Is a too much creative thinking and Paranoia isolating me?

Question

I so annoyed with myself and the place I live today!
I don't speak korean, Im living in a buddhist martial arts temple here and I feel alone, ignored, akward, crappy, edgey.
It may well be all my thinking thats created this bubble of wierdness that I feel when Im around some of the people here. I feel like they don't like me, don't involve me in anything, feel akward around me...even the ones who speak perfectly good english.
I feel miserable, I want to smile and be happy and perky but whenever I see the people(higher level than me) I feel akward and dont know what to say or do..i wan t to join them but feel inadequit. I feel like Im being moody all the time and isolating myself but no one seems to really care very much.
I want to just get up tomorrow morning with a smile, get on with my own things smiling, smile at anyone else and not keep thinking they're thinking horrible things about me. But I feel angry with them and have hateful feelings toward at least one of them. HELP!

Answer 1

Get up with a smile tomorrow, and constantly think to yourself..they are human just like me, they aren't perfect and neither am I...Keep smiling and make an effort to make friends.

Answer 2

I can't really know how to answer, because I'm not there, but I wonder if you are accidentally mixing your identity as a person with your ability to practice at a high level.

As a person, you are equal to any one, regardless. As a marital arts practitioner, you may be of far less skill (at this moment) than other practitioners. Don't confuse these two sentences.

Also, remember that the great masters were at one time at the same skill level as you. The great masters were OK with being at your level, that's why that got better. Just accept your current level, even if its lower than the others, from there you can improve. The practitioners at the high level know this, because they have been there. Its OK, start where you are. Yo may find that they are there to help you, if you are willing to accept.

Answer 3

all these answers are great, the only thing i can add, isstay with the exercise, it makes you feel good and makes you feel happy (literally!). think, how many other ppl would love to be in your position. enjoy it. make the MOST of it.
whenever i find myself in a similar mental situation i'm always thinking of the negatives... but ive learnt, well hey, im not in trouble and i really dont have anything to complain about. there are lots of pl worse off than i am! if say im conflicting over what to get myself for christmas i think, omg why am i even thinking about it??! some ppl wont even get a present...

+ i think in every place u go every society u will have certain ppl u dislike. learn to live with them. make a friend or two. it may just be you creating all this for yourself..
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read a few buddhist sayings...
and i know that for a fact, if you're one to beleive in their life philosophy, they teach you to not be affected by any event good or bad, mainly because we act very diferently in those situations and often cause more trouble for ourselves in the meentime...
just stop and think about ur situation. think about all the outwaying positives. think about your goals, and how to get them. ask people questions, i think if u keep asking to be countedin they mght get used to it! good luck on your adventure

Answer 4

OK Wallrunner living moodily in a Korean Martial Arts Temple; Let me digest your situation for a moment.....
I've never personally been in your particular situation. However, You have a unique oppertunity to experience a totally different culture and philosiphy, Make the best of it. Learn from the situation. Try Bulgagi, korean pepper steak. it's gooooood! Merry Christmas Wallrunner..KTnTexas

Answer 5

This technique breeds positive thought within yourself, makes you believe something is true so it releases the actions to create these thoughts and make them come true.

When you wake up in the morning say over and over to yourself really try and believe it, also picture in your mind what it is you want to to become:

I am happy
Today is a good day
I am smiling
I am cared about
Other People are great
etc..... etc.....

Think of others for yourself that fit your current situation, all you have to do is say it in a sentance that implies it is true and is now, don't say i will be happy today or i can be or i am going to be as this implies that it hasn't happened yet.

Answer 6

OK friend, first thing first. When you want it to stop you will make it stop.
I know all about being in an isolated community as I live in Thailand and have just spent 6 weeks in my wife's village where they speak one word of English 'Hot'.
My isolation is made greater by my lazyness not to learn Thai. So it is my own fault.
Now down to business, You will either belive this or not, it is up to you.
We feel what we allow ourselves to feel, you either indulge the heartache or you choose to say to yourself 'Bollocks to this crappy feeling, this is a brilliant life experience for me, and I will thrive and make new friends and make mistakes and enjoy it all. To hell with feeling miserable, I feel Great!!!'
Keep pushing that thought until the scales tip in your favor. Think good and feel good, think about what's not going as you wished and feel like crap. Your choice.
You say you want to get up tomorrow and feel good...Then go to bed tonight and think or imagine having a great day tomorrow simply being there and learning some of the lingo or eating some fried bugs or going for a walk or even sitting infront of the golden Buddha and saying thank you to yourself for bringing you this far along the path.
Stand up to your mind my friend. Rise above it and see the sun.

Blessings.

Answer 7

You are stuck on a hump and can't get peace. The Will is positive, the Judgment is negative. Perhaps a life review may reveal something to your self.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erick_Erickson

Scientific Support of Erikson's Theories
Most empirical research into Erikson's theories has stemmed around his views on adolescence and attempts to establish identity. His theoretical approach was studied and supported, particularly regarding adolescence, by James Marcia [3]. Marcia's work extended Erikson's; distinguishing different forms of identity, and there is some empirical evidence that those people who form the most coherent self-concept in adolescence are those who are most able to make intimate attachments in early adulthood. This supports Eriksonian theory, in that it suggests that those best equipped to resolve the crisis of early adulthood are those who have most successfully resolved the crisis of adolescence.

Erikson's psychosocial crisis stages

(syntonic v dystonic)
- Freudian psycho- sexual stages + Life stage / issues / relationships ~ Basic virtue > Maladaptation / malignancy (potential negative outcomes)

1. *Trust v Mistrust - Oral + Infant / mother / feeding and being comforted, teething, sleeping ~ Hope and Drive > Sensory Distortion / Withdrawal

2. *Autonomy v Shame & Doubt - Anal + Toddler / parents / bodily functions, toilet training, muscular control, walking ~ Willpower and Self-Control > Impulsivity / Compulsion

3. *Initiative v Guilt - Phallic + Preschool / family / exploration and discovery, adventure and play ~ Purpose and Direction > Ruthlessness / Inhibition

4. *Competency v Inferiority - Latency + Schoolchild / school, teachers, friends, neighborhood / achievement and accomplishment ~ Competence and Method > Narrow Virtuosity / Inertia

5. *Identity v Role Confusion - Puberty and Genitality + Adolescent / peers, groups, influences / resolving identity and direction, becoming a grown-up ~ Fidelity and Devotion > Fanaticism / Repudiation

6. *Intimacy v Isolation - (Genitality) + Young adult / lovers, friends, work connections / intimate relationships, work and social life ~ Love and Affiliation > Promiscuity / Exclusivity

7. *Generativity v Stagnation + Mid-adult / children, community / 'giving back', helping, contributing ~ Care and Production > Overextension / Rejectivity

8. *Integrity v Despair + Late adult / society, the world, life / meaning and purpose, life achievements ~ Wisdom and Renunciation > Presumption / Disdain Late adulthood is dominated by the multiplicity of social change which inevitably takes place during this stage of life. The loss of a marital partner, developments of unfamiliar single hood, ever changing relationships, dependent living situations and limited activities have a huge impact on the physical and psychological well being of an individual in the late adulthood stage. The degree to which an individual successfully navigated through his or her prior seven stages of life determines how the final stage is piloted.


The Erikson life-stage virtues, in the order of the stages in which they may be acquired, are:

hope- Basic Trust vs. Mistrust
will- Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt
purpose- Initiative vs. Guilt
competence- Industry vs. Inferiority
fidelity- Identity vs. Role Confusion
love (in intimate relationships, work and family)- Intimacy vs. Isolation
caring- Generativity vs. Stagnation
wisdom- Ego Integrity vs. Despair


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abraham_Maslow

Maslow postulated that needs are arranged in a hierarchy in terms of their potency. Although all needs are instinctive, some are more powerful than others. The lower the need is in the pyramid, the more powerful it is. The higher the need is in the pyramid, the weaker and more distinctly human it is. The lower, or basic, needs on the pyramid are similar to those possessed by non-human animals, but only humans possess the higher needs.

The first four layers of the pyramid are what Maslow called "deficiency needs" or "D-needs:" the individual does not feel anything if they are met, but feels anxious if they are not met..... Needs beyond the D-needs are "growth needs," "being values," or "B-needs." When fulfilled, they do not go away; rather, they motivate further.

The base of the pyramid is formed by the physiological needs, including the biological requirements for food, water, air, and sleep.

Once the physiological needs are met, an individual can concentrate on the second level, the need for safety and security. Included here are the needs for structure, order, security, and predictability.

The third level is the need for love and belonging. Included here are the needs for friends and companions, a supportive family, identification with a group, and an intimate relationship.

The fourth level is the esteem needs. This group of needs requires both recognition from other people that results in feelings of prestige, acceptance, and status, and self-esteem that results in feelings of adequacy, competence, and confidence. Lack of satisfaction of the esteem needs results in discouragement and feelings of inferiority.

Finally, self-actualization sits at the apex of the original pyramid.

Answer 8

learn Korean out of respect or you will never reach the next level, the key to happiness is creating happiness to all around you

Answer 9

Channel your anger and frustration into your martial arts and beat the crap out of them.