whats the deal with people and sexual preferences?

Question

okay, so im a lesbian. why do people look at u wrong or like they're disgusted with you when they here that. or when u around the same group of people the same sex as you, and they dont know that ur gay but when they find out, they act all different around u like u want them and u dont. what is that? why do people act like that? And why do people even care about gay marriage? i Mean if 2people of the same sex want to get married bcuz they love eachother shouldnt they? i know the whole point is to get married have a child, but what if u already have a child? And yes i do beleave in hell and heavin, and im tired of people sayin im going to hell, they don't know, they're not God! i mean u can repint for your sins, right? well anyways i would like all my questions to be answerd please! thank you! but i would really like to know everyones else's views on this!

Answer 1

It is strange how much some heterosexual people obsess about gay sex. I have never quite understood that either. I have absolutely no interest at all in what they get up to and would rather not know, yet whenever homosexuality is discussed it seem that the actual mechanics of sex are the sole point of focus.
I hear what you are saying about people of the same sex's attitude changing. I haven't seen that too often, but there can also be this assumption you are going to leap on them at any moment - they don't seem to understand that they aren't quite as irresistible as they think they are.

As for the rest of it, OK marriage is historically between a man and a woman, but just because that's what's always happened doesn't mean it's right. Historically we used to burn witches something we've learned not to do too often in these these more enlightened days.

If two adults love each other and want to legally certify their relationship then they should be allowed to do so. If two people of the opposite sex can marry then so should two people of the same sex. That is only fair and equal treatment.

On the whole "going to Hell" bit - personally I don't believe in God, sin or Hell, but even if they do exist, no creature intelligent enough to create this universe would make me gay and then punish me for it. It doesn't make any sense to me.

Remember, people used the religious arguments 200 years ago to justify slavery by saying that africans didn't have souls. It would pay not to take *anything* they say at face value.

As for repentance, I don't feel I have the need to repent or feel guilty for anything as far as my sexual orientation is concerned. It is who I am. If people don't like the fact I'm gay then I don't really care, that is more their problem than mine. I can't control their ignorance and bigotry but I can control how I react to it. I choose to ignore them.

Answer 2

Most people never take the time to consider the source, usually their parents. It just shows you the igornance that has been out there for many years. Since Mom & dad failed in this area, it is left up to those who are there to educate this igonrance. There are some that it is just better off letting them show how stupid they are. (Religous Wrong) Not hell freezing over can change this, I my self fell it from to much inbreeding some where along the family line. At almost 50 I've seen just about all the stupid people I care to meet for one life. Knowing when to take the time to educate and then knowing to do the old hit and run, to cut ones loss before it effects you. Remember this from the Bible' ye without sin can cast the first stone' and this one 'Judge not lest ye be judge'. that should cover all the bases for the igorant right.

Answer 3

Because in the 21st century, gays and lesbians have the same rights as everyone else. However, a lot of people still have old fashioned views against gays, and still think it is wrong for 2 people of the same sex to fall in love. I also believe in heaven and hell, and I often feel that I will go to hell. This is because I constantly hear homophobia, and am quite pesimistic. From what I hear about Chritisan beliefs, your sins are forgiven if you are sorry for them. Also, I was recently studying reasons for marriage in RE. There are many reasons as to why people get married, having children is one of them. Other reasons include to show your commitment to your wife/husband and God.

EDIT: Sorry, forgot to say that I belive about going to hell is a load of crap.

Answer 4

Well if it helps any, I wouldnt care one way or another if you were gay bi lesbien straight whatever...If you were my friend and I didnt know you were a lesbien and all the sudden I found out, I can HONESTLY say that I would act no differently. Sexual preference means nothing to me, not at all. It makes me a sad that people judge people on this, or skin color, or religion, things like that, I get so mad, it just doesnt make sense. I am not a lesbien, or gay, never will be, but I dont care who is. You cannot help who you fall in love with. :)

Answer 5

First off, you can't control or help how others feel about us (the LGBT). Its hard enough to realize our own fears and phobias (and a phobia IS a fear based on being irrational!) So, if we find it hard enough to control our own beliefs and feelings, why take it bad when someone else looks at you unkindly? ITS JUST THEIR OPINION, and we all know what that's like - and we all know what "that's" full of (four letter word, begins with "S.") Yes, it gets depressing at times, however by being their friend or at least acquaintance, you will have it in your power to show them how we truly are!

It just takes time on your part to show them that we're not so different after all.

Answer 6

I sounds like you've got some narrow and hollow people around you, so i hope you can get out of there and move to where there is some more tolerance.
I also don't know why people think it's their business who somebody else loves or what people do for fun in bed. I just figure they are not really FOR freedom.

Answer 7

it's because people are not trying to accept you. it may come of a shocker to them, and you have to give them a chance to get comfortable with you. i don't know why people say "oh you're going to hell" because your right they're not God, and they're probably the ones going to hell for trying to say we are. But personally i don't care what people think and you shouldn't either, everybody has there own opinions and outlook on things because everybody isn't the same at all.

Answer 8

I dont know, I would not act like that though! Like you said I am not GOD so I dont know if you are going to hell or not and people should not be allowed to judge other people. I guess you dont have to tell them, they will eventually find out. If it makes you feel better I am also going to hell, but for other reasons :(

Answer 9

Our society has a long and tortured history based on fear and loathing of anything or anyone we don't understand or who is different from us. I don't know where this fear and superstition originated, but the organized religions (all of them) keep it going. You are a unique individual. Don't worry so much about what other people think. You are not a sinner and therefore have nothing to repent for. Love yourself, value your strengths and embrace your weaknesses and don't let other people's opinions shape your self-esteem or your world view. You are who you are. That's all there is to it.

Answer 10

I don't mind if people are gay or lesbian or bi or transexual or whatever. And I don't think people should treat you differently or especially become disgusted at you. There's NOTHING wrong or nasty about homosexuality. It's just wrong that people would immediately relate homosexuality to sin or hell because we should accept people despite gender preferences.