby. Anyone else think this is stupid or been around people like this?

I'm only 6 weeks and i'm already annoyed with the way people are treating me too. I go tout of the car the other day to get the ice off the windshield wipers and my friend stopped me and insisted that she do it. What is that? I'm perfectly capable. If you are high risk thats different and you would clearly be under some kind of supervision or bed rest, I'm talking about first and second trimester, healthy mother, healthy baby.

Since apparently alot of people missed this, yes i am pregnant. And i personally feel the same as always. I'm actually annoyed at everyone telling me I can't do things. I've been around alot of pregnant women, I'm the last one to have children in fact, those 2 were just examples, but most of them fall into that same oh poor pregnant me category.

Answer 1

I don't know. You should be able to do anything you were doing before you got prego unless a dr tells you otherwise..
But thats just me!!!

Answer 2

Every pregnancy is different, as is every doctor. Some doctors strongly warn against many activities, even very early in pregnancy. I don't know the medical reasons, but a lot of lifting, especially heavier items, can put a strain on the body in areas a girl didn't realize she had muscles! I worked in a retail store during the first trimester of my pregnancy, and I had to move, lift, and store bicycles quite often. It feels completely different when you are pregnant.
The more exercise a person did before pregnancy, the longer they are able to continue normal tasks, usually. And in later pregnancy, of course, some doctors require bedrest for various reasons.

However, I don't think that the minute someone finds out they are pregnant, they should just assume to do absolutely nothing anymore, especially if they have a job. It's very important to continue or begin light exercise. It can help the pregnancy be more comfortable. But it isn't a crutch to get out of work. Many jobs can move you to a more suitable place temporarily, like a desk job. Others have ideas on how to keep you productive but in a way that is safe. (By the way, this was of course the global "you", not you the asker).
It's good to stay positive and not be depressed at any time, but doctors lately are pushing for everyone to stay happy and healthy during and after the baby, which may have something to do with your best friend's family, but not being left at home is a little extreme unless she was not doing well, I would think.

Society as a whole has gotten a lot lazier, especially compared to tribal times as you mentioned. It's unfortunate.

Answer 3

I know what you mean....to a point. But I'm 21 weeks pregnant, and there are some things that I do need help with now.

I CANNOT keep up the same schedule and everything that I did before, and feeling like I should is causing me serious stress and depression. It makes me feel like a bad person, and a bad mother - and just basically an inferior woman in general, because I'm struggling with feeling sick and tired and need so much more rest.

Of course, I get frustrated when people tell me, "You can't lift that, you're pregnant." Or something like that. But I do need some more understanding in this whole thing.

Answer 4

I am pregnant for the 2nd time, and work part time and take care of my 2 year old the rest of the time, so I have to do alot. I do try to avoid lifting heavy things though, because all doctors advise you dont do that for a variety of reasons when you are pregnant. For me, I am just trying to keep my little one as safe as possible while he's cooking in there. Also, most of us feel like crap when we are pregnant, so there's nothing wrong with getting a little pampered. The girl you mentioned at your work may already be having complications, or may have had a miscarriage so is being extremely careful this time. You really should try not to be too judgemental. When/If you decide to get pregnant one day you'll understand alot more. Oh.. and it's not called getting fat. It's a baby growing in there.

Answer 5

I can identify with your irritation. I have a very physical job, and my boss has already REPRIMANDED me for carrying boxes! The jerk wrote me up for doing a normal part of my job! I'm only 11 weeks pregnant, I barely have what can be called a belly, I'm not gonna break!

I have limited my carrying somewhat (I used to lift up to 100 lbs at a time, now I stay around the 50 lb mark), and people still freak out. Yet, they don't offer to help... I guess nagging is just more fun for these busybodies!

Answer 6

I am being really careful and not lifting heavy things etc but I miscarried my first so I wanna be really really careful cos I don't wanna do anything to put my baby at risk - it may seem silly to you but this baby is so precious to me I don't mind people waiting on me for a bit - that said I can be left on my own and i'm still working etc... maybe people go a bit extreme and over the top but they are probably just worried!

Answer 7

Everyone is different!!! You cant form an opinion based of off 2 people you know!! Me personally I do what I can until I'ved reached the point where I cant do anymore!!! You must not understand what women go through during their pregnancy and unless you knew someone personally back in "tribal times", then your point isn't valid!!!!

Answer 8

Way to generalize...That is completely NOT the norm.. you're co worker is just a lazy person, who will prob. gain an obscene amount of pregnancy weight. I moved my a** around when pregnant and I never felt like a porcelain doll, felt like I didn't have enough time in the day to relax.. Pregnancy doesn't cause people to be lazy, it's how they were before hand.

Answer 9

Why does every woman become a porcelain doll when they find out they're pregnant? because we are for one and thats how we feel .......i for one am not allowed to go anywhere myself because i,m high risk and my water could break at anytime ,people have there own opinions what does it matter to you?i do a lot of my work myself but i also know when a Dr tells me some thing i,m going to follow so i don't put my child in danger .now for women who are just plain lazy i agree with you

Answer 10

No, those cases are quite extreme. After 8 months though, I didn't want to do much of anything because my back hurt so so much.

Maybe those women you mentioned have a story you don't know - miscarriages or something. Maybe they're just very scared and want to keep their babies safe? I agree it's a little nuts what they're doing.. but its probably psychological rather than fulfilling a physical need.

Answer 11

I had complications with my first pregnancy so I did as little as I had to because the doctor told me to be careful. I had two m/c last year so that makes me even more nervous with this pregnancy. I can understand why people try to take it easy but I think they can take advantage of the situation too. I think you should enjoy the attention you get now because pregnancy is a wonderful thing!!