Many children think that they are very good to ther parents. But they never realize how many times they hurt ?

Question

Parents will never tell you, how you hurt them. Instead they forgive you all the time.

You think you are doing great. You think your parents don't knwo your weakpoints. Actually they don't tell, assuming that you will change one day.

Parents would never tell their children openly their faults.

It is their irresponsibility makes others to suffer.

When others try to address this issue, the children treat them like enemies.

Answer 1

By definition children are not fully formed and so are not responsible for all the consequences of their actions.

Children are uninformed, self centered mentally undeveloped monsters with raging hormones; barely sustained rage and a goal to strike out on their own to become individuals.

As a child grows up they start to worship their parents confusing them with gods, but for ever child there is a point called puberty when they become teenagers and become the enemies of their own parents. It happens and has been happening since the dawn of time.

Recent MRI studies and brain analysis of teenagers have shown that their judgment centers are undeveloped; they have some of the skills, all of the drive and little of the control. They are in a confusing world trying to understand complex social interactions when most people are insecure and unsure themselves. The result the default mode for most teenagers is for them to succeed by bringing down their piers. They don’t realize it is possible for a win-win situation. Instead they all feel that they are somehow inferior and to hide this they pick on and show weaknesses in others; using them as points of attack to drag the attention off of themselves and make themselves look better in the eyes of their fellows.

When a cat ‘plays’ with its prey it is considered cruel. To the cat it is practice and a way to sharpen their skills and rarely do they let the game go on for long. Teenagers are the cruelest creatures on earth with the unformed goal of destroying everything and everyone around them.

It is hard to raise children and most parents only get on the job experience with the only training their memory of how they were raised by their parents; a memory made hazy by their own childhood. This is one of the most important jobs in the world since we are raising the next generation and virtually no one doing it has the faintest idea of what they are doing.

Parents start off as near gods in their children’s eyes and over time that reputation and image tarnished and fads toward turning those parents into near enemies; with the often teenager response “You hate me!” I knife aimed right at the parents heart with a knife that is sharp and barbed like no other. The child knows it is a lie, but they are frustrated and lashing out in anger.

One of the worst lessons for parents to learn is that no matter what they do and know they can’t spare their children all pains of life and those children will make mistakes and refuse to profit from their parents guidance and experience. The child doesn’t need their parents pointing out their faults to them as much as offering solutions to correct them; even then they are not going to take their parents advice and can’t help lashing out at them.

One of the toughest issues in society is how to raise your own children. No two parents do it the same way and they resent any interference from society. In the US our awareness of child abuse has increased to the point that hitting your child in public is socially unacceptable. Sometimes a sharp correction is the only way to control them. I don’t advocate violence but parents need a little more freedom and supportive guidance in how to handle their children.

My dad had 3 kids and broke a yard stick on us when we were 5-6. He got scared and stopped hitting us and he still had strong discipline in his household. He was able to reason with us and correct us verbally. I was a good child but I have to admit one time he was forced to hit me because I was doing something stupid and careless. That was the exception though; I think he was a good parent and did a pretty good job, despite the tough going I had growing up. I was bulled a lot and had sheer hell in Grade and Intermediate school. It really didn’t get better until I was in the Army and off on my own and finally treated decently and as an adult. It was very odd to me and I had a few problems adjusting to it; because of my experiences as a child. My parents did the best they could do, but they couldn’t control others and they couldn’t control the bullying at school. I suffered because of it and I have problems that descend from it to this day, but I don’t hold my parents responsible for it; they tried their best.

I never thought of my parents as my enemies, but the last year in high school before I went to college was very tough and it seemed that my father and I could never talk without getting into an argument. He had a habit of talking AT me not TO and never WITH me. Mistakes were made on both sides and I was able to partially repair my relationship years later; but I was never as close to my father as an adult and it has hurt because now that he is dead I can’t repair that relationship.

Answer 2

I'm Sorry but many of the posters on here seem to have an average age of 14, so their attention span would be limited to read more than a paragraph in Teen text speak, don't take too much offence as Children would not know how to deal with such a situation anyway. I had a boyfriend whom I was with for 8 years. I always knew he had an interest in Trannies as when I first met him he had a deck of playing cards which had pictures of them on the top side, but it all became a bit of a joke, that he had a fascination, but would not want to ever actually be around a man with a Penis. Anyway, after returning from a holiday abroad with my Mother & Sister, I came back to his flat (we didn't live together) and for some reason I felt something was up. In his paper shredder basket were loads of sheets of shredded Yellow Pages, which I pieced together and found he had been looking up and circling the numbers of various Escorts. Anyway to cut a long story short, it transpired he was visiting Trannies for sex, whatever, I don't know, but I ended the relationship immediately. I think my situation was different to yours as you are in love with your husband, however, I wasn't and was at a point where I felt the relationship had run it's course. Now do you suspect your husband is Gay? Is he perhaps seeing these Transexuals because in his own warped way he is kidding himself they are Women even though he may not want a Woman? It's a difficult situation. I think you need to establish if he is actually Gay, which he possibly is but in denial. If you find he is then you can do one of two things, let him go to find what he really wants in life and move on yourself however hard it may be or you can come to an arrangement where you stay together but lead your separate lives, where you turn a blind eye to his activities. He might even change towards you in the sense of being warmer. You both need to talk about what is going on. It will be painful but I think getting it out into the open is the first step to acceptance on both sides. There is no easy way around it, but he needs to start being honest with you and himself.

Answer 3

Children ,generally , are not able to make sensible judgements as to what is right & what is wrong . WHY? Because they always want to do what they think is cool as persieved by friends (governed by peer pressure) & also they've got their own television & comic book heroes whom they love to immitate, whether they are good characters or bad ones. In any case children will always be children hence they need a special kind of parental guidence , care & attention.

Parents should on the other hand be sensitive to their children's needs & pay a lot of attention to sudden changes in behavior which might be sending a signal of a something that is not alright. Children neeed to be constantly encouraged when they are down just like adults do . They also need to be complimented when they do what they think is good (when they make a mistake during trial its not that they wanted to mess things up but that they wanted to please their parents) . Children also want to be listened to , to be appreciated , to be given positive compliments & above all - LOVED.

Every child's first & trusted teacher & councelor is the parent hence the need to make sure that the parent teaches & corrects their children in a manner that is as rational as possible .

Answer 4

Not all parents are like that. My parents tell me when they think that i am acting bad. And I change because they know me better than anyone. I think parents want their kids to be good and better citizens, so they openly tell them. The world around appreciate and just smile even if u do anything bad, but parents always find the faults in u and try to make u a better person every day. It is not because they don't like u, it because they Love u.

There might be parents like that. I don't know. But i speak from my knowledge about my personal life, and my parents aren't like that. But they trust me a lot and there are reasons behind it. And I hate to let them down. So whenever they tell me to do something or when they tell me that they don't like something about me, I don't get upset. Because they want the good out of me.

If there are parents who don't find the faults in their kids, I guess that those parent aren't a good enough. Because they are spoiling the kid.

Answer 5

I raised two daughters.....I was pretty open with them while they were growing into teenagers. If they hurt me emotionally I let them know it.....but ya know it only happened once. I think it is important for parents to talk with their children openly. How else will the child know. I loved my children unconditionally. Today, my children are adults & we have a wonderful closeness still. It is very important to love them unconditionally but be open with them.

Answer 6

Some parents can have their moments of honesty or anger and tell their children how they truly feel about their behaviour.
But forgiveness is natural with parents.

Answer 7

hey gentleman read this mail which i got some days back.........i hope u r talking about such a situation.......

>>>When you were 8 years old, your dad handed you an ice cream.
You thanked him by dripping it all over your lap.

>>>When you were 9 years old, he paid for piano lessons. You thanked him by never even bothering to practice.

>>>When you were 10 years old he drove you all day,from soccer to gymnastic toone birthday party after another.
You thanked him by jumping out of the car and never looking back.

>>>When you were 11 years old, he took you and your friends to the movies.
You thanked him by asking to sit in a different row.

>>>When you were 12 years old, he warned you not to watch certain TV shows.
You thanked him by waiting until he left the house.

>>>When you were 13, he suggested a haircut that was becoming.
You thanked him by telling him he had no taste.

>>>When you were 14, he paid for a month away at summer camp.
You thanked himby forgetting to write a single letter.

>>>When you were 15, he came home from work, looking for a hug.
You thanked him by having your bedroom door locked.

>>>When you were 16, he taught you how to drive his car.
You thanked him by taking it every chance you could.

>>>When you were 17, he was expecting an important call. You thanked him by being on the phone all night.

>>>When you were 18, he cried at your high school graduation.
You thanked him by staying out partying until dawn.

>>>When you were 19, he paid for your college tuition, drove you to campus carried your bags.
You thanked him by saying good-bye outside the dorm so
you wouldn't be embarrassed in front of your friends.

>>>When you were 25, he helped to pay for your wedding, and he cried and told you how deeply he loved you.
You thanked him by moving halfway across the country.

>>>When you were 50, he fell ill and needed you to take care of him.
You thanked him by reading about the burden parents become to their children.

>>>And then, one day, he quietly died.
And everything you never did came crashing down like thunder on YOUR HEART.

in this poem too the father never told the child n the boy took it for granted..........gentleman what i believe is whenever you take anything for granted you are always to regret or loose it..........but i never take my parents for granted........thanks too them n my god.........after all god's great

Answer 8

My Parents are pretty forward and open in their feelings....

I do realize when I hurt my parents... hats why I'll forgive them for saying something really mean (you know just saying it as it is)

Answer 9

My parents told me MY faults! In more ways than one

Answer 10

I don't understand the question because you can't express yourself in English properly: