I stayed up all night crying. Is there any way to feel better or should I just give up on life?

Question

I am so sad right now. I went to the movies again yesterday and spoke some more with Brandon who works there. Everything was going well until the end, when I saw Brandon with a girl, presumably his girlfriend, talking, laughing, and then walking out of the cinema to his car. I was sitting on the bench in the lobby and he completely ignored me on his way out. I have had a crush on this guy for over a year and now I am completely crushed. One week after I found out his name and where he works, my heart gets ripped out and it hurts so bad. I haven't felt this bad since I was a freshman in high school, when this girl broke up with me to go out with a junior. Ever since then, I have distrusted girls, using them for one thing and one thing only. Over the past three-and-a-half years, I have also started to find some guys attractive... like maybe 1-5%, not enough to be officially classified as gay or bi.

Brandon was perfect in my eyes. So easy on the eyes, so polite and funny, and now I cannot stop thinking about him being with some ho! This sucks! I feel so bad right now and really want to die.

How can I get over what happened yesterday? Should I go to the movies next weekend and hope that his girlfriend is there again. If she is, I will tell her that I saw Brandon talking and flirting with other girls last weekend. Hopefully that causes her to break up with him... then *I* would have the last laugh!

Should I still try to become friends with Brandon and ask him if he wants to hang out with me sometime?

Answer 1

Well you changed into a santa suit and asked for a second time.

What was the question, I forgot?

Answer 2

Brandon is living his life , you are only a part of his life , his interest is not specifically with you , be happy for his good fortune in being able to attract so many people to his life , you would do well to reguard him as only a friend and put your love interests elsewhere, ( hunt a new friend ) females are very giving people who think about others before themselves , Only very few men are , I say stick with the persentages , Females have more to offer in the long run , and By the way , the best ones are looking for guys like you ... and don't be superficial ,,,pretty comes out of trying , and it's love that gives the abuility to see past the flaws that truely meen so little to the old man in the rocking chair ,

Answer 3

Sweetie, you just need to sit down and sort things out. Lables don't ,mean a thing. You are who you are. And whoever you find attractive is just that,who you find attractive. don't be afriad of being who you are. There are some things about yourself that you just can;t change. Maybe the best for you would be to take some time out and not worry about guys or girls. You need to be happy with you before you can be happy with someone else. Always remember, there are good people out there as well as bad, but we remember the bad more. It;s easier to focus on the negative. Try seeing the positives. I wish you the best of luck and don't forget who's most important in your life, you!

And by the way, ignore all the ignorant people who say mean things on here just because they are uncomfortable with their own sexual orientation or someone elses. There is nothing wrong with being different.

Answer 4

wow, honestly, you sound like quite a spiteful person.

chill out get some perpsective and Grow up.

Everyones been burnt by someone they loved or crushed on, whether they are bi, gay or straight. Just because this man isn't returning your affections, what gives you the right to ruin his relationship? (obviously the one he wants to be in) You would only end up shitting all over everything for all three parties involved, including yourself. If he was interested in you romantically he probably wouldn't be so interested in his girlfriend, and of course he probably wasn't going to aknowledge you in public. A person he met only a week earlier, loitering for him outside his workplace when hes with his date. Perhaps he doesn't swing that way, your just going to have to move on with your life. Or until he naturally ends his relationship with his girlfriend. As hard as it sounds - sometimes it can be hard for people like us to admit that some people has exclusive sexual preferences, and as much as we want them we know that it's not going to work our way. Also, i think your kidding yourself if you say you have been genuinly attracted to another man for over a year and havent accepted that perhaps you are bi.
p.s there are no official classifications, only what you feel :-)

also - don't give up, just be patient. Maybe he might just suprise you

Answer 5

You said that you would go to the girl and say that you saw Brandon flirting with other girls, is this true?

If it isn't true and you made it up to have your last laugh and he found out about it.. he would probably hate your guts and then you would have no chance whatsoever.

I think you have a man-crush on him, do you aspire to be like him or would you really do something with him homosexually?

Answer 6

from what i read ,i feel u should move on because ther is nothing there and nothing will become of u and brandon he doesnt even know of your feelings frist of all so u are getting upset for nothing stop doing that dont you put any more thought into this person find someone that you like and they know your alive and stop using persons for one thing start treating people like u want to be treated cause if u dont for some reason it will come back to u take care stop crying and stick to women

Answer 7

You have asked this question about 10 times or so? How do you spell "obsession"? Stalking someone is not attractive to others....and a PHD at that?? Hmmm...

If the guy is straight and likes women, then he is not going to "turn gay" and like another guy...or at least it is a far chance of that happening. Get over it, stop hurting women (they did nothing to harm you) and find a gay guy in a gay bar or in a personal ad in your area newspaper or in the personals at http://www.craigslist.org (click on your state and city).

Answer 8

Brandon is obviously not gay, so you probably have no chance with him. Umm it's a ;little creepy that you are gay, but you should probably not give up on life. Go to a gay pride parade and find someone there

Answer 9

ok you have had a weigh down and this person would not sense the comparable approximately you..many individuals have been right here and achieved this,Being straight away,gay or bi would not result that we are able to have crushes on ppl. by making use of going to the situation that this person works you're in basic terms goping to postpone the way you sense....for this reason making your self sense worse. A weigh down is that a weigh down once you sense for somebody who would not recipricate the comparable thoughts which you have.....wanting this guy to spilt up together with his female pal because of the fact which you sense he became into flirting with different women individuals aslo shows this could be a weigh down and by no ability love as we dont desire to stress ppl to love us yet we've compelled them to. additionally the fact which you're saying this guy is perfact on your eyes....additionally says that the sentiments at the instant are not fact. stay faraway from the guy and permit him have his existence till you could purely be a chum to him.

Answer 10

Doesn't sound like Brandon shares your "gay" ideas. So suck it up and move on. He proably wouldn't want you as a friend when he finds out what you really want from him.

Answer 11

Give up on causing trouble for other people and find yourself someone who shares your sexual orientation. Sounds like your your own worst enemy. I would say you are Bi, even though you don't think so. When you find your nitch in life, things will come together. Good luck!