Help I'm scared about a baby?

Question

Ok. I didn't even know my mom still had sex, altho its not my business. So, I just found out she is about a month pregnant, and now my dad's always clinging to her more than he used to, asking is she ok does she need to go to the bathroom, does she feel pain, etc. It's annoying and I'm 12 and don't want a freaken baby. My dad always kisses her and stuff and its annoying. I don't like it. Why is my dad like this? Whats the future going to be like? Where will I probably be on the nite of baby being born night? Thanks!! Hjope you kan answer thanks!

Answer 1

I know that the most amazing gift your father can give to you is showing you just how much he loves your mother. Trust me, I want the same thing for my kids. That my husband will kiss me, touch me, hug me, hold me, show me love and affection in front of our children. That is such a great thing. I think that your father sounds like he is a wonderful man, a great father and a fantastic husband. Things that you will very much want when you finally find someone amazing enough that you will want to spend the rest of your LIFE with. And you will understand when you start dating, and having relationships.
Your dad is like this because he loves your mom. But she is more then just your mom. She is a wife, a lover, a partner. She is just like most of us woman on here. Yes were all moms, but we are far more then that.
Of course your mom is still having sex. What would make that stop? I am a mom, and I haven't stopped having that in my LIFE. It, well, hopefully someone will explain that to you when you are much older and are ready for that kind of thing. I will not fully explain to you about the ins and outs of relationships and marriages. That is something that someone else will have to talk to you about.
The future? Its going to be wonderful. Having a baby around is such an amazing thing. You are going to love your baby brother or sister so much. From the very moment that you see that baby, you are going to fall in love with it. New baby's are beautiful, and fun and interesting, and fill you with a different kind of love.
This is not your baby. This baby is your parents baby. And they seem to be happy and well adjusted about this. And who knows maybe they have been trying to have a baby for years and it hasn't happened until now. No one knows that.
I think that you are jealous. You have had mommy and daddy all to yourself, and now there is a new baby coming and for the LIFE of you, you can't fathom the idea of having another person around who will who heartedly depend on your parents for everything. My 5 year old has done better with this then you sound like you are. My new baby is a month old and she is doing so awesome with him. If a 5 year old can hack it, so can you.
You are 12 years old. You will probably be at home at the time this baby will be born. It could be during the day, early morning..baby's come when they want too. But why worry about all of this now? She isn't that far along. Why worry about it at all? This baby is a wonderful addition and it should be considered that much and more. Baby's are a beautiful thing....this is real and this is happening. You should get use to it and not be so jealous and insecure about it. Your 12, not 2.

Answer 2

First things first. Your parents are happy. And you should think about that first of all. Would you rather them constantly be fighting? I think its a VERY good thing your parents are still in love and having another baby! Are you worried because you don't think the attention will be on you anymore because there is going to be a new baby in the house? The baby isn't necessarily going to be born at night it could be during the day while your at school it can honestly be anytime. And don't worry your parents aren't going to forget about you. You need to show them how excited you are to be a big sister and that your going to be a good big sister. Look at it this way your going to be a roll model to your little brother or sister. Trust me I'm the youngest and I wish my parents had one more after me so I could have someone to look up to me as much as I do to my sister. Just don't worry about having a baby in the house. Because when the baby gets here you are going to wonder why you were so worried. Babies are so helpless they need people to love them and if you don't like the baby then your not being fair because what has the baby ever done to you? Nothing right because he or she can't they aren't even here yet. I guarentee you that your going to love the baby. Go shopping with your mom and look at all the adorable baby clothes maybe that will help. But just remember be happy your parents are so happy, because you wouldn't rather them be fighting right?

Answer 3

Your dad is just concerned about your mom. I'm sure he did the very same thing when your mom was carrying you.

A new baby is exciting, you will be the babies idol, just think how much you could teach a baby, all the way up through school.

As far as where you will be on the night of the birth, why not be with your mom. I'm sure she would love to have you there. This could be a wonderful bonding opportunity, and you could learn a lot because one day you'll be having a baby too. Ask her if you can join her on a doctor visit to see the ultrasound and if your up to it go to birthing classes and attend the birth, maybe you could even cut the cord.

Good luck.

Answer 4

The feelings you are feeling are absolutly normal. My mom was pregnant with me when my oldest sister was 16 and my brother was 14. They were embarssed and uncomfortable and really didnt develop a realtionship with me until we were all adults as we had nothing in common growing up.

Your dad is happy and excited and this is like a new experience for them all over again. Undoubtly he was like this when they were pregnant with you. This is just his way of showing his support. And at your age yes this can be repulsive. Talk to them about how these actions make you feel uncomfortable and ask them if they could tone it down a little while you are in the room with them.
When the baby is born, if you are allowed to stay home by yourself they make leave you at home, if you want that, or they may let you sleep at a friends house or have a realitive stay with you. this is again somethng you need to address with them and let them know about your concerns.
The best advice I can give you is this: Sit down and talk to your parents, if you are not comfortable talking to them alone then ask an adult, either a realitive or a friends mom or a counsler to come with you to talk. Have a list of questions or cocerns so you can address everything that is bothering you. It is important to remember that just because the baby will be coming doesnt mean you will be ignored. But unfortunetly it will mean that some parts of your life will change. It is your parents job to try to keep your life as normal as possible.
I wish you all the best.

Answer 5

I understand you think it is "gross" your parents are still "bumping uglies" and now have made a baby, but you got to face girl, it is a part of life. Your dad is just trying to supportive of you mom as she goes through all the discomfort, pain, and changes that come along with having a baby. So just hang in there, just think you will be a big sister, and that is a great future to look forward to. Your baby brother or sister will look to you to guide and protect it, give it advice that they may not want to talk to mom or dad about. On the night my little sister was born, my mom sent me to baby sister/friend's house to stay the night so that I didn't have to be in the hospital. You may want to ask your parent's if you can spend the night over a friend or family member's house that you feel comfortable with for when the baby comes. Just hang in there girl, it is awesome feeling to become an big sister .

Answer 6

haha, yes your parents still have sex, sorry! I don't see why you think it is so annoying that your dad is being a loving husband like he is supposed to be. One day when you are pregnant you will want your husband to treat you like that. The future will be pretty much the same, you may feel a little left out at first but you are old enough to deal with it. As for the night of the birth, I'm guessing your parents will want you to be at the hospital with them but if you don't want to go you can ask to stay with your grandparents or a friend. I hope you can someday be happy about this.

Answer 7

its better than having a dad that doesn't want anything to do with your mom and doesn't hug and kiss her or even love her. so don't complain to much about that they love each other and you will understand that someday.
as far as the baby goes you are going to be a big sister and there is nothing you can do to change that so try to help your mom out and not be so negative about it.
on the night the baby is born maybe you can stay at a friends house or a relatives house or someone can come stay with you.
or you could always go to the hospital and watch or be there after for your mom :)

Answer 8

i know its alot to handle right now and change is going to happen once the baby comes and things will be different. The good thing is that you have 9 months to adjust and your dad is prob acting that way bc he loves your mom and doesn't want anything to happen to her and baby. Maybe the wanted this baby for a while and couldn't get pregnant,. I suggest you talk to ur parents about how you feel about all if this.

Answer 9

My brothers were born when I was 9 and 12. It's normal to feel left out and a little jealous. Try talking to your parents and telling them you're feeling a little left out. Having a baby around the house can be a lot of fun-but can also be stressful. Make sure you communicate with your parents so they know how you feel.

Answer 10

He is excited! A new baby is a big deal, and he is concerned about her. That is normal for him as she is carrying his child. As far as not wanting a baby, you are entitled to your opinion, but it is your parents decision. Nobody can tell what the future holds but try to think positive. Having a new baby can be wonderful! It is a blessing. As far was where you will be when the baby is born, have no idea, possibly a relative or friends house???