updates about me and my baby at 13 years old?

Question

I talked to my boyfriends parents about it first , becuase i am always at their house. they were angry. but were still there for me. my mom is very angry. she is ashamed of me and didnt want anything to do with me for a while. but now we are fine. she is still mad to this day but loves me more than anything i feel bad everyday becuase she is always crying. but o well. and my boyfriend and i have decided to keep the baby. we have planed out our lives together. you know its a teen love thing. but we are really going to try to make it work becuase we want our kid to have a good life and two parents. i want this for my kid bacuse i havent had a father in my life and i miss out on a lot. anyways. i am at my boyfriends house all the time. i stay there almost every week. i practicly live there. my mom hates it. but i love it. we both have our own rooms. and rules are strict around his house. and i need that. anyways . thanks to most of you. i need it.

Answer 1

Wow. Well Congratulations. You are taking on a huge responsibility. My 16 y/o has a 3 month old daughter & that's hard for her. The baby's daddy is still in the picture. So the baby is having a life with 2 parents right now & they plan on getting married when they turn 18. Well good Luck. Keep your head up. Ella

Answer 2

honestly, and pleasse dont be offened at my opinoin, i dont think that he is going to stay with you. You are very very very young to be having kids, i think 20 in too young to have kids, but you need to be ready for all that the baby will cost you if you are keeping it. It will be tons of money, and you not being able to have a stable job yet doesn't help the matter. And it sounds like you don't really care about how your mom feels. Pretend to be in her shoes, her daughter, just turned into a teen and is already pregnant. She is prolly wondering "what did i do wrong" and she feels this is part her fault. Your going to have a very tough life style after the baby is born. Don't forget that once it is born, this is your kid, and you need to care for it and be there for it all the time no matter what. I do wish you a lot of luck. If you really want this kid to be happy, just be a good lil mommy. Make up with your mom, you NEED her help with this. You are not going to be able to handle it on your own. Heck, 30 year olds can't handle it on their own.

Answer 3

Well I wish you the best of luck however, I would be negligent if I failed to state that I think you made some poor decisions in your past but hope that from now on you will think things through before you jump on things. What feels good for ten minutes might not be so good later. I hope for your sake and your babies that he stays in your life but there is no promise of that and if that happens it's a cold world to live in and not always pleasant. Keep God in your life, and give that child a good solid education and spiritual teaching. I know some might not like what I say and thumbs down me but that is ok because the one I answer to is much higher then them.

Answer 4

Good for you and your boyfriend for taking responsibility :0)
It's going to be tough but I'm sure that if you try your hardest you will be a great mom and have a good life :0)
Good luck to the both of you, you seem to have a good boyfriend and people close to you to support you. Be warned though, people can change, don't expect everything to go perfectly with your boyfriend, most teen fathers don't stay unfortunately. Anyway, since you seem to care about your kid, congratulations.

Answer 5

Well all of this sounds nice and warm and fuzzy and I hope it turns out perfect. But I can assure you that it will be difficult all the time. That's what being a parent is. I would just suggest one thing....every decision you make should be made with the baby's best interest in mind....not yours. and that includes your relationship with the father. So good luck.

Answer 6

okay hey there girlfriend. i am 13 years old too. i have had the scare of being pregnant 2 times already. yes i know it is not somethign to brag about but **** happens. my personal opinion is put the baby up for adoption. yes ma'am it is very very difficult. i am not a mother so i have NO clue what a mother's love is like but you are a child having a child. thats not how it is supposed to be in todays society. you need to finished school, go to college and then think about children when you are stable. all that is going to end up happening is your parents are going to raise the baby. please i know it is diificult but you have got to put the baby up for adoption. you can always keep in touch with your child once he/she gets adopted.

Answer 7

i just hope you guys stick to your plan. You do need to understand that the older you guys get, the more distant you will become from each other. Try to stay close and deal with it. Good Luck!!!!!

Answer 8

13 and having a baby i hope you realize that you having a baby wont keep this guy in your life. you are so young why do you want a baby? have you really really thought about this? its not a doll or something you can give back. i wouldn't let a 13 year old baby sit for me . i couldn't imagine a girl that young having one. where were your parents or his? 13 is way to young to even have sex. your life is over now and your only 13. i don't mean to sound like a ***** i really don't but i think your making the wrong choice on keep ing the baby you are so so young

Answer 9

i'm glad things are working out for you, but sorry that you are having difficulty with your mom.

the best thing you can do is remind your mom that you love her, and want her to be a part of your lives... she is just hurting for you right now... and maybe even scared for you?

hugs hugs!!

Answer 10

Well, good luck. I hope you, your boyfriend, and your baby all have a happy life.