I am 34 and have two beautiful children 9 and 8 and I recently fell pregnant with my third. Unfortunately I had a miscarriage a few weeks ago.
From the response I got from a male friend of ours was that we are both too old for another child. My husband and I wish to try again. So I just want to know is there anyone around the same age pregnant or trying to concieve?? If so have you recieved any negative comments due to your age or have you had any problems concieving etc.
2007-12-15 15:58:40 · 13 answers · asked by arnie 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
me !! I am 39 and trying and I get negative remarks too I stay quiet becaust i can t believe people voice their opinion on something so personal!@Good luck to you!
2007-12-15 16:06:07 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Blessed 3 times ♥ 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, many people are insensitive and often do not know what they are talking about. 34 is young. There is no reason why you can not have another baby. It is true that once a women is 35 or older that the rate of miscarriage increases and that it may take longer to conceive. But this does not mean that you can't have a healthy baby. It just means you have to be more patient.
I am terribly sorry for your loss and also very sorry that you have to endure hurtful comments from others. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-12-16 16:34:17 · answer #2 · answered by Rene A 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When in the world did 34 get to be too old, are you kidding me? Lot's of women are waiting until their 30's to even start and a good amount of women are waiting until their late 30's early 40's....age in all relative. If you are healthy and have good hormones then you should give it a try. There is never a guarantee of success at any age, many of the supposed young and fertile have difficulties.
I'm sorry you had a miscarriage, that can't be easy but with two successful pregnancies behind you, if you and your partner feel the urge to try for another, I bet you can do it.
Good luck..baby dust to you!!
43 and just now ttc #1
2007-12-16 01:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by ~Just 1 good egg~ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry about your miscarriage. While it's true that fertility declines with age, 34 is not over the hill.
I'm 37 and got pregnant easily. I haven't received any negative comments, just congratulations.
Some women your age struggle with infertility, but most have never had a child. The fact that you have 2 is a very good sign.
I highly recommend a board on "the nest" called "TTC over 35." The women are very supportive.
2007-12-16 01:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by Judy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mother had my youngest brother at 36 and my partners mother had her in her early forties. So at 34 you are still young enough to have a child, but this child will be like an only child with the other 2 so much older my partner's siblings were 8 and 9 when she was born and she has never felt close to them and my brothers are 11 and 13 years younger than me and I don't feel we have anything in common either.
2007-12-16 00:52:53 · answer #5 · answered by colin b 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
34 too old, are you kidding me? Your male friend could use some manners.
Women are having babies at 50 these days. It's a personal decision. If you feel 34 is too old for you to start over again, that's your choice... but don't let someone ELSE tell you that.
You and your husband should do whatever your hearts are telling you to do.
Good luck.
2007-12-16 01:23:12 · answer #6 · answered by ღ†Rocker Wife†ღ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 25 & feel like you should follow your heart! If you desire another child I would go for it. I don't know why people are so rude to say that you are too old. Many people are having babies into their 40's now. Your 8 & 9 year old are the perfect age to be your "big helpers." I wish you the best!!!
2007-12-16 00:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by QTpie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can definitely conceive. My mom got pregnant at 39 and had a miscarriage, but soon after she fell pregnant again and had my brother at 40 years old. Two years later she got pregnant with me at 42 years old. We are both very healthy and she had no complications during pregnancy. Hope this helps! I wish you luck!!!
2007-12-16 00:04:42 · answer #8 · answered by Lindsey L 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yu should have out your frined at his place, he did cross the friendship boundry it is not his business
and your age or your pregnancy concern only you & your husband so next time tell your friend(s) it is not a matter of discussion
and no you have not reach the age for you to have children
I am 38 and happily pregnant my husband acutaully want another one after that
2007-12-16 07:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that your age is fine to be TTC. I am 30 and trying for my 2nd. My mother had me at 40 and my sister just had her fourth child at 35. If you feel good enough to have another child than go for it.
Good luck to you!
2007-12-16 00:47:09 · answer #10 · answered by lilmkymse 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, gosh no! I was 39 when my daughter was born. Lots of women have babies into their 40's. The 'friend' who thinks you're too old is ignorant.
2007-12-16 01:21:14 · answer #11 · answered by daa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋