My ex cheated on me 6 months ago... we were set to be married and everything... we still talk to each other and see each other on the by and by... he seems so happy with her... its killing me... and it hurts the most right now because we would have been together 3 years this month... any helpful words... please
2007-12-15 12:34:11 · 16 answers · asked by mercedes O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't talk to him anymore. You're better than that.
You shouldn't be living through his life. He gave you no respect, so why should you be giving him your time and energy? You need to think about yourself and do things for yourself. You can, and will, have a wonderful life without him.
Start taking up your time completely with things you like to do. Don't allow yourself the time to sit down and think through things. Stay active and entertained completely. Don't give him your time at all because he's not worth it. Put people in your life that won't hurt you and that have habits that make you happy and amused instead of having someone in your life that does things that hurt you.
And just remember what an awesome person you are.
2007-12-15 12:47:31 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God lets things happen for a reason. I've been in a similar situation and at the time I didn't understand WHY. It was the hardest thing I ever had to go through. Everyone kept saying "better now than later" and now I get it! Better he left you 6 months ago then to waste more of your precious time. You're gonna realize this one day. Just focus on what else is important to you right now. Bring all that attention towards something that is gonna make you a better person and dont concern yourself with people who dont 'worry' about you. His life has moved on and so does yours...
2007-12-15 13:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by Kay-Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it does happen that people who are involved meet someone else they are attracted to and act on it. Sometimes they are happy and sometimes not. You are hurting that he is happy at your expense.
Move on, it was a good thing you found out before the wedding. You don't want a cheater, he will just do it again.
You are strong and powerful, get out and find some new friends and a new guy!
2007-12-15 12:43:43 · answer #3 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheaters aren't truely happy. And he will never have a healthy relationship with that woman if it started as an affair. She knows, deep down, that she cannot trust him. And in the end, he will end up miserable and alone.
My advice to you is to stop stop stop stop stop stop stop stop stop talking to him. You need to move on with your life and with your relationships. As long as you keep him nearby, your heart wont heal. You should be happy. And letting your heart heal is the only way to do it. Besides, he cheated on you.. You should remind yourself that you are worth way more than his sorry *** is.
I am sorry that he cheated on you. I really am. And I know how it feels. You'll be so much better off if you forget he exists.... But don't let it happen again.. yeah?
2007-12-15 12:41:35 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa.Speer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not happy - he is putting up that front for you. He will be back out chasing down his next fling soon enough. She didn't win. Why are you even talking to him???? You should be really happy that you did not marry him - because honey, they never stop cheating. A good man will come along for you just wait and see!
2007-12-15 12:49:08 · answer #5 · answered by Babycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, try to move on. The best way to do that is to ignore him and stay away from him. Try to be happy yourself and forget that asshole. My ex boyfriend cheated on me to and that **** does hurt. But when a guy cheats he's bound to get it back. Because in life you gotta learn a lesson from your mistakes. So, that girl hes with now or some other girl will probably cheat on him and he will feel your pain. if he ever gets back on his knees for you don't take him back. Because if he'll do it once he'll do it again. So, **** that asshole and move on you can do better than someone that hurt you nad get someone that you deserve.
2007-12-15 12:41:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to find out as time goes on and on endlessly ..with you feeling hurt and angry over his betrayal..that you willl have wasted alot of your valuable time crying over something you cannot change.
I think it would be better for you to find a new hobby.. maybe Toast Masters . com ... it can be a very interesting place. Or perhaps go to work ( in your off time ) for Habitats for Humanity.. but do not look for a "new" love right now. You need time to get over the hurt of what he did to you so you can move on in a healthy way in your heart and mind.
God bless you
2007-12-15 13:02:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it 3 months, you'll see how happy they're NOT. I don't think you should be talking to him at all. That's like saying, you don't mind being friends with a snake and a liar. Are most of your friends liars?
2007-12-15 14:34:18 · answer #8 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could 1 be happy with some1 that cheats>Not knowing when they will cheat again>Your lucky you didn't marry him>
2007-12-15 12:44:25 · answer #9 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the lucky one. You should be the happy one. You didn't get stuck with him. You have lots to be happy about, start acting like it. Move on, move on up.
2007-12-15 12:50:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋