i mean lets think about it. lets say u love the person so much & everything. but individually u have different things. lets say u have the house & the land before marriage, u both have cars & money before u get married ( but u have more money). with the world as it is today maybe the man wants to protect what was his before marriage. i'm nt saying that a divorce is imminent but divorce does happen & it brings out the worst in people. then the man gets shafted no matter what happens.
the alternative would be going to a state that has no common law marriage & just live there. then there would be no issue about who gets what. you take with u what u had before u got into the relationship. i'm nt saying marriage is crazy or anything but it has gotten to the point where when u get married & divorced its one sided. one person gets shafted while the other person lives better than the other. do any of u agree?
2007-12-15 06:56:59 · 14 answers · asked by conan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no matter how much your in love with a person when u marry them, theres no guarantee it won't one day end in divorce, and if u have as setts, its always the wisest thing to do to have a prenup, if theres never a divorce than it won't affect anyone, but if there is, u won't end up dead broke, and sorry u didn't get a prenup.
2007-12-15 07:16:38 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Prenups never stand up in court. In fact the fact that a prenup was asked for can actually be used AGAINST the person who had more assets.
It give credence to the womans claim that the man saw this more as a business deal not a marriage. It gives credence to a claim that this was held over her. It looks like one didn't get married for all of the right reasons.
2007-12-15 08:41:16 · answer #2 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On one hand, I don't like the idea of a prenup. Maybe it's just me, being a woman, that thinks it's too much like saying that you KNOW your marriage is going to end in divorce.
But, on the other hand, I think that it's good to protect your assets...it isn't fair that in some divorces, one party walks away with everything, including what the other person had before they got married.
2007-12-15 08:39:37 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. GTO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all marriage destroys all relationships so the best thing to do is not get married having said that if you have to be stupid and get married you better have a prenup. Why? Because the second you say "I DO" the relationship is over. Some people realize it in a few weeks some a few years depending on how much you lie to yourself. Happy Holidays and good luck!!
2007-12-15 07:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't believe in them. Asking someone to sign a pre-nup is basically saying this:
"When our marriage fails, you are not going to screw me. What we have is not solid, and when we split up I don't want you taking anything that belongs to me."
A prenup means that you do not trust the person you are going to marry, you are convinced your marriage will fail (so why bother marrying in the first place) and you are more concerned with protecting your THINGS than you are your heart. If it were the other way around, you wouldn't have to sign a prenup in the first place!
And "Dood" when we met, we were both living in apartments and put an equal amount down on our first home so all things are equal. Neither one of us had HUGE assets, and I guess I don't understand why people can't do a 50/50 split when a marriage ends.
2007-12-15 07:05:43 · answer #5 · answered by Marina 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If the person having to sigh the prenup really love the person asking then it should not be a problem. There are to many scoundrels out there to screw you and run. With the prenup at least the person with the goods won't loose what they have earned.
2007-12-15 07:02:56 · answer #6 · answered by silvrhawk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think people get what they deserve by making bad choices and then blaming others. If a man feels "shafted" he needs to address his own behavior and take responsibility for that first before he starts calling "fowl".
However, after my daughters marriage of 4 months where her now ex husband drained her inheritance dry before he walked out on her, I will make sure my daughters don't ever get married without a prenup if it takes my last breath.
2007-12-15 07:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think a prenup is a good idea
granted it detracts from the romance of marriage, but lets be sensible
a lot of marriages end in divorce
And from my perspective, id want one. I have a great job, a great house, and a son that i have to provide for.
Would i hell want some guy coming into my life and being able to claim half of everything
No way
Prenups all the way
lol
2007-12-15 07:03:01 · answer #8 · answered by karenp2837 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with them. I think of them like an insurance policy. You don't know the future; you simply know the risk is there, so you plan for it. It's no worse than taking out homeowner's insurance in case your house burns down.
And prenups don't cause marriages to end any more than homeowner's insurance causes houses to burn down.
2007-12-15 07:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with a prenup. Most likely, the partner who doesn't like a prenup is the one who has little to lose.
2007-12-15 07:10:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋