My girlfriend has threatened to get a restraining order against me if I tell her Dad she is on Crystal Meth?

Question

My drug addict girlfriend ( I just found out last week) has threatened to get a restraining order on me if I reveal to her father that she is addicted to crystal meth. Everyone I talked to says I should let her family know. If she was to die, and no one warned them what she was up to, I would feel terrible. Is there a way to explain to law enforcement that I have done nothing to deserve an order against me, I was just trying to get her help? If she does get one, how do I go about having it removed?

She is an adult. 29, not a minor

Answer 1

come on man, be realistic. there is no way that this girl is going to get a restraining order against you. Its not lke you just go line up for them at Wal-mart. There has to be a valid reason. Tell her daddy, let her throw a hissy fit.

Answer 2

She can't just get a restraining order against you. She has to have a reason in order for a judge to issue the restraining order. Most meth addicts will not willingly put themselves in contact with the court system/law enforcement. I think she is just bluffing, but even if she did try to have an order issued- so what? She needs help. Let her family know, for that matter let law enforcement know. Most meth addicts do not seek treatment until AFTER they have been arrested and ordered to attend treatment by the court system. Even then meth addiction recovery is extremely difficult. A drug like meth is so insideous you have no time to waste!

Answer 3

The message that is important you take away from this is. 1. You did not cause this. This is not on you. Don't beat your self up over this. Sit down with your mom. Hold her hand, look into her heart, and tell her you and she will be fine. Together you two can get through this. If you need additional help. There are numerous faith based help groups that can work with you. 2. Legally as far as the R.O. is concerned. Not much you can do. Possibly have your friends computer hard drive accessed to show were the information originated from. If this is borne out. You can get the R.O removed off of her. and A clean bill from the Justice system. You and your mome need to be on the same page from now on. Truth, honesty, and and a great bond to get by this. Do well in school. Work extra hard around the house. give you mom all the support she can handle. When all is said and done. You only have your character, honor, and dignity, to carry on into life. Yours seems to be very well on its way to being intact. Best of luck. walk in peace.

Answer 4

I don't know what state you live in, but here in California, it is fairly easy to get a restraining order especially for a woman. I would contact the PD prior to doing anything, and get a recommendation from them.

As far as not knowing that she was addicted to meth, particularly crystal, I really don't understand that one. Unusual eating patterns, unusual sleep patterns, agitation, etc.

I wish you the best of luck because meth is an epidemic, and a resolution to this epidemic is not coming in the near future:-(

NOTE: FYI I am a former Meth addict, been clean now almost 8 years:-)

Answer 5

Buddy, a restraining order keeping you far away from her might very well be in your best interests. You probably feel like you've got a lot of time and love invested in this woman. Some enforced time away from her might give you the chance to re-evaluate the idea of having a meth-addicted girlfriend and give you the chance to see that there are plenty of other women out there who aren't addicted to meth.

But, hey, it is your life...

Answer 6

ok well the FIRST THING i would do is dump her like a bad dream, the WORST kind of person to be mixed up with is a meth head, take it from someone who knows, they r completly beyond reasoning and humane logic, im sorry if u care about her but the hard truth is shes pretty much gone you cant save her worry about saving yourself because once you get wrapped ip in the cycle of someone elses addiction, its like trying to find your way out of a spider web, and thats not over dramazised at all, you cant help someone who doesnt want it she has to want it for herself, and thats the hardest thing for an addict the upside is if she does get a restraining order on u for telling her family at least they will know your intentions, and the restraining order wont apply to them only to her. i know this is a huge shock but its so serious and your best bet is to leave the seen completely. good luck, im really sorry for that

Answer 7

Would you rather see your girlfriend in the Funeral Home as this is what is going to happen if you don't intervene. I'm sure her father loves her and would act on your information to see if he can get her to get help. A restraining order is nothing compared with the anguish you would have to live through if you did nothing and enable it to continue. She in the end will have to want to deal with the meth problem but hopefully with your support and that of her family it may happen. Good luck..

Answer 8

Well, that is a tough question. Since courts now issue temporary restraining orders (that are on your permanent record), for about 10 days, you can rat her out to help her, and then explain yourself in court. You can, prior to the hearing, file a motion to remove this from your record. Your GF will need some very strong evidence. Maybe if you tell her parents about what her plans are, they will back you up. Or, break up with her, say nothing, and move on with your life.

Answer 9

I don't care if she is 40 years old crystal meth isn't something to play with you need to get her some help and if she wont take it tell her father. The restraining order will stand until you tale to the Judge maybe he can overturn it good luck

Answer 10

She should realize that she has a great boyfriend that cares for her. Try to talk to her n explain everything. Do whats best for her, she 'll appreciate it in the long run. Get her help, stay by her side. About the restraining order, forget it you are not doing anything wrong she is. Good luck!! Best wishes!!