We have been dating for 4 months and she has been a part of our relationship from day one. Now he is looking for more quality time with her, without me. Should I be worried?
2007-12-15 13:27:38 · 19 answers · asked by Amy H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No you should be proud of him and stand back
There ain't many like him that do the right thing
2007-12-15 13:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am dating a guy who has two children - a girl aged 11 and a boy aged 9. We live about six hours apart and he drove down one day only to find out that their biological mother had been taken to intensive care that morning.
She died that evening, and he drove back the same night to be with his kids. I was annoyed that we'd planned to spend the weekend together and his ex had been inconsiderate even in death, but I knew when we started dating that his kids would always, always, always come before me, no matter what. Even if it means driving day and night to be with them in times of need. You should know this, too.
Don't be worried. Be glad that he is a good and loyal father. No child immediately likes a person their parent is being affectionate towards - she probably feels as though she might lose him to you, so you should definitely let him spend more time with her now. Eventually, she will learn that her father will always love her, and to accept you too and you will spend many more years together as a family.
2007-12-15 15:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by Katy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main thing is not to make him choose between you two. He shouldn't have to. People choose between shoes because they are the same, but you and his daughter aren't. You are like a t-shirt and she's shoes... he can wear them both. Do you get that? But that doesn't mean he'll wear the same shirt and shoes together... but he still keeps the shirt and plans to wear it...
Has he thrown you away? Well, then don't worry...
A man needs alone time with his daughter as he does with you. Talk to him.. if he's still interested in you then let him have time with her.
A child needs her dad... and that's all I'll say.
2007-12-15 13:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! It's good he wants to spend time with his child! Think of cool things that all three of you can do together sometimes. I am about to marry the guy I've been with for three years. I have a son from my previous marriage and they both get along GREAT! My son even calls him, DAD! Sometimes, I still like to spend time alone with my child. It's normal and healthy.
2007-12-15 16:04:33 · answer #4 · answered by pikachild2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend has 3 kids and thay have always been his priority as they should be but that means that I am always #4 in his life and after many of years of this I have to tell you that it is very tiring. be prepared to have his children come first forever.
2007-12-15 13:59:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 19:19:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should be his priority, she's his child. She needs parenting and raising and a good role model, you don't.
Why worry? You should respect that he wants to spend time with his child and be glad he's that type of man...many single parents put themselves and their lovers first, before their kids.
2007-12-15 13:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, but he should have waited before the two of you met. Be thankful that he wants that with his daughter. If the two of you have kids, you will always know he is a loyal father.
2007-12-15 13:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by apple juice 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, not really. When you become a parent you will know how close the child-parent bond is. He's really close to his family obviously, which is a good thing. I'd let him do what he's doing because he's being a good parent.
2007-12-15 13:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is first you are next to first >She is his little girl you are his big girl> Part of having baggage>Hope the EX isn't there also>???If you try to interfere you will loose>So be there for him and nice to her>And you will or might or might not be part of there time>??
2007-12-15 14:11:23 · answer #10 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋