Are you depressed right now?

Question

I am. I've been alone all weekend and only my son rang me.

Christmas is nearly here and I'm probably going to spend it alone again, with very little money.

I've been sick a lot in recent months but worked more hours than usual, so I'm run-down and tired.

Don't worry folks, I don't need advice, just someone to talk to.

(I've got my antidepressants on hand, I'm taking my multivitamins, and I know what to do.)

Thanks, Anthony. Are you offering? LOL (Unfortunately partners aren't that easy to find!)

Answer 1

And why don't you...? Ah, nevermind. I just read you didn't need advice.

Answer 2

I have been alone for several christmases, and yes, it's kind of depressing; I've been so poor that I haven't had food for days and days, and that's very depressing. At this time of year, there's this expectation that everyone be cheery; there's all this artificial joy that gets rubbed in the faces of those who are alone and unhappy. Just bear in mind that you're not alone and that sometimes the best thing to do is offer your services to those who have really hit bottom (serving up food at a shelter or visiting ill folks at a hospital). When my daughter was a teen and being ungrateful, that's exactly what I had her do. It's hard to feel hard done by when you're surrounded by people who call cardboard boxes "home." Where you are now, I've been, and maybe I'll be there again. None of us knows what's around the corner, so enjoy what you can now.

Answer 3

Sounds like you also need a rest. A Break even. Does your son know how you feel? Do you stay alone because you choose to or because you have nobody else around you?
See, reason i ask, is because i too suffer from depression, and even though i stay at home with my mum a lot, i choose not to go out. I had a friend staying over this weekend and she feels the same, so we just hang out here, having a few drinks and in our pj's. And trust me, we have fun. Yet, my other friend is a party animal and she keeps on inviting me out and i always lie because i don't think she understands.
If you are alone because you have nobody around, maybe you should consider getting involved in something that will make you feel better or finding new friends. The internet is a great source.
Email me if you wanna chat.

Answer 4

From one Z to another, I hope that your bout with depression will soon be over. The Holiday season is notorious for making people feel depressed, even those who are otherwise healthy (not usually depressed). I have pasted an article I came across. Another thing that keeps me grounded is knowing that there are people out there who are always worse off than me. Be thankful for your health, your friends, and that you have a choice. You are not alone.

Its not all lip service either. I have reasons to be depressed, but choose not to be. On Tuesday, I have appointment with an Ob/Gyn Oncologist, because my Ob/Gyn found a complex mass near my cervix. What is ironic is I am a mother of three nursed children and only 30 years old. Not a typical candidate for cervical cancer. And all this is happening while I am in the process of retaining an attorney to file for bankruptcy. But I choose not think about it. I hope you have a better time soon and try to make plans, other than staying at home for Christmas. Maybe being around other women who are in the same situation? Or finding a support group in your community? Also why not try to take classes at your local rec center in the evenings? One of my co workers lost her husband a year ago (he was battling a nervous disease for the last 10 years that he finally succumbed to). She is 48 and has a 14 year old son. Her mother is very ill and she looks after her as well. However, she makes the time to take dance classes at her local rec center and is trying to reinvent herself. She has many reasons to be depressed, but she chose not to. She looks vibrant and is full of life, but again I reiterate its a choice. Anyways, I will keep you in my thoughts this season and hope that you will be much better VERY soon. God Bless!

Answer 5

I was feeling really terrible over the last week or so, for no real reason.
Have had major depression for many years and am on Paxil for life.
As long as the depression is reasonably well controlled with the meds, I can function just like a normal human being in society(lol) otherwise I'd be catatonic or dead.
Sometimes I get blue when there's no one to talk to as well, I just love connecting with people, so know how you're feeling and will send you an email :D
There's no joy in finding out that there are other people with this illness, as I know how painful it is emotionally and mentally, but in a way I'm glad that I'm not the only one here. :)

Answer 6

Shortly after my first divorce when my kids were like 7 and 10, I had no plans for Thanksgiving and I wasn't about to cook a huge meal so the three of us went to a diner for our Thanksgiving dinner. We were the only ones there and it was so depressing I realized then, that I had to change my attitude. That experience made me realize holidays are just regular days all dressed up - they're not more important than that and I vowed NEVER to get blue or feel sorry for myself again when I find myself alone on a holiday. And I haven't. It's just another day that I can do whatever I choose to do - even it's only a whole lot of nuttin' ~

Answer 7

You're not alone. I go through phases of depression also and have, the majority of my life. It's just that I recognize the signs better now and know how to handle it once it arrives. It's been somewhat of a sad day for me today too, but I patiently just allow it to pass and try to stay positive. Usually, reading a book, working out, helping others or allowing myself to just rest, speed up the passing process.

I have gone through some serious poor times too, being overworked and underpaid, but always reminded myself that I have food to eat, clean water and a roof over my head :) I try to focus on what I have more than what I don't have...so in times like these, I just write down the positives that I often seem to forget.

I may be a stranger but since I know the pain of depression and hate to know others are going through it, I do care. If you need to talk, I'd love to exchange emails with you. Sometimes human connection and knowing that we are not alone make all the difference :)

EDIT: You have mail.

Answer 8

To be honest, I get depressed thinking about Christmas just because I have two jobs and still have no money to buy gifts for my children or my grandchildren. It used to be a really big holiday at our home, but the last 7 years have been very bad. I know it is my poor choice for a husband that caused alot of my financial problems, and I think about it often this time of the year, but for the most part I have been in really good spirits. I hope things go well with you.

Answer 9

I'm very depressed right now. I just got back from this party with my wife. We left because I was so quite and my wife started crying and we had to leave. It was really bad. I'm a shy and introverted guy and she put me on the spot and I felt like she ridiculed me so I was rude to all her close friends by being quite.

I don't know what to do. I used to be such a loner with a very low self esteem. I'm still a loner except I have a wife. I miss my misery and loneliness. I don't know what's going on. Maybe i'm too drunk right now but we have problems. Sometimes i wish i was a loner again so i could do drugs and die some how. I think you should be happy because you're so alone. I don't know though. Maybe it's not good. To me, life is hell.

Answer 10

I'm depressed because I got into an accident and badly smashed the other guy's bus. I'm sorry that you will be alone at Christmas though, and although you didn't seek advice, couldn't you try to get a partner? Christmas should be so much a time to spend with someone you love. Good luck.

Answer 11

dont be sad especially over the xmas season...i know i have been as well but its not a good place to be... as it affects everyone around you...
im not working at all right now and feel like a failure and i feel old too.
i have too much experience in one profession and not enough in anything else... so getting work has been harder latley...
i was working in one factory and because the superviser was only about 29 yrs old and has held her job for 10 yrs she made me feel like crap because i didnt fit in to the lot of them as i do not do drugs ,drink or smoke and they all did... and they were all younger than be by 15-20 yrs... i did my job well but i just didnt fit in with their group, so she had me sacked after 2 weeks and a day. if i had been hiired for the 1st shift it would have been better as the ladys on that shift were older and more mature and understood where i was comming from.... i dont have any vices to fall back on so i am stuck with my self and sometimes hurting my husbands feelings as well as my daughters cause i have no way to vent....
i cant stand not working steady and i dont want to be home all the time eather... house hold chours have become a pain in the butt because as soon as i detail something my husband and my daughter come in and trash it so whats the point....
any way i feel a bit better now thanks
cheers
jo
ps im sorry i vented on you all... i was supposed to help Z...
sorry