How do you release bottled up sadness without having to tell people?

Question

over the last year and a half i have had 4 deaths in my family my best friend move away lost a great boyfriend and now my mom found out she has the stage before cancer and i have to be strong so do yall have any advice?

Answer 1

Well, personally, I pray about it and I keep a journal, but I write it as if I'm talking to my best friend. I cry a lot too late at night when no one is watching because it's a release for me.
Just remember, everyone has a breaking point and it's ok if you're not strong 100% of the time...you're only human afterall.

good luck!

Answer 2

You might want to talk to a councilor or minister about this. Otherwise, try writing, art or music. Many talented people were emotionally troubled. After you are rich and famous you can get treatment. Repressing your emotions can cause a lot of problems with your mental and physical health. There are no trivial emotions.

Answer 3

Turn to music (listening, making your own), getting involved in art, keep a journal etc. It depends on what kind of releases you used before. Those are things I do. It's not the same as being able to express it to people but it is a release.
I am very sorry for your losses and for your mother's condition.

Answer 4

If you're religious, pray. What I sometimes do is write a long letter and rip it up or burn it so no one sees it. It releases a lot of emotions for me when I'm angry or sad.

I'm sorry for everything that's been going on. I hope you feel better.

Answer 5

The answers above me are really great suggestions, ones that I (and probably everyone else) do.

Make sure that when you vent, you DO NOT do it in a harmful, destructive way towards yourself or others. Keep a journal with you and write down thoughts and feelings. Pray (if you're religious), but I highly recommend talking to a very well-trusted person.

It's best to get your feelings out and not bottle them up, or else you may lash out drastically on yourself or others. Once you actually get your feelings out, which you pretty much have by asking this question, it will make you feel much better, and you can have someone to confide in. Just remember, people can't read your mind and sometimes they won't really know what's wrong. That's why, in my opinion, it's best to talk to someone.

I hope this helps and stay strong!!

Answer 6

Try writing a journal. I like doing this myself. I write down everything down that is on my mind. Sometimes very good, sometimes very bad and I get it all out of my system. And sometimes if its something I really have a hard time dealing with I will write all my thoughts down and then rip up the paper and throw it away. That way Only me and the pen know what I wrote. Or you can try going somewhere alone and quiet and try talking to god or who ever it is you believe in. spill it all out...keep talking till you cry. Let every thought come out of your mouth. Don't hold back even if it is anger, pain, sadness, or whatever....just let it out. Good luck I hope this helps. And remember that "this to shall pass"

Answer 7

all that you are going through now will make you a stronger person a lot of what you are saying i can relate to you have to remain strong. such is life ,yes sometimes its so tough you think yo can,t take it , but carry on and the benefits will manifest themselves.

Answer 8

Why do you feel the need to be strong?
Sounds like a really crappy year hon. I would let myself be myself, if you give comfort to others then you should allow them the benefit of giving comfort to you. In not allowing others to support you, you are robbing them of a truly amazing gift, namely to help another person who desperately needs some TLC.
Let your walls down and let others in, when they help you they will forget their own heartache for a time and that in itself is healing for them.
Be brave and show your pain, it will stop any greater problems later health wise if you release it now.

Love to you all.

Answer 9

*hugs*

Well, you could write emails (about your fears, worries, etc.) and send them to yourself if you feel like you have to send them somewhere. Or write in a journal.

You could make use of any creative talent you have, by composing poems or stories or drawing.

Doing something physically engaging (ex. jogging, working out, etc.) might also help take your mind off of matters that are stressing you out.

Doing something slow and soothing (ex. taking a hot bath with bath oil or bubbles, curling up under a comforter with hot cocoa and a good book, etc.); basically, doing whatever makes you feel taken care of and comforted.

Aromatherapy (ex. lavender is used for depression and stress; light sweet-smelling incense may help)

Listening to soothing music

Making a tray of special treats and tucking yourself into bed with it and watching TV or reading a good book

If nothing seems to be working, you could write to the Samaritans. (www.samaritans.org/).

I think that if you're feeling sad, you should tell someone. But if you really don't want to, it's your choice. Take care of yourself, please.

~windy days

EDIT:

As someone else pointed out, crying also releases sadness, stress, or anger.

Answer 10

You just did. The Will is positive, the Judgment is negative and we all have our burdens great and small. I just have a breakdown and then recover. There is no perfection. Work hard and use all that energy that wants to blow out of you, make good and know you are human.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abraham_Maslow


'Maslow postulated that needs are arranged in a hierarchy in terms of their potency. Although all needs are instinctive, some are more powerful than others. The lower the need is in the pyramid, the more powerful it is. The higher the need is in the pyramid, the weaker and more distinctly human it is. The lower, or basic, needs on the pyramid are similar to those possessed by non-human animals, but only humans possess the higher needs.

The first four layers of the pyramid are what Maslow called "deficiency needs" or "D-needs:" the individual does not feel anything if they are met, but feels anxious if they are not met..... Needs beyond the D-needs are "growth needs," "being values," or "B-needs." When fulfilled, they do not go away; rather, they motivate further.

The base of the pyramid is formed by the physiological needs, including the biological requirements for food, water, air, and sleep.

Once the physiological needs are met, an individual can concentrate on the second level, the need for safety and security. Included here are the needs for structure, order, security, and predictability.

The third level is the need for love and belonging. Included here are the needs for friends and companions, a supportive family, identification with a group, and an intimate relationship.

The fourth level is the esteem needs. This group of needs requires both recognition from other people that results in feelings of prestige, acceptance, and status, and self-esteem that results in feelings of adequacy, competence, and confidence. Lack of satisfaction of the esteem needs results in discouragement and feelings of inferiority.

Finally, self-actualization sits at the apex of the original pyramid.
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