I want to go to law school, become a lawyer and live a comfortable/rich life. Marriage is not taken seriously nowadays, and most people divorce anyways. I want a lifelong partner, but just never get married. I dont want the responsibility and fear of losing most of my money to a gold digging whore. I also want to be independent and not have to consult anyone about every decision. I dont care if it makes me selfish, but its my life after all. So my questions is, what are the chances of finding a women who wants to be a lifelong partner but not get married, and do you think that there is something wrong with me to not conform with the rest of the society?
2007-12-15 11:55:41 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would NEVER succumb to a girl who says "marriage or its over" I would walk first.
2007-12-15 12:03:54 · update #1
If you have good judgement, you won't get involved with a "golddigging wh0re" so it shouldn't be an issue. Do what works for you...right now, ya don't sound like much of a prize but with experience and maturity that may improve.
2007-12-15 12:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Actually you are on the cutting edge regarding conformity because all the statistics point to marriage going away. Only love is love and marriage is simply a legal document. We live in a different era now and there's simply no benefit for a man to be married.
I applaud your decision. Also, you are going about it the right way. Once you have control of your own destiny, you'll have many women to choose from. There are some fantastic women out there, but they are really hard to find. You could easily go through thousands before finding one that is just as independent as you.
Finding a woman who is beautiful, intelligent, and completely independent isn't impossible--just difficult. I know of three women who fit this bill and none of them married nor want to. These women are much older than you or I, but it convinces me that finding them is not impossible
We're on a similar path. Focus on your health. Focus on your wealth. Happiness is right around the corner.
2007-12-15 12:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by TheTotalStud_StudTotal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does everyone think that not getting married is ALWAYS the easy way out?!
IT'S NOT!!!!!! IT'S STUPID TO THINK THAT!!!!
You say that you wanna be independent and not consult with anybody about your decision? So I'm guessing when you live with a women, your NOT gonna have to make any compromises there? You guys won't have to consult about anything? BE REALISTIC MAN!!!!!!
Just because you're NOT married doesn't mean that you won't get taken for your money!! Especially if you have kids with her. Better watch out for that!!
HAVING A LONG LIFE PARTNER IS LIKE BEING MARRIED!!!!!!!!
If you wanna be a selfish person be a selfish person!
You'll fit right into todays society!
You can die with your money. . .
2007-12-18 06:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband used to say the same thing ( as a physician, he didn't want a gold digging whore either) basically marry someone who is your equal. He doesn't make that much more money than I do, so we are able to split the costs. He waited until he found true love, and that was with me. We took a long time to get to know each other, and fell in love. Marriage for us was not a bad decision...and he used to say he would never marry also. Dont' worry, you will meet that special someone and you might just change your mind.
2007-12-15 12:18:18 · answer #4 · answered by Brittney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with you , and you kind find all kinds of women that would want the same lifestyle .
But let me look into the crystal ball so I can predict the future:
The lifelong thing probably wouldn't happen as adults go through many changes mentally , physically and emotionally and you would dump each other after a while , especially since you will not have any children to keep you together.
2007-12-15 12:17:44 · answer #5 · answered by royalcres 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I think that you have your head on straight and you know exactly what you want out of life and how to get it! Stick to your way of thinking now and you will never have to worry about someone wanting to take it all from you by being a gold digger. You can also decide, if and when you ever want to get into a relationship, to create a Co-habitation Agreement with everything laid out so there are no misunderstandings. Just make sure you keep the birth control in your control or you may just end up with a little one when someone thinks they can trick you into marriage or even support for some 18-20 years! Have a Wonderful life!
2007-12-15 12:03:03 · answer #6 · answered by chefddr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your a smart guy you can be with someone and be happy without marriage the saying is true "once you get married things DO change" for the worse because you both feel more obligated to try harder for the things that just came to you and yes we women are bitchier so stay single and happy Marriage changes ppl staying together will feel like a job than a thing you liked to do that's my say and yes I am married and wish everyday we were still dating each other and I'm older none the wiser lol
2007-12-15 12:32:18 · answer #7 · answered by carly w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi...
There is nothing wrong with remaining single, and if that is the lifestyle for you, then remain single... no law says we have to get married, that's for sure.
but if you look upon falling in love and wanting to make a committment as difficult because women are gold digging whores, you might have some issue with women... it's not uncommon.
All women aren't gold diggers, nor whores... and not all men are dumb a sses wanting a "mommy" to take care of them, either.... there are a lot of very sincere people out there in the world. Finding one can take time.
Go for what you want in life, and perhaps reconsider looking down upon others because of their lifestyles. Live and let live. that's the best advice i have.
2007-12-15 13:00:31 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that there is anything wrong with not wanting to get married. Marriage is only for people willing to take the responsibility of what it caomes with and if you dont think you can handle it dont do it. If you do decide to get married get a pre-nup this way you dont lose your money. You have a pretty descent chance of finding a lifelong partner, but as your relationship progresses they may want something more than a partnership or not.
2007-12-15 12:04:13 · answer #9 · answered by BB 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find yourself an older woman who is divorced. Or risk falling for a girl who just says that she doesnt want to get married and then after a few years you WILL have to walk cause she will want to get married. Trust me, thats how women think. I don't care who they are and what they say, sooner or later they will want a ring. Unless they have been married before and got the reality check of what a marriage can really be like out of their system. Plan on being alone and possibly having no children.
2007-12-15 13:46:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I completley agree I'm only a 20 year old girl at a Univeristy but I have the same fears of not being independent. I'd say absalutly go with your instinct who cares what others are doing it's your life. So I say hell yeah marriage is not necessary.
2007-12-15 12:04:03 · answer #11 · answered by milty12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋