I dated my husband 11 years and I've been married for 5. Sometimes a think I finally earned her respect and some other times I'm like... man! I still have a loooong way!
Why are they like this? What's the reason?
2007-12-15 14:42:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They are overprotective? Can be controlling just in general....and may feel like you were not the person that they wanted for him..who knows...some people are never happY!!!!
Good luck to you...let her see how much you love her son, should bring her around one day!!!
Thank her for the wonderful son she raised and watch things begin to turn!!!
2007-12-15 14:55:37 · answer #1 · answered by InquiringMind 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you have kids you'll understand ( if you're not a parent already ). I think most of the time it's the bond that the mother & son always had, and that bond usually becomes broken, or "loosened" when the son marries a woman and starts sharing his life with hers. Sometimes, the mother in law is just a royal ***** either way though.
2007-12-15 22:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by Megan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Respect? You're both adults, and if the respect isn't mutual, the relationship is doomed... You are not beneath her in any way!
Try setting some personal boundaries, hon... that way, you won't have to worry about "why?" .... but just live your life as you see fit...
you can do a yahoo search on setting personal boundaries for more info.
take care!!
2007-12-15 23:16:47 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people don't have the skills they need to communicate and/or learn how to put themselves in other people's shoes. Add the dynamic of "stealing" their little boy or girl away that they used to take care of, and it's a recipe for disaster.
What I finally had to do was limit the amount of time that I allow our family to spend with my in-laws and they come HERE so we can control the environment. They know that if they want to see us and see their grandkids, they are going to need to be on their best behavior.
2007-12-15 22:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i wish I had the answer!!! My MIL is the same way. I do not understand her and have just accepted that this is how she is! I think part of it is that she just does not think i am good enough for her son. She has four boys and treats all of the wives equaly bad, so i do not think that it is ME necessarily. I just don't do thinkgs her way and she really does not like that!
Good luck. Just take a deep breath!
2007-12-15 22:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by trillian880 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother-in-law may be koo-koo. Just get along with her and forget about earning her respect. She is probably just a negative person and she treats many people poorly.
Your husband should say something to his mother if he witnesses her being mean for no reason.
2007-12-15 22:48:41 · answer #6 · answered by mom 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's something about getting married and starting your own life that really ticks off the controlling types.
Now my MIL and I were fine until my wife and I had kids. Then my wife couldn't do anything right, we going to screw up the kid, etc. etc.
Finally I just slammed the door on that BS. Access to grandchildren is an extremely potent form of control.
2007-12-15 22:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Some mothers just think that no one is ever good enough for their child. Yes, I think they are crazy, but it will never ever change. Just act like you give a crap, don't talk about it with your hubby, and live on with your life
2007-12-15 22:55:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually have a wonderful mother-in-law, but it is b/c she respects us. My husband has a mother-in-law from hell and it is b/c she thinks she can do everything better. My mother-in law comes to visit for a month every year. His mother-in-law hasn't been welcome in our house in 8 years, and she has missed a lot. It comes down to control issues and how willing your husband is to enforce boundaries.
2007-12-15 22:48:09 · answer #9 · answered by leikelapacific 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
they just think that their sons are their property, and they are soooo wrong! sometimes it seems like they enjoy making us daughter-in-laws suffer! i understand u! my mother-in law is the worst person on earth but infront of his eyes shes the best ! grrrr
2007-12-16 09:08:07 · answer #10 · answered by ♥*´`*•. mommy♥*´`*•. 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋