Bisexual afraid to come out?

Question

I'm afraid that everyone will hate me and attack me with "jesus hates you!" stuff. What do I do? I can't hide it forever..

Answer 1

First of all Jesus does not hate you and people need to stop using that. Second of all it sounds like their may be some other issues going on and maybe you need to deal with that first.

Answer 2

Alright. I am going to assume that u are youngish. So i am going to direct this answer towards your age group. First and foremost: Be sure of your own, personal sexual identity before u choose to share it with others. Not that I'm regarding u as uncertain. I am just being thorough. Secondly: Nothing, and i do mean nothing, is forcing u to come out. The urge to come out is that u want others to know who u truli are. Which is admirable. However: Bisexualiti is a tricki thing...it is almost less accepted than being "homo". Thirdli: Ur mother and ur sister are ur famili...even if thei do not like or agree with it...and thei most likeli will ask u questions...thei are still ur famili and should support u no matter who u are. This includes ur father. though i am not promising that thei will be accepting at first. Fourthli: ur friends, if ur friends decide that thei no longer want to be ur friends because u happen to be a bisexual thei are not realli ur friends and u should find new ones aniwai. Although, it is going to hurt some...but tri not to take it too personalli...people are stupid. Lastli: u come out whenever and however feels most comfortable for u. Don't force it. u are a beautiful person and should be urself no matter what the people currentli in ur life think about it. Good Luck! (sorri the "y" button on the board is broken)

Answer 3

You know what? Jesus doesnt hate anyone but the devil. He hates SIN not a person. He wants you to get saved so you can live in heaven with Him for eternity and be happy. Does that sound like someone who hates you? I am so tired of everyone saying God hates gay people or this person or that person. He isnt a cosmic killjoy that just doest want you to have a good time. He just wants the best for you. Acting on gay or lesbian feelings ( in other words actually having same sex physical contact ) is a sin and He condemns it. It is wrong. It is in the bible, so dont be mad at me. I am telling you truth. Look in Romans chapter 2 or 3 i think.You will have to take it up with God if you dont like it. I dont make the rules because i am not God. Every single friend i ever had who was gay or lesbian or bi wound up more miserable than any straight person i ever met. God knows it is not a good thing ,so He is trying to save you the pain and doesnt want you to sin either because He can not be in the presence of sin. There is a lot to explain about it. And it is about love, not hate. You CAN stop yourself from acting on things you know you should not do. Especially with God's help. And before you freak out on me let me say this that people forget. Sex outside of marriage is sin as well ,so dont think it is a straight thing because it isnt. It is a truth thing. No attacking here, just hoping to save you some misery.

Answer 4

I'm afraid I'll have to give you the 'your real friends won't care' kind of speech.

At my school, we have people coming out all the time. Don't worry about it- it's really common, and nobody will hate you. The people that are all idiots will attack you, but they don't hate you- they hate the gayness. But rejoice! Be happy! Now you can wear rainbows with pride. :) Congratulations.

Answer 5

God doesn't hate you. I am a Christian and people who say those things are hateful. God loves everyone and He wants what is BEST for you. God created us, and gave us a way to live, which when followed will give you peace. His order is for a man and a woman to marry (before having sex) to remain faithful to one another, and to have children,to be fruitful and multiply. People in homosexual relationships can't do that. There are many different sins, and homosexuality is one of them. So are adultery, sex before marriage, promiscuity and anything else that falls outside of God's plan. We all have sinned and been tempted to do things that are wrong. The problem is that when we refuse to see sin as sin, we are basically calling God a liar. And sin is often fun- but things that give us pleasure are often not in our best interests. God loves you, and wants what is BEST for you, not always what gives you the most pleasure. Sin destroys people, but giving our lives over to God builds us up. I know, because I have lived both ways. My life was never as good and fulfilling as it is now. My advice to you is to ask God for His guidance. Those who sincerely seek Him, will find Him. God bless you!

Answer 6

There is nothing to be ashamed of. You just have a sexual interest in both sexes. I am hetro and I see nothing wrong with being bi-sexual, with all the stuff that happens in bedrooms across the world does it really matter who your doing it with. People should accept you for who you are so if people like you now then they will like you after and if they don't then you should be the one re-evaluating your friends not them rejecting you. Just be who you are.

Answer 7

im not religious but i do know the bible says being gay is wrong but it also says that we must love and treat everyone as if we would want to be treated (something like that anyway........lol). so in other words its kind of a doudle standard. if your family and friends love you they will not care what sexual orientation you are. i think you should come out its scary but eventually you will find out who your true friends are, and those are the ones that stick by you through anything. sorry for th length. hope this helps :)

Answer 8

i dont know about other places but even in a redneck place like oklahoma i have had a very good coming out no1 has ditched me or nething i was actually very suprised because i had heard alot of bad stories just dont tell every1 at once because every1 says thats how they get messed up at first tell a few of your closest friends that your sure will not care the first person i ever told was this gay guy from school just because i knew he wouldnt care i dont even like him not even as a person but he was the only person i felt i could tell but now 6moinths later im out to every1 i even wear a rainbow pride wristband the only person who cares is my mom but ive only told mom and dad in my family its usually best not to tell older people

Answer 9

if you really feel you need to tell someone tell a really close friend
and maybe another but i personally dont think you have to come out to everyone.
my family are stict catholics so i just told a few friends and it feels great the way it is you know i can have a bf or gf and its only our business no one elses.

Answer 10

No, you can't hide it forever. You have to be true to yourself, and "coming out" is the way to be true to yourself. At first, your friends and family may distance themselves from you, but as they grow to accept your bisexuality, they will most likely welcome you back.