My 15 year old daughter is open and honest with me....today she shared with me that she smoked pot once..apparently a few weeks ago...
I want her to continue to be honest with me but at the same time I have to do something about this before it becomes a habit.
I want to talk to her of course but I also want to keep her from the house she was at where she smoked the pot.. but at the same time I want to keep communications open..
Any suggestions?
2007-12-15 11:18:14 · 8 answers · asked by plege_girl 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
She told you honestly about what she had done. The communication is important and it is your job to let her know that she is never to do this again and why. She did something wrong and there need to be consequences for that. She can't go to the house where they smoked the pot would be starters.
Maybe you are she can spend some volunteer hours at a rehab center? homeless shelter? food kitchen? Do something good with her time in place of letting her go out with friends for one weekend.
2007-12-15 11:36:58 · answer #1 · answered by Dan H 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Copy and paste my response to your computer and show it to her. my son started smoking pot, just experimenting I'm sure, but then the kid he was handing out with started doing other stuff....like ordering pizza for a neighbor as a prank and then blaming my son for it in front of his parents, then setting cars on fire and askin gmy son to come look at the car. ( I didn't find out about the cars until it was too late) I kept telling my son why don't you tell the truth to his parents? "I'm not a snitch." I told my son one day it was going to all come down and when it did he was going to be at the bottom. Well, that's what happened, this kid who's father is a bootcamp guard and his mother works for the local school district, thought it would be a good idea to go into another kids house while they were gone and took his rolled quarters adding up to about 300.00. My son felt uncomfortable and went outside, but they gave him 40.00 of it. In the end. my son was charged with 2 felonies at the age of 15. His friend only 1 misdemeanor each. He was given deferment of judgement (Probation) for one year. If he stayed out of trouble the whole thing goes away and the record sealed. Good for him he did it. But when this all happened, I got a hold of the report which is impossible for a suspect to get a copy, but in the report this kid lied about the entire incident and even told the 3rd kid involved to say it was all my son's idea. When he read what his "friend" said. He couldn't believe it. He couldn't believe his friend would set him up. Couldn't believe we were right, and said so to our face. Let her read this, maybe she'll realize things can happen even if they think they won't.
2007-12-15 13:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by Laura B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT PUNISH HER FOR IT! She told you she did it...tell her you're not very pleased with her and also disappointed. If you punish her, it will make her regret telling you. Or if she is that honest...ask her what a valid punishment would be. If she feels guilty about it, she may actually want you to punish her. Or ask her if she believes if she deserves to be punished and leave the rest for the convo. When I have kids, I really wish they would be as honest as that! You have a VERY good kid right there!
2007-12-15 11:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by cv_2004x 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Research all the bad that deals with pot use and present these facts to her. Its my opinion is that pot is dangerously evil and that's how I stayed away from it my whole life. Show her aspects of life which present successful people who don't use pot. Then show her aspects of life where people have failed because of pot use. Pot use, if the person enjoys it, always continues on to harder drugs. Research articles of girls who hit the streets because of drug use etc etc. You don't have to look far to find negative parts about pot. If it wasn't so bad, why is it illegal are questions you can ask her. I know its hard to deal with these situations but don't give up trying to sway her away from pot.
2007-12-15 11:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by Why does everyone hate me? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I honestly wouldn't punish her, if she openly came out and told you about it. I would just tell her the affects THC can have and such. There is probably a reason she told you, maybe she was looking for advice about it, or because she felt bad, or was pressured too? But punishing her, isn't going to keep her wanting to tell you things. Just talk to her, and tell her you do not want her to do it again, and if she is feeling pressured to come talk to you.
2007-12-15 11:41:53 · answer #5 · answered by MadameXCupcake 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her it's a horrible thing to get into. Be gentle, but punish her. She has to understand what she did was wrong, even if she is honest about it. Be nice, not too nice, but still - this is a fragile sititation.
2007-12-15 11:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what her experience was like and if she planned to do it again.
2007-12-15 17:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by Steve R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that weed is a nasty habit, nasty like cigarrets and that she should avoid it, she had her experience, that should be enough
2007-12-15 11:28:37 · answer #8 · answered by jamiroquai fanatic 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋