who you know loves you, but doesn't seem to like you, and you don't know why, and she won't talk about it, how would you handle that relationship?? Serious answers only please.
2007-12-15 07:51:09 · 6 answers · asked by Meeshmai 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
She has never really been close to me since we moved close to her dad, and she developed epilepsy around 12 and was not put on drugs until 5 years ago (complex partial absence seizures) It has been a difficult road for a long time, she used to tell me that she didn't know how to be close to me...go figure. She has really been mean the last few months, before the wedding. He is kind of controlling and passive agressive with me only since the marriage which is one month so far, but they have been living together in his parents basement for 4 years while they both finished school. So I don't think there is physical abuse or anything. I think he treats her really well and never even raises his voice when she goes off on him.
2007-12-15 12:16:56 · update #1
interested to know if this is a new thing? or just since the marriage?
I've had terrible problems with my Daughter, whom I will always dearly love. She has done some awful things out of pure meanness, I will never understand. All I can do is keep doing the best I can, if she chooses not to be a part of my life, then that's something I'm going to have to live with. I hate it tho... there are granddaughters involved too so its 4x as bad for me! If you want to chat you can send me an email and i will add you to my instant messaging! I'm sorry dear, I know this hurts your heart! Bug Hug!
2007-12-15 08:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship between the two of you was great, right up until she got married, may have something to do with her spouse.
This may not be her situation.
One of the first things a controlling husband does: limit contact with the family, and especially you, if you are the closest to her.
If you should say anything negative or question her about it, she may tell him or cling closer to him.
The best thing to do is tell her you are there for her and you love her just as much as always.
2007-12-15 17:07:24 · answer #2 · answered by kriend 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had this sort of problem with my son. I knew he resented somrtjing I had or hadn,t done in the past as he was growing uo but he refused to talk about it. I tried talking to his wife about ot but she couldn't help.
So I have just continued to show him my love and support as usual. I have told him once clearly that if he ever wants to discuss anything with me I will be honest with my replies and explanations, but that I would not press the issue again. And I haven't. Gradually he has eased up and become warmer towards me, openly loving even . I think he needed time and a bit of maturity to come to terms with his issues.
Perhaps your daughter needs time to. Just do as I did and love and support her however possible.
2007-12-15 16:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by bri 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it started before she got married I think you need to ask her. I would need to know why and if I had done something to offend. If it is since the marriage it could be personal with her and the hubby and I think she will tell you if and when she is ready. good luck
2007-12-15 16:43:56 · answer #4 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In delicate situation like this i would just let it go as it is. No pressure and no force. If she has a problem she will tell u. If she doesn't have any problem but just simply doesn't like u then whatever u will do will be wrong. Just wait and abserve
2007-12-15 16:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by Lost In Space 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hard I know...but I'd just let her guide you. Whatever she is 'holding' can't be forced and in time, she may share OR she may just finally let go of whatever it is [the better route I believe]
Don't push - and just continue to show her she is appreciated, loved AND liked :-)
I love all my children, but just like everyone else in life they sometimes act or do things that make me not like the deed....I get over it!...so will she
2007-12-15 15:56:09 · answer #6 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋