My brothers fiancee bought her own ring and gave him the bill. He didn't even have a chance to go shopping with her...is she wrong to do this? I'm getting the feeling that she is controlling and she also forced the marriage thing in his head.
2007-12-15 09:11:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Problem is...my brother can't stand up for himself..so he always ends up with controlling women or ones that cheat on him. This is his second marriage in less than 5 years.
2007-12-15 09:16:28 · update #1
I know for a fact that she bought it without him knowing because she told me herself.
2007-12-15 09:18:22 · update #2
OKAY...the whole family was together for dinner and when she mentioned the engagement...my brother had mumbled...'news to me'. So if people think I need to still stay out ofthis...please let me know.
2007-12-15 09:22:06 · update #3
yeah, that's wrong. If she went and got her own engagement ring, she's totally missing the point. A ring from a fiance is supposed to mean something emotionally and sentimentally. Picking her own ring shows that she's selfish and doesn't trust his judgement...besides, did your brother say he was going to buy her a ring at all? She's kind of being presumptuous. She's totally pushing the marriage thing and unless your brother told her to go and find something she liked, she crossed the line.
2007-12-15 09:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to your brother. Ask him what's going on with the engagement. He'll talk to you if he wants to and it he doesn't, just leave it alone. Bringing down to a sister versus girlfriend/fiancee level really complicates everything in his life and hurts one or both of these relationships. Just try to be supportive without being another controlling woman in his life.
2007-12-15 09:31:26 · answer #2 · answered by amy8bug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well unless you know the inner workings of their relationship you really don't know if this is 'wrong' or not. Perhaps they arranged this, as odd as it seems. I am telling you, urging you...please do not get involved in this issue, it is between them. Getting involved can really backfire, especially when in a few years she is a part of the family and you have to see her regularly.
If he can't stand up for himself that is his own problem. I know you love and support him, but he is an adult and can leave her anytime if he decides to. I know its tough but biting your tongue, even when its right in front of you at the dinner table, is the only option. Try not to let yourself get sucked into their messes.
2007-12-15 09:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by Morley 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if thats what they agreed to do, then thats fine. Im guessing they didnt agree to do that though? Well, it would be a lil rude and presumptious, but I dont know about wrong.
I would answer the wring question by how much she spent. Did she spend an amount of money that he agreed to or that they comfortably had to spend? Or did she spend way too much?
If she spent way too much, then I would go to wrong.
2007-12-15 09:16:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This does sounds right some controlling is going on here
2007-12-15 09:20:31 · answer #5 · answered by LivingMyLife 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't pay it ( the bill )
but then i do not believe in engagement rings, much less marriage rings, those are symbols force upon us by De Beers
and serve only to keep men in paranoia about not buying the big enough ring
2007-12-15 09:18:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
yea so i have no idea why your confused about what she is doing/has done. She is jelaous of your ring and therefore felt that by getting the same ring with a bigger stone in the middle she will make you feel inferior which is insane. First off its a damn engagement ring ... who cares how big it is or if it costs $2500 or $12000. does the fact that hers cast four times what yours did mean that she loves her bf four times as much. You have got to take the high road on this one. You have no options but to just grin and bear it. Simply smile and tell her how beautiful her ring is. And if you really wanna get under her skin then tell her how ecstatic it is that you two are both engaged and start doing wedding planning together because you will go low on price and she will feel the need to go higher just to make you feel bad and will therefore spend 4 times as much as you and will never be able to afford the wedding.
2016-04-09 05:25:04 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the situation alone, it has nothing to do with you. Your brother needs to deal with this the way he feels is best.
2007-12-15 09:15:29 · answer #8 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Woah! Sounds very controlling. Did she propose to him, or did he ask her? This one won't last long!
2007-12-15 09:15:17 · answer #9 · answered by eldots53 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think that you could talk to him about it, but what he does is really his business. he will have to learn for himself, just like all other adults
2007-12-15 09:34:57 · answer #10 · answered by ★SuGar and SpiCe★ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋