Im suspecting my husband is having an affair with another woman or maybe the same woman again, you see he had already done this before I just found out about it and confronted him and he eventually admit it of course at first he denies it but when I handed him the simcard he is using for that woman, he had no choice but to admit it. He said it was nothing he was just infatuated then because we are far from him. And now when I log in on our computer I had seen this email address similar to the name of the girl.
Do you think she still has a relation to that woman?
How do I know if he is still seeing this woman or if he still has a communication with her. Please help im really depressed coz we have children that would be affected.
Im trying to survive our relationship though part of me wanted to quite this relationship you see he had done many mistakes which I would not mention coz its too many.
2007-12-15 14:31:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he isn't having a sexual affair as he says, he sure is having an emotional one, which is just as bad. No really getting around this, other than going to counseling with him. If he refuses, then it's time to leave. He is just biding his time with you, until the other woman makes herself available. Just tell yourself he doesn't deserve you OR your children. Get angry instead of sorrowful! This will help you move on.
2007-12-15 14:40:57 · answer #1 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm also in your situation, just that it's a different woman compared to the previous one. And almost every 6 months he'll have a new affair. We've 2 young daughters. Acccomodation will be a problem cos my parents' house is too small for the 3 of us. Renting a house outside is too costly. Even after what happened, i still love my husband and want this marriage. But i dont want to keep tolerating to his infidelity. The pain and the hurt are too much for me to bear. The only way for you to check your suspicions is to get this "flexispy" software. It works by recording all the calls, caller, duration, and even the actual message typed and send out and received. But it only supports symbian phones. Do goggle "flexispy" to know the details. You can email or im me if you need support.
2007-12-15 15:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by le_snowangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that were in the exact same situation it took my husband
22 months to admit to it even though I hit him with all kinds of proof I had uncovered (long story). And it turned out he'd been messing around with yet the same woman.
Like I said we're in the same exact situation.
Follow your instincts is all I can say. Lead me to find out some completely new sh*t TONIGHT!!! Good Luck To You & God Bless!!! We have kids too. And I'm 32 weeks pregnant. But as hard as we've supposed to have been trying to work things out from the first time I truly think this marriage is OVER!!! Feel free to contact me if you need some one to talk to. You can email me thru my profile page.
2007-12-15 15:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by THIC007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-03 10:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you settle for foolishness, that's exactly what you will get.Since men tend to respond better with what they see compared to what they hear,gather up the children and sit them in front of him, but don't say a word.Hopefully that image coupled with the "conversation" you're going to have with him will cause him to think.
When you get him alone remind him that it wasn't you that said "Thou shalt not commit adultery", it was the Lord.For the sake of those precious children you can't allow him to be married but live "single".
If the image of his precious children and his responsibility to you before God don't cause him to come clean,then you have more to worry about than whether he's seeing some lady.For you and the sake of your children,please Lord show her the right path.The Lord bless you sister.
2007-12-15 15:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by ROOSEVELT M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to say this but he did it once and you did nothing so he is going to continue to do this because you allow it to happen. Never and i mean Never stay with a person just because of the children. they will feel the resentment in how you are feeling. it is apparent that he does not give a crap about you or the kids or he would not have cheated in the first place. you are better than that. get up the courage and leave.
2007-12-15 14:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by don2mel 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I could probably REALLY help you out in this situation. I am in a relationship (long term) with a man who lives with another woman and has children with her. They are not married, not that that makes it any better and now we have a child together as well. Email me if you want advice from your man's other woman's perspective.
2007-12-15 14:57:18 · answer #7 · answered by Alisha J 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Read Divorce Busting, a book that is solution-oriented.
It is very hard, I know, but you must make yourself, prettier, kinder, and more charming than her. You have competition and you must outdo her - wear perfume, cook his favorite foods, etc.
Make your home pleasant to come home to also. It should smell good, be clean, and have soft classical or Christian music playing in the background to relax his nerves (and yours).
Greet him hello and goodbye with a warm hug and kiss him goodnight always.
Teach your children that Daddy's homecoming is a big deal and they should all welcome him home with a hug, then they should disappear (do homework or help with dinner) until dinnertime.
Go to a church that has marriage seminars, classes, Promise Keepers, and strong accountability for men.
Pray for his deliverance and for peace for yourself and that the children don't find out.
Joy to you!
2007-12-15 14:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dsnt take a rocket scientist to tell u that ur husband is cheating... You can either stay in and try to work things out with him with the risk of him doing it again or you can do the right thing and walk out. If he cant be a faithful husband then he cant be a faithful father.
2007-12-15 14:37:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Im sorry. However, my personal take on it is the first time he cheated I would of forgave him but I would of ended the relationship. If he has done it before I honestly dont believe that the cheater cold change, because you not only forgave them but your enabling them to countine to cheat by staying.
Thats me tho...I'm hardcore..lol I dont believe in cheating at all.
If you truly love and respect the one your with you should never need to find affection outside your relationship.
Wish you the best
2007-12-15 14:50:22 · answer #10 · answered by whateva12 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋