Someone in my school jumped off a bridge, committed suicide. I never knew him but I saw him everyday, we did the same sport only different sections. The school is torn apart and so am I. I'm looking for some healthy ways to cope with this, it's really hitting me hard. Thank you, god bless, R.I.P.
2007-12-15 08:39:05 · 14 answers · asked by flirtylilactress 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You can cope by remembering all the other people that are effected too. Be more aware of other peoples feelings and how you interact everyday with people you don't really know and if a friend starts acting oddly, step in and be a real friend listen to their problems, try to be supportive. The kid who killed himself could have used a friend too.You can't help him , but you can help someone else.
2007-12-15 08:48:36 · answer #1 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds awful. I'm sorry this happened.
I'm not an expert but this is what I usually do. When I feel sad, I take some time alone to really feel all of my sadness. I think of all the reasons why I can possibly feel sad, in this case, he was a young guy just like you, he may have had problems that you could have helped with, etc. Let it all build up and allow yourself to cry ... a lot. Don't stop until you can no longer cry anymore. This may sound crazy but to me it's better than trying not to think about it or to just be a little sad for a long time. I'd rather feel very very sad for a short time.
I hope you feel better soon.
2007-12-15 08:43:55 · answer #2 · answered by LGuerrrr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question....Because you were probably in an about the same age as this individual, you will relate very closely with someone you don't know....understanding maybe why, and working through it will help...you will garner info through the grapevine which will give you a head's up on what to believe or not believe and then you go from there, working it out....it will eventually leave your active mind, but you will come back to this moment in time, many times during your life. You will learn lessons from it to, whether you know it or not...good luck and keep your chin up and on the right path...it was him/her, not you that made a decision on the path to take for whatever reasons...
2007-12-15 08:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by basport_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, don't worry about it why are you stressed out? People die, he was unhappy and isn't anymore, yes it sucks for his family and you should feel bad for them, but come on. Two of my teachers have died of unnatural causes, and it sucked, we often do stuff for the families, but don't be sad or put off by it. Why is it that strange? It shouldn't bother you, just feel weird for a week. You still have a life, and you like it, so go eat popsicles or poptarts and get a boyfriend, and have fun. Don't think about the dead people they have their peace, It happens to people all the time. Enjoy what you got left!
2007-12-15 08:45:33 · answer #4 · answered by ghettoballzofiron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, i am sorry to hear such a terible thing. Although u didnt know him personally, it would hit u hard as u saw this person every day and they were familiar to you. I cant really tell you how to get through this as people have different ways of dealing with death. I think you should maybey have time out. Talk to a teacher, talk to your parents. Even talk to your friends. Its best to talk through things like this. All i can say to you is that I am thinking of you and I hope you get through this in your own way. xxx
2007-12-15 08:44:33 · answer #5 · answered by sarahhhhhhh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about it with someone you trust, or with the other people who are coping with the same thing. Trying to forget will only bring it back later.
2007-12-15 08:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by Hmm? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
remind yourself why you are happy you are alive, and think this- he wanted to be away from this drama-filled life and he must be happier living it up. he wen to heaven and is having a smile as big as the sun.
you- just keep up with your life. get out and do something. you don';t want to be glum forever. get a group to go to the movies, mall, etc!
school stuck with ya? ask the teachers to make everyday brighter. maybe lunch you could bring candy for everyone.
hope this helps,
RIP, enternal soul
2007-12-15 08:43:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get together with some ofthose others who are devestated too, and who want to work through it.
Then talk to each other about it, listen to what each other has to say.
By expressing how you feel, and hearing others express similar feelings, over time, you can think it through, and move on from it.
2007-12-15 14:03:04 · answer #8 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope you are ok. that is very tough to deal with..the only thing to do is remember someone with good thought in mind and talk to people who knew him and loved him..there is no way anyone can prevent it from happening and when it does people blame themselves..you seem to be doing ok and this is a good way to deal with it!! keep the faith!!
2007-12-15 08:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by skimad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 21:37:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋