I don't care if I'll lose 5 points but I really need to get you guys advice,
I used to have these 3 best friends, let's name them R,B and N, and we had been best firend from 1rst to 4th grade. When I was in 5th grade I got put in a different class from them because I took frenche as a second language and they took Arabic, When we found out we were in different classes we decided to meet in the recess break, for a few weeks, I was proud of my friends and showed them off to my classmates. But after a few weeks I just got you know sort of left out because they only used to talk about something in their own class, and whenever I started to talk about somebody or something in my own class they gave me THE LOST LOOK, I was hurt and decided to hang out with my classmates which were so much more immature than my former friends but so much more exciting... So when I started to hang out with them, I sort of felt guilty.is this right and can you give me some suggestions to stop feeling guilty
2007-12-16 01:30:19 · 12 answers · asked by Chaos Queen 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm really grateful for all of you who have sent the answers and those of you who still have questions in your head, you see they're not mean or anything and we still exchange hi's and hello's but it isn't the SAME, you know like it used to be, we're supposed to be BFFs but our friendship is falling apart. Apart from the qustion before, I have one more, Should I keep the friendship going. I'm not really satisfied with the answers even though some were brillliant. ( Thanks guys ) I'll make an offer, I promise to give the next ten GOOD
2007-12-16 02:05:54 · update #1
Sorry, I slipped, As I was saying the next ten good anwers I'll give you a thumbs up rating and ten points to the next one, come on is it that hard to type in an advice which could change my whole life? Write up, rught now
2007-12-16 02:08:00 · update #2
I've changed my mind, I've given every one of you a thumbs up rating, 10 points I'll be giving to....
2007-12-16 02:13:36 · update #3
No one else is giving answers so I'm giving the best answer now..
Congratulations...
2007-12-16 02:21:30 · update #4
You shouldn't feel guilty. You didn't do anything wrong. And your friends didn't either.
You and your friends are simply growing apart, which is what unfortunately happens when you and your friends start taking different paths in life. There are many things you can do:
*If you aren't passionate about learning French and your parents will allow it, switch to Arabic classes to be with your friends.
*Schedule regular time to hang out with your friends outside of school and talk about stuff that doesn't have anything to do with school (TV shows, movies, music, clothes, your families, etc.)
*Call your old friends every night. Talking to them on a daily basis can keep the friendship going.
*Cultivate friendships with the kids in your French class. You can never have too many friends.
Keep your head up, kid.
2007-12-16 01:39:44 · answer #1 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Making new friends is normal and healthy, but that doesn't make your old friends any less special. By the way, they're not slighting you. Before you all spent most of the day together so your experiences were common ones. Now you're somewhat removed from them so you're going to feel the gaps a bit...that's normal, too. Don't make a tragedy out of this: your world is expanding, and that's a good thing. Just learn how to navigate it well.
2007-12-16 01:39:34 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well theyre the ones that left u out first. u should not fell guilty for going and finding something that u could do beside sit there and let them talk about stuff u had no iedea about. and u sould ask them if your friendship is damaged or not. if it is well then move one. hope this helped.
2007-12-16 01:40:59 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah<33; 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they are your best friends.. if you still want to hang out with them, please talk another different topics. talk about the movies at the cinema right now, musics and so on and not about what you have learn or what they in the past few weeks or what.. unless, your story is so much fun..
no need to feel guilty as you are tormenting yourself with that feeling.. try to be positive, no stress and have fun.. lalala..
2007-12-16 01:39:45 · answer #4 · answered by Ryuzaki "L" The KiD 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you may get in a fight but the good part is.you will make up.because your former friends might realive how you feel when they talk about their classes.i got seperated from my BFF in 4th and 5th grade.now i am in middle school and we have everysingle class with each other.we are great friends. now i am sure that will happen to you.because miracles happen and mainly with your friends.
2007-12-16 01:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by gilly h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
friends and acquaintances will come and go... as life goes on... you have to get use to it. there will be some however.. that you will carry into your old age. do not worry.. or feel guilty.. our taste.. dislikes and interest change regularly and with that so do..our contacts. enjoy your new classmates. and be friendly when you run into the old ones.
2007-12-16 01:45:18 · answer #6 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they left you out first... you have no reason to feel guilty. ask them if being in that class is going to hurt your friendship and if it is then youll know you have the right to move on.
2007-12-16 01:35:30 · answer #7 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at your age, your going to find out that you change "best friends" often. its just part of growing up. it just means you have gone on to other things in your life that might not be as important to r.b. and n. as to you .your best bet is to quit stressing over it and enjoy life while your still young enough to enjoy it!
2007-12-16 01:58:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because some questions have no answers. People are trying to help you realize to stay the way u r and move on. Also, they do it for points.
2016-05-24 04:51:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with it, do not feel guilty. It sounds like they initiated the action.
2007-12-16 01:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by The 5 pound Robin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋