2007-12-15 11:24:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Because you should never put yourself out. Love should just come naturally not superficially made. It's harder to come across when you are looking and is more likely to occur when you're not too bothered.
2007-12-15 11:29:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think because when you look for it you are not letting nature take its course. Or letting God do his work. You also end up giving anything a chance because you become desperate when you cant find it when you want it. It is said that only a good wife or good husband only comes from the Lord. Maybe you still need work and the man or woman that is being designed for you is still in the shop so to speak. Just work on you find out who and what you are and your purpose and whatever mate that is supposed to be on that path with you will find you. I found my husband standing on the street and had no intention of speaking to him let alone being with him.before I met him, I had never been alone for a long period of time. It was the first time in my life that I was content not being in a relationship and dealing with if this guy is being faithful and all the drama that comes with not having the right guy and God lead me to my man and now I dont have all of that drama because this was meant. I had always dated men that was with me because I had something material like money or a car and he didnt or for sex. This guy knew nothing about me except I wasnt working and it was cool all he saw was me and its great feeling to be blessed with someone who loves you and not what you have and you can love him or her that way as well. So let the Lord complete his work with you and the rest will come along. When it does you look back at this message and smile because I will be smiling saying,"I TOLD YOU SO!!! ha ha ha good luck.
2007-12-15 19:43:08 · answer #2 · answered by sophie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you will be so busy looking for the person that you think will be perfect for you that you will miss the person that actually is. For instance, I'm getting married in May to a guy that I never even thought of romantically for the first year I knew him. Suddenly things just sort of fell into place and threw us into each other's arms. When it's right, that will happen and you may miss it if you're too busy out looking at bars and online chatrooms for love.
Often what we think we want and need in a partner is not actually what we want at all. I thought I wanted someone who was like me, but actually I am much happier with someone who is different from me in certain ways. He's aggressive and demands what he wants. I'm quieter and usually settle for what I get. Together, we balance each other out and teach each other how to be more of what we weren't before.
Obviously there are some things you shouldn't compromise on, like whether or not you want children, general religious issues, etc. but with the little things, we don't always need what we think we need.
2007-12-15 19:30:51 · answer #3 · answered by Been here before 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is fine to look for love, if what you are doing is just being receptive, friendly, and open to a new experience...what you don't want to do is appear desperate and needy, as if all you want is to be in love just to have someone and it doesn't really matter who it is...the "any port in a storm" attitude. If you are desperate to find love you may ascribe qualities to people when they don't really have what you are looking for...that dooms you to failure...just let it happen (or not) naturally.
2007-12-15 19:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it brakes your heart to look for love because in the end its just lust that you are looking for any ways. love is not always a thing you can look for most of the time its something that happens with someone you never thought it would happen with
2007-12-15 19:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by teri b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, when you look for love it always seems to past you by.... only because your looking for a certaint type or a certaint someone.... real love occurs out the blue.. you won't know what hit u, especially because u were'nt looking for it;)!
2007-12-15 19:30:33 · answer #6 · answered by JustaThought 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't cross post in every category. Multiple postings are a violation here...
...and love is more likely to cross your path when you are open to it, but not actively seeking it.
2007-12-15 19:27:39 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B-cuz love always has it ways of finding you!!!!
2007-12-15 19:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by familygy777 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋