A guy who is also a member of my writing group stared at me the entire time during the first meeting that I joined. Since then, a year ago, he continues to stare and make eye contact. He always smiles when I do and he is a guaranteed laugher when I crack jokes. Occasionally we waits for me after class to ask me a question about my writing (usually work related), but when I approach him to talk he runs from me. Why?
Figuring I did or said something wrong, I let it go and try to carry one without acknowledging him, but then he does something to get my attention. He still stares and still wants to talk when he approaches me. Occasionally I bring an activity to do when we have a party and he always joins in or if no one else is interested, he is.
He is one of those kinda situations that if he were interested in me, I would enjoy dating him and if not, I am also fine with not dating him, What bothers me is that he puts me in situations that make me feel rejected by him and I do not understand why. I am not the kind of person to hurt other people’s feelings, yet he keeps setting me up to be rejected by him. WHY? Is he some kind of nut that gets off on hurting (specifically) me?
When I ignore him, he pursues me aggressively, then when I try to talk to him usually to be polite, he runs (we are both adult individuals)!
What can I do to get him to stop this behavior and either talk to me as a friend, or stop pursuing and staring at me in class?
2007-12-15 09:53:08 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
He could be a really creepy nut who enjoys upsetting you.
He could be extremely shy and insecure, too afraid to take the big step into a relationship.
He could really like you, but maybe he likes his wife better.
Any one of those options makes him a REALLY BAD choice as a boyfriend, or even just a friend. You really don't want him to do anything except stop staring and leave you alone!
Some of the behavior you describe could be seen as harassment, so you should consider talking to your teacher or a school administrator about the problem. If he's a nut case, you don't want to deal with it all alone.
2007-12-15 10:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by Sara Katrina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him. You say you are both adults. Ask him to explain his behavior. He could be just shy. He may even like you so much he's afraid to deal with it. Or he could be just a nut. Confrontation will tell you a lot.
2007-12-15 10:03:45 · answer #2 · answered by beingagood1 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hard to say what his problem is, I personally would be cordial to him when he speaks to you and dont approach him.
Being hurt ny this behavior, dont set yourself up for it.
2007-12-15 10:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by ideame 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES
2007-12-15 09:56:51 · answer #4 · answered by SCOTT FREE 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋