I am engaged to my boyfriend of many years, but I am struggling with feelings for a female friend of mine.?

Question

I was happy when we became engaged a few months ago, though we have been through many ups and downs in our relationship. I have experimented with women before and during our relationship a few times but nothing serious. He approved of me experiementing at the time because we are young. Now that we are going to be married, he wants us to be monogamous, and so do I.
The problem is that I met this woman (a lesbian) at work about a month ago, and I am very infactuated with her. We have become fast friends and have admitted that we are both attracted to eachother, but we are both taken so we are not going to act on it.
I realize that I don't really know her well, and it's probably just a "crush" but it's really bothering me that I have feelings for someone besides my fiance. Is this normal? Am I just afraid of committing? Should I just back off from our friendship? Help! I am too scared to admit this to any other friends or my family.
I have been open with him about my feelings for her.

Answer 1

It's not unusual to have a crush on someone from time to time. Even married people do it; however, if you are having conflicting feelings about the marriage, then do not get married right now!!!!

You will be doing yourself a great disservice if you get married, when you feel you are not prepared for marriage.

that's my best advice.... and if this is affecting your day to day life, i'd suggest talking to a therapist for advice and direction. sometimes talking with someone is the best thing we can do. and i hope it works out for you.

Answer 2

Don't get married you are not ready.

Answer 3

soooo normal honey...its called lust...remember you LOVe your man....and thats what counts

Answer 4

knock, knock, knock...hello, this is temptation knocking at your door

Answer 5

please DO NOT marry him! you are a closet lesbian!