2007-12-15 07:55:55 · 21 answers · asked by lzbthsykes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ask him. Dont start calling the mistress, thats really in poor form.
When I was 19 I had a one night stand with an older guy. He wasnt technically married, but had a child and lived with sig other. I was under the impression that they had broken up when the one night stand happened, but what was really going on was she had lied saying she took off with another man and staked out where he was staying to see how long it took him to have another woman over.
She saw us, supposedly took pics, but I never saw them. Then she harrassed me over the phone for a couple years about it. It was really tacky the way she called ranting and raving and demanding I tell her the truth.
Calling the other woman may or may not get answers. If she doesnt know the full situation and she feels like she has been lied to, you might get somehwere. But if she does know the situation, or if he has said bad things about you, she probably wont be of help.
I dont really know what to tell you to do, bc he will probably lie too, but calling the mistress more than likely wont do you any good.
2007-12-15 08:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
How would you call his so called mistress if you only feel like your husband is cheating on you? But if you are sure then do both. Don't cut either one a bit of slack. He is your husband not hers and so you have every right to stir up some crap. Go get em. That is so messed up for people have affairs when they are still married.
2007-12-15 08:35:56 · answer #2 · answered by Fergy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a mistress, then he is having an affair. So therefore, if you know who his mistress is, you already know the answer to the question
2007-12-15 08:24:41 · answer #3 · answered by chinamigarden 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your just "feeling" he's having one, then your better off to talk with him. IF your NOT even sure, how can you go to a "mistress".
In other words, you suspect a certain woman don't you?
Well, first talk to him, don't give him enough time to contact her, go right to her after your talk and compare the conversations and you'll have the answers.
2007-12-15 08:06:40 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's talk , now you think that he is cheating as a woman when we think like that its going on trust me, and you know within your heart that he is you just want him to tell you, right men are not going to tell you if it means that he may have to loose his family, and you know who that scank is because you want to call her hell yeah call her and them see how he's going to react to what you have done, trust me he will say something or lose his mind, that you called his you know what I want to call her B*!*$. Sister girl he will go off, if guilty. You must be prepare for the answer you might not want to hear but I would call her or meet up with her for lunch and plan to have him also be there but DO NOT tell him what you have planned. I hate a man that cheats, I been there and I wish for no wife to have to travel that road it hurts. I hope that this was not a friend of yours. Write back to me @ my e-mail address. I wish you well and GOD bless you. Bring this out into the open so you won't feel like the fool, I know that feeling.
2007-12-15 08:19:41 · answer #5 · answered by laylay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quietly bring up the subject with your husband. If he is having an affair you can decide what to do later. If he is not having an affair, give him the opportunity to clear your suspicions without bringing others in on your suspicions.
2007-12-15 15:23:38 · answer #6 · answered by mesquiteskeetr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
number one, this is not a feeling, you already know your husband is having an affair, and you know who she is. don,t call her she will only lie, not respond or get a good feeling for knowing she's hurting you. don't ask him tell him and when you do have the proof. or better yet catch him cold in the act. so he can't lie. believe me if you ask without proof he will "lie" I hope he's not but have a decision when you bust him. remember only you can decide what's best for you. others can only give you advise bou can not live your life.
2007-12-15 08:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by rouge300c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel he is, he probably is. He's not thinking of you, the mistress doesn't need to think about you, but YOU need to think about YOU. Get your mind, heart and house in order. I don't think you need to steer someone elses life and that is what you'd be doing by confronting hubby dear. Be kind to yourself, don't cop an attitude around him, but "get yourself right". You may need this opportunity to grow. Things will present themselves in due time without your imput. Kids? They are your priority. Good luck, it'll get you on the right track.
2007-12-15 08:08:08 · answer #8 · answered by folklore 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband. He's the one that is betraying you. The mistress probably doesn't even know you so don't waste your time with her. Your husband is the one that has to explain his actions to you, not her.
2007-12-15 08:00:33 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him
if youre still not satisfied, call the mistress
either way...be ready for whatever the answers maybe
it may not be what you wanna hear
also there may be lies at first, so ya have to watch out for that
the mistress will lie for him no matter what, she thinks shes better than you, so they laugh at you behind your back
dont chase after his ***...leave him alone
hes not going to admit to you that hes having an affair
he'll prolly deny it til the end of time
2007-12-15 08:06:40 · answer #10 · answered by meallmeallthetime 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋