My wife is getting older and having problems with bleeding after sex, we use k-y type lubricants and still intense sex makes her bleed, of course she worries that I will cheat on her if she does not submit.I have no intention to cheat,I love her heart ,soul and know all her ins and outs ,ups and downs, we are a perfect fit, But, the testosterone thing drives me crazy,advise?
2007-12-15 11:17:32 · 10 answers · asked by Joel S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Joel, I sympathize with you and I know what you mean. Maybe it is time for you to try not being so intense with her and slowing down your rhythm. If she is getting older (as you are as well). Maybe intense sex is not what she wants all of the time and tense her muscle up. I too for some reason remain tight ( honey loves it), but we find pleasure in slow, sensual love making. That will form a deeper connection for her, causing her to get wetter and losing up and then at the end you can bring it home with a short intense climax. You said you would never cheat and you love her soul and you know her well. Take the slow route and I would guarantee that you will love her more. I love to see the look in his eyes, when our body is in a slow, but deep rhythm, the breathing get much heavier and the love is much deeper. Good luck.
2007-12-15 11:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you make a drs appointment to find out exactly why she is getting the bleeding first. Then after he or she has determined everything is ok, I would talk openly with him about her and your problem. They can give her some meds to make her libido increase. I take she is older then you. Do you have what some might consider a large penis, or on the longer side? I hate saying small normal or large, because I believe no one can say what large, normal or small is by comparing us to some one who someone else has determined are these sizes. We have what God gives us and that is normal or large to me. Anyways if this is the case, you might also try being less intense and try different penetration as to lessen the impact on her vigina where she is probably getting a thinning of her insides just like her skin on the out side will get thin with age. Keep using plenty of Astroglide or a good slippery lubricant, and if necessary masturbation will help. I know that isn't what you had in mind, but sometimes we have to do what we have to do. The fact is aslo there are many who never had intentions of cheating but ended up doing that! Good Luck! Have a very Merry Christmas and keep our troops in prayer!
2007-12-15 11:44:21 · answer #2 · answered by mandm68 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife should see her doctor if she is having irritation problems. There are vaginal creams specifically to alleviate dryness. I don't know how intense your sessions are, but surely you could ease up on some occasions. Maybe you should try some new techniques also, there are many things you can do together that are enjoyable and reduce the amount of actual penetration necessary during sex. Buy some toys or a manual for information.
2007-12-15 11:24:14 · answer #3 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need to work on that bleeding problem, especially if it is caused by sex. You didn't mention if your wife is having pain during sex or if it is just as aresult of the joggling.
You could also try different positions to see if that helps.
Welcome to old age. Are you by chance trying to deny your aging and over compensating?
Oral sex? Hint,both shower before hand.
2007-12-15 11:40:17 · answer #4 · answered by Terryc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never completely conquer the testostorone thing you will have to masturbate off and on and she's going to have to submit on occasion just so you can remain faithful.A sexless marriage is just an affair waiting to happen but there are other ways she can satisfy you without vaginal intercourse.The most important thing is that she tries to satisfy your urges somehow and you remain close as a couple.
2007-12-15 12:33:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I'm understanding is that your wife is aging and having problems satisfying you, you, you ! What a good woman!
I'd suggest a trip to the MD for her, sounds like some blood tests and perhaps a pap smear are in order.
I've attached a link for the basic info about aging and dryness.
p.s. Try "Rosey Palm" and put her health first
2007-12-15 11:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest her seeing a doctor. Just because she's older doesn't mean her bleeding is normal. Especially if you're using lubricants.
2007-12-15 11:26:38 · answer #7 · answered by Adrianna Scar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to see her doctor. I know of some women who have had the same problem, and it is usually just associated with menopause, but she needs to feel comfortable and that will reassure her.
2007-12-15 11:22:12 · answer #8 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too bad you are a child...give us all a break, and go out and use your PlayStation....you want us to believe she is still tight?????Yeah right!
2007-12-15 11:25:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Porn
2007-12-15 12:01:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋