baby wont sleep in crib or bassinet??

Question

my baby is 3 weeks old she wont sleep in either only in the bed with us. When I lay her in the crib she always wakes up soon and I cant get stuff done. She has a bouncer she falls asleep in it but wakes up shortly after has anyone else had this happen what helps??

Answer 1

swaddle her! get some lightweight square blankets (the baby fleece receiving blankets are fantastic) and wrap her up tight like they do in the hospital. keep her arms & legs tucked in tight. This helped my little ones sleep in their own crib because they felt secure and tight, without having mommy or daddy next to them.

best wishes!!!

Answer 2

My son just turned 8 weeks old and has been like this from day one. He sleeps with us at night and only wakes every 3 to 4 hours to nurse a bit. I have yet to be able to put him down anywhere for any extended period of time. He wakes up in five or ten minutes if I lay him down. He does not like his swing, or his vibrating chair. I bought a Moby Wrap and it has been a lifesaver for me. I can hold him and he sleeps much longer in it, while I am moving around the house doing laundry, etc. I can still do things while holding him at the same time. It may be worth getting one. I don't think there is anything wrong with holding your baby all the time. My Mom always makes comments to me about it, but, babies are small for such a short time and soon he will grow out of this phase. I am happy to hold him and cuddle him and love him, rather than letting him cry because he's laying by himself. Good luck.

Answer 3

My son never liked sleeping in his crib until he was 13 months old. From day one he has slept with me and there is nothing wrong with it. We are very close. He's 3 years old now and still 70% of the time sleeps with me. My son was the same as your daughter - as soon as I tried to put him in the crib, he woke up screaming for me. So I gave up lol the crib was like a decoration for his room.
However, I also had a small child seat, like a car seat, that you can rock with your foot. It's not a bassinet. He liked that a lot too. Plus the swing was great too. He really only hated his crib.
I wish you luck!

Answer 4

Baby slings will help you get a little work done in the daytime, but until baby adapts to her new world co-sleeping may be the best way for mom to get a good night's sleep. I learned early on, that you can't reason with an unhappy infant.

Answer 5

I am a mother of 4, my youngest being 10 months old. He was the same way, and what I had to do was let him sleep in his carseat. The doctor said this was fine, and it allowed me to get stuff done around the house. I would simply put a blanket in the carseat, set him in there and he would be out:) The carseat is a good idea also because you can rock it if you need to.

Answer 6

I had the same problem with my first child Its because the baby is still attached to mommy and you need to ween her off of you. Bringing her to bed with you and your husband isnt a good idea. It isnt safe for the child and it isnt gonna make weening the baby off mommy easier. I had to lie baby in crib but i put a battery powered clock under the blankets in the crib where it wouldnt be in babies way and the sound of the clock will help baby fall asleep and Because in the womb the baby heard a heart beet and the sound of the beating heart was stimulating for him or her to sleep because it was a constant beat. But dont let baby come sleepin your bed with you it wont help ween him or her off mommy.

Answer 7

It may help you sleep better, but can cause SIDS which would be awful. It may be best to put off whatever it is you have to do until someone is home to help you. At night, you could try to swaddle her and put her bassinet next to your bed. Good luck!

Answer 8

Yep, this is pretty typical. We co-slept at night, and used a wrap-style sling during the day.

Answer 9

Sleep with her at night, and wear her in a carrier while sleeping during the day.

http://www.kathydettwyler.org/detsleepthrough.html
The same is true of sleeping. Human children are designed to be sleeping with their parents. The sense of touch is the most important sense to primates, along with sight. Young primates are carried on their mother's body and sleep with her for years after birth, often until well after weaning. The expected pattern is for mother and child to sleep together, and for child to be able to nurse whenever they want during the night. Normal, healthy, breastfed and co-sleeping children do not sleep "through the night" (say 7-9 hours at a stretch) until they are 3-4 years old, and no longer need night nursing. I repeat -- this is NORMAL and HEALTHY. Dr. James McKenna's research on co-sleeping clearly shows the dangers of solitary sleeping in young infants, who slip into abnormal patterns of very deep sleep from which it is very difficult for them to rouse themselves when they experience an episode of apnea (stop breathing). When co-sleeping, the mother is monitoring the baby's sleep and breathing patterns, even though she herself is asleep. When the baby has an episode of apnea, she rouses the baby by her movements and touch. This is thought to be the primary mechanism by which co-sleeping protects children from Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. In other words, many cases of SIDS in solitary sleeping children are thought to be due to them having learned to sleep for long stretches at a time at a very early age, so they find themselves in these deep troughs of sleep, then they may experience an episode of apnea, and no one is there to notice or rouse them from it, so they just never start breathing again. Co-sleeping also allows a mother to monitor the baby's temperature during the night, to be there if they spit up and start to choke, and just to provide the normal, safe environment that the baby/child has been designed to expect.

Is this convenient for parents? No!

Is this difficult for some new parents to adjust to? Yes!

No doubt about it, the gap between what our culture teaches us to expect of the sleep patterns of a young child (read them a story, tuck them in, turn out the light, and not see them again for 8 hours) and the reality of how children actually sleep if healthy and normal, yawns widely.

But the first steps to dealing with the fact that your young child doesn't sleep through the night, or doesn't want to sleep without you is to realize that:

* (1) Not sleeping through the night until they are 3 or 4 years of age is normal and healthy behavior for human infants.
* (2) Your children are not being difficult or manipulative, they are being normal and healthy, and behaving in ways that are appropriate for our species.

Once you understand these simple truths, it becomes much easier to deal with parenting your child at night. Once you give up the idea that you must have 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep at night, and view these nighttime interactions with your child as precious and fleeting, you get used to them very quickly.

Answer 10

yes that is why I began cosleeping and am still. We all sleep much better now.