New trend of people getting married and having kids with people they barely know?

Question

I'm wondering if anyone else has noticed this, or if it just seems to be happening around my neck of the woods.

My friend told me he was going to go see a friend he hadn't seen in 6 months. Back then, the guy was going through a breakup, so he was anxious to see if he was feeling better. Well- surprise!- turns out he's now married to a new girl, and they have a baby on the way. All in 6 months.

I myself can think of about 4 people I personally know who have either married, or become pregnant, or both, with someone they've known for 6 months or less, and everyone seems to be talking about how this is happening a lot.

Has anyone else noticed this? And if so, any theories as to why this is happening?

Answer 1

I've definitely noticed, I think it would partially explain the high divorce rates, people are in such a rush to marry, they barely get to know who they marry, before taking the vows.

As for actual reason, society places such emphasis on relationships, that if you aren't in a relationship, something is presumably wrong with you. I think a lot of young people have insecurity about their relationships, so they try to solidify them through marriage.

Answer 2

How sad that they're not taking the time, married or single, to get to know each other before they have children. How very sad.

I cannot say this is a phenomena I've noticed, but then I'm not close to the people who might. My stepson (age 20) has a girlfriend but does not seem to be interested in marrying her just yet, thank God.

Answer 3

I saw it on The Hills (which I only watch so I can make fun of it, not because I like it). A 20-year-old guy, who has gained notariety as a player and a drunk, proposed to his 19-year-old girlfriend after only seven months of dating. They'll be getting married after she finishes college in two years. The way I see it, they just want to get marriage out of the way so they can focus on whatever other ambitions they have. (Apparently this girl is a tennis star. She probably wouldn't have time to find a husband while on the pro circuit, so she's taking care of it now.)

Answer 4

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Answer 5

My grandfather proposed to my grandmother the night he met her, and 3 months later they were married. Nine months after they met, they had my uncle. This was in 1947.

People have been making questionable decisions since the dawn of man. It's nothing new.

And Rio, I find it hilarious how you added parenthetically that you only watch The Hills to make fun of it. My best friend and I would sit on the phone with each other and watch shows like that when had cable just to make fun of it, and because we are utterly fascinated at how people behave. It's almost like observing a sociological and psychological experience.

Answer 6

Sorry ,no theories here,but me and my husband moved in together the day after our first date. Were married four months later, got pregnant 2 months later, and are still happily married, three years later. Of course we had known each other only four months prior to that first date. But we just knew we were right for each other, never been happier with anyone in my life! My ex I dated forever and married and knew nothing about.each other,that's why we are no longer together! It's just Fate or chemistry or something..........:-)

Answer 7

Yes. I had a friend (29) who was far from Christian. It seemed over night she becalmed very devote to a church and in love with a 19 year old virgin who promised his virginity to her after they were married. Their wedding date was just 5 months after they met.

Answer 8

actually, i've noticed a ton of people having babies without getting married. personally, your trend is more appealing. do people just know they're right for each other, or do they just want to have sex and they know that it's not as big of a deal anymore? it's definitely alarming.

Answer 9

I married both of my husbands barely knowing them. The first we're divorced cause our caring for each other wasn't quite enough. The second we were barely married a month or so and I got pregnant; we're still married; have been for the past23 yrs.**I have no theories as to why it happens; for me when the person is right I just dive in. The adventure is in getting to know the person and rising to meet the challenges as they come; got to meet those challenges head on - have the take the bull by the horns attitude.**Yep just as I thought my marriage isn't suppose to be happy I'm suppose to be miserable and oh so oppressed; oh dear me -- whoops I can't do it; that miserable thing you know - just don't have it in me.

Answer 10

That's not really a new trend. In countries where arranged marriages are common, people who barely know each other get married all the time.