My husband kicked our 19 yr old son out after he said f---k you!?

Question

My son lost a 17.00 an hour job because he wouldn't get up for work about a month ago, my husband tolld me he told him to get the f--- up it was 10:30, he didn't need to sleep all day, my son said he told him to get his lazy a-- up. What do i do, i don't agree with my husband about how he talks to him and i don't think he should kick him out. HELP!!!

Answer 1

I know being a mom it would be hard to hear that or see him booted out. However, if it's the only way to teach him to be a responsible man then I'd see no other choice. Some people have their lazy days if ur son got fired over that then he had to of done it a couple times which would then make him irresponsible. I think ur husband is just trying to push him down the right path by being hard on him. It's a tough call.

Answer 2

Well if he has a $17.00 an hour job at 19, then I would say that's pretty awesome. I'm sure your husband, his dad (I'm assuming) is trying to help him be responsible, so he doesn't loose the job. Maybe he is going about it the wrong way, I don't know. But at 19 you should either be in college or start gaining some responsibility with employment. I don't know too many 19 year olds that have that kind of pay in a job and don't know too many jobs that would pay that rate to someone, unless it's a factory job like Toyota or something, unless he has skills or qualifications you didn't mention. In any case, I would maybe talk to your husband and figure out the core issues here. Not a whole lot of information here to give a good opinion.

Answer 3

I have a feeling that one day Dad didn't just decide to start calling the kid a lazy a**. And I have to beleive that he knows his son pretty well and he probably is a lazy a**. He is 19 and living at home, while working at a $17 an hour job. Dad probably got fed up with the kid thinking that he could work or not at his own choosing because he had a cushy life at home. Either school or work, or both. But not nothing, thats what it takes to stay at this dad's house.

Answer 4

your son is only showing the return leadership skills he learnd from your husband. To kick him out for his reply answer is childish on your husbands part. However the child should have been diciplined for his actions of disrespect for the husband. Also if your child lost a job like that because he would not go to work, something is going on with your son, Drugs, parties etc etc. your son shows lack of matureness there. First I would talk to your husband about establishing RESPECTFUL rules in the house and see if he would allow the son to come back pending a drug test. and sit down and explain both of the rules to each other and you be the mediator. Also if the son is spoiled it will be hard for him to keep a job because he knows that mom and dad will pay his way for him. Best of luck.

Answer 5

How can he kick him out for saying that when he speaks to him that way. Your husband is frustrated with your son because he is not being responsible. I'd give your son another chance but he does need to get out of bed and hold down a job. If he isn't in school any longer he needs to work full time and not expect to just lay about all day and have you support him.

Answer 6

Well you could hunt him down, change his dirty diaper, give him a good lunch, then tuck him into bed for a nappy...

OR YOU CAN BE A REAL PARENT AND KICK HIM OUT, MAKE HIM LEARN TO SUPPORT HIMSELF, AND STOP CODDLING HIM BECAUSE HE'S AN ADULT NOW!

Your husband is RIGHT to kick him out. He's being an ungrateful, spoiled brat (wonder how he got that way?).

Your child is not a baby anymore and if you keep backing your son instead of your husband you are going to end up divorced with your 40 year old son still at home with you!!!

Let your son grow up and learn to be a man. Back your husband on this and stand by him in his decision! He is trying to make your son a man... not keep him a little boy.

Answer 7

A parent should never swear at their kid or any other family member...however the 19 yr old is an adult and if he lost a decent job because he's too lazy or irresponsible to get up and get to work, then he doesn't deserve to sponge off his family.

Perhaps being on his own will make him grow up...but his father needs an attitude adjustment. Speaking to the kid in either way you mention, is unacceptable.

Answer 8

Unfortunately, this is the way oftodays youth in society. I dont condone the use of profanity by a parent to get his/her point across but on the other hand the majority of our youth has lost respect for authoritive figures, parents included, and thanks to modern music has learned vulgar words a normal way of talking to everyone. These kids have no sense of responsibilities to themselves or jobs or school and sometimes need a stiff upper hand to help understand life. Society needs to reinstill the duty of military service to our country to straighten most of these kids out. But once they become young adults, lifes hardest lessons never come easy but respect for their elders must never be forgotten or pay the price fr their actions. In your case,give both some time to cool off and see what happens, but it isnt always being a parent nowadays to these kids and takes every ounce of patience to deal with them and parents are only human apt to make mistakes and over react. God luck and Happy Holidays

Answer 9

I'd be waking that husband up at 3:00 in the morning and tell him get the f--k up, there's work to be done in this house and you need to get your lazy *** up and act like you have nothing better to do than sleep. If there was someway you could ask my ex, he would tell you that's exactly what I would do.

Answer 10

Is your son looking for another job? Your husband shouldn't be talking to his son like he did....no matter what....But your son needs to get another job if he is living with you.....or he will be a sponge for as long as you allow it....He is your son as well...your husband shouldn't have made the decision to kick your son out before talking with you.....