I'm 26. I have never been a leader in my life. I have never grabbed anything, an issue,a project or a problem by the scruff of the neck and said "hey lets get this sorted". Or led by example or shown initatiative. At school I was never selected for any sports. I never went in with a proper tackle in football. I just get through each day as a passenger.
I don't want this anymore..i want to command respect, step up to the plate and be recognised. but how?
2007-12-16 00:03:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
I have every sympathy with you - all my life I have been bullied and have felt worthless. However things can change and mine changed when I had a serious RTA 10 years or so ago. It suddenly dawned on me that no one actually has any different air than that which I breath. Does anyone have a special hot line to GOD that no one else has? No!
The fact is my friend that you are as good as anyone else and don't let anyone else belittle you - because no one has the right.
How do things change? Well you have to grab the bull by the horns and make a stand. When you don't sgree with something say so rather than just agree with everyone - different opinion count in this world and the majority aren't always right! There isn't any need to be rude despite what others may do, just state your case poiltely.
But before all you need to respect yourself! Get to the bottom of why you feel so 'low'.
2007-12-16 00:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by dabbit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem for ages, ever since near the end of primary school. The main problem was bullying and I lost motivation, it carried on until the early years of secondary school at which point I joined the Army Cadets, it helped me gain confidence because nobody knew me, everybody was pretty much the same. And from there the only way your confidence can go is up, so long as you learned and applied. I was then able to take this back and apply to the rest of my life.
So my advice would be get a new hobby with new people you don't know, change job, do some training and get a more authoritative position at work. Whatever, just something new, with different people.
2007-12-16 03:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The confidence you show will reflect the respect you get. The thing is to not be to over confident, nor to under confident. It's time as you said to step up and grab the bull by the nads, and show just what you have and are made of. If you show leadership you will be treated like the leader you are. If you give respect you will recieve it. Honesty is always the best policy, and I believe we have many good leaders out there, that just haven't done as you have done. Find one thing you are very good at and go from there, I assure you you will soon be in the leadership position, and when possible put your input and ideas in to action. Go get em! I'm rooyting for you! God Bless, and have a very Merry Christmas!
2007-12-16 01:53:17 · answer #3 · answered by mandm68 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read this:
Omg listen to yourself!!! What makes a 'real man?' In my book its someone who's confident, understanding and fair.. And you seem all of that. You've shown you're a real man by actually admitting this. The typical 'man' just goes around looking up girls, drinking and living a lazy, ignorant, **** life. Look at you - you want to improve. You're not some idiot who goes around accepting what's come to him and beats everyone up if they do something wrong, but you can actually think.
I'm sorry I know I've really gabbled on an on... but you're twice the man that most men are (and this is a man talking).
My tips: carry on being realistic with yourself, and wanting to improve. Carry on challenging yourself and progressively meeting your targets.
Sorry once again for talking a bit funny!!!
2007-12-16 14:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by ღ♥ღ latoya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking for anonymous people on a website to tell you how is a sign you're not there yet.
The only way to do something is to do it. So do it. Quit your job and go to Asia for a year. Write a novel. Skydive.
What are you most afraid of? Do that.
2007-12-16 00:07:50 · answer #5 · answered by relaxification 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well congrats on making this decision for yourself, it's the first part. I would suggest taking it one day at a time and to keep reminding yourself that you are someone and that you deserve respect. God bless!
2007-12-16 14:11:02 · answer #6 · answered by guy?needshelp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a set of balls and think about what you want and be determined to get it its you life and it will be what YOU make it
LIFES TO SHORT
you only live once
2007-12-16 07:45:00 · answer #7 · answered by Joe 90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make UP your MIND and follow it.
2007-12-16 00:18:14 · answer #8 · answered by jittender k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it, baby!
2007-12-16 10:52:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋