ok..... i am bisexual, and i hav only told my closest friends and my sister. all of whom i trust completley. and we are going down to see family for chritmas, and my aunt will be there. my aunt is a lesbian and is the one extended family member who could help me figure out how to tell my parents. my parents are extremley consevative, and when my mom found out tht my aunt was a lesbian, she didn't talk to her for about 2 years. and i don't want my mom to diown me when i tell her. so i have 2 questions
1. what should i ask my aunt?
2. how should i tell my parents
2007-12-15 08:50:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It'll probably be different when you're mum finds out, than it was when she found out about her aunt. It's a lot easier to live without a distant family member than it is to live without your daughter, so she'll have to confront the issue properly this time instead of just blanking you.
It's great you have someone in your family who will actually understand you, not just be sympathetic. I would tell her first, and see how you feel- she might help you feel more confident so that even if your mum is a bit funny about it you don't crumble.
There isn't really any 'way' that you tell someone. Just say it!
Just wait until you're alone with your mum and just ask her to listen and then tell her. Don't let yourself feel ashamed or embarrassed- you don't have to. If anyone gets upset- let it be her.
2007-12-15 08:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by skyespirit86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell ur aunt the truth, but putting ur aunt in between with your mom is not a good idea, at least thats what i think. if i was you i won't even talk to ur aunt until after ur parents know the truth.
go to ur parents , ur mom first tell her about how u feel and that 'r not the one who decided to be gay, u were born like this. show ur mom some evidence like try to prove to her that u didnt decide to be bi , it is u!
ur mom should support u , just give her some time to figure it out.
btw i have the same problem i'm 20 but i dont think i'm ready to tell my parents, cz i havent found that girl that means the world to me.
so as an opinion i wouldnt tell my parents if i was u until i find the right girl that u'r ready to give ur life for.
wish u all the best
2007-12-15 09:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by lscence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all let me say that BISEXUALS ARE NOT CONFUSED. but you hoodylet must be if you think that =] well here let ME a proud bisexual UNCONFUSE you. bisexuals in most cases kno exactly what they like men and women im not speaking for everyone but i dont think love should be based on if your a man or a woman that doesnt mean ne thing. now to answer the question i think that you should deff tell your aunt..just tell her..and ask her what she thinks you should do...when i told my mom she said it was a tomboy phase and i would get over it...yea...no. lol. its not a phase and theres no getting over it. dont let anyone talk you into saying that your only confused. cause your not.
2007-12-15 09:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by aydraydray 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's all up to you. Don't let ANYONE pressure you. It's you, do it when you are sure you are ready. You may want to talk to your aunt for advice about how to come out. When/if you tell your parents, try telling them to go to pflag.com or check out "Now That You Know" from your local library.
2007-12-15 08:54:09 · answer #4 · answered by That Gay Guy for Da Ben Dan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know..i'm 17 i'm also confused..i also got an aunt who is a lesbo..the only sis of my mom...but at least they really did accept her...you can talk to your aunt...like tell her...'i got this prob and i think you will understand this..i'm a bi...but i'm really scared to tell my mom...' then maybe she can help you...good luck darling...
one time, my mom thought i was a lesbo..but i cleared it that i'm not...lol
2007-12-15 15:17:09 · answer #5 · answered by justME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in my words your say bisexual i think you are confused and dont know what you want to be. I hope you choose men in the end. you must reproduce i mean you are a woman right? use your gift from gift
2007-12-15 08:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok i've been through this i'm bi well just confront your mom & &tell her i had to tell my mom && she excepeted it && if your mom really loves you she will 2~!
2007-12-15 09:13:27 · answer #7 · answered by jessica e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell you parents
2007-12-15 09:11:42 · answer #8 · answered by irish_matt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋