I'm not really comfortable with him being around a lot of (possibly germ-carrying) people. And I really don't see the point in him going. It's not like he's going to enjoy it. But I'm tired of being acused of not ever letting them do anything with him. I just think he's too young to do most of the things they want to do with him.
2007-12-15 06:47:31 · 27 answers · asked by Beam 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
An office Christmas Party is definitely NOT the place for a baby period... If she doesn't have any more sense than to want to put her entire office in an awkward position then you need to protect her from herself> I know "everyone loves babys" and if that were really true we wouldn't have ANY child abuse.... The last thing an OFFICE party needs is a baby....
This has NOTHING to do with whether the people would adore your baby, they can do that from a picture...Protect your baby from being handed around like a foot ball and make some other arrange ment to show off Grandbaby when people are under your control, not PARTYING.... even if there is NO alcohol, people don't always have good sense at Parties, that is why the are called Parties..... Stick to your guns and don't let her push you into some thing you know is not right.
2007-12-15 07:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by Judy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That does seem like an odd place to want to take him... like it's more about her than him, perhaps?
If you aren't comfortable with it, then don't let her.
Suggest an alternative. Blame germs, the weather, anything, and suggest a baby friendly alternative, like to the mall to get pictures done or something.
PittbullMamma had some great suggestions for activities. He's too little for an office party that isn't even yours!
2007-12-15 07:05:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're his mom, you get to decide who, what, when, where he goes, does, etc. Personally, taking him to an office x-mas party doesn't seem fit for a 3 1/2 mo old. Most Christmas parties include drinking, whether it be wine or beer, etc... lots of adults and I really never heard of many companies having children at them, as it is the company who is providing it for its EMPLOYEES and spouses.
I would ask her why should wants to take him there? To show him off? Well, that's fine... suggest her taking to get his picture taken professionally and take along the photos to brag.
If she is always suggesting things you don't think is appropriate for his age, then suggest some that are, so that way she doesn't think you're just being 'over-protective' or just accusing you of not letting her spend time with him.
Some suggestions:
-a walk when its nice out (don't know where u live)
-ask her if she'd like to join a baby gym... parents or grandparents join and spend time with the kids at a gym coached by a professional... promotes bonding, etc. They usually gather once a week. Could be something she and your son could do for just the two of them.
-ask her to watch your son, at your house, while you go upstairs and take a nice long bubble bath and have 'you' time.
-check with your local library, YMCA, etc for activities that suit your sons age that she and him can do
2007-12-15 06:57:00 · answer #3 · answered by PitbullMamma 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
lighten up a little mom there are germs every where. If you keep him cooped up all the time he is bound to get sick. Your lucky your have a mother in law that is proud of her new grand baby because it isn't always the case. Maybe you could make an arrangment with her and you could go along for a while and take the baby home with you when you leave.
2007-12-16 08:33:17 · answer #4 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way I would send my son to an office party at 3 1/2 months old. If she wanted to watch him at her home, that would be a different story but he is just too young to go to her party.
2007-12-15 07:32:07 · answer #5 · answered by Cruz and Kinsley's momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly are kids even INVITED? Most of the time kids are not invited to company parties or at best they have a separate party JUST for the kids. The staff party is for adults... many of whom will be drinking.
If it was YOUR company and you were uncomfortable leaving a 3 month old with a sitter THEN it might be appropriate to take an infant to an adult party.
Personally I probably wouldn't leave a 3 month old in anyone's care but I breastfeed and I'm just like that. If she REALLY "needs" to show him off to her co-workers arrange to stop by with him one day. Ultimately you are mom and you shouldn't do anything hat makes you uncomfortable/stressed/worried; you have maternal instinct for a reason.
2007-12-15 07:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't feel comfortable with that either. It is the height of cold/flu season and there will be tons of people wanting to hold and touch and kiss on him. I'm sure very few will leave, go into a restroom and thoughtfully wash their hands before touching your child. I don't see the point in her taking him to the party either.
Maybe if he was older... like next year (when he's 15 months old... that would be different.
I was accused of being "paranoid" about my son being around "germy people" when he was a tiny baby. My mil still makes stupid comments now that he's 2 years old like... "oh, I better wash my hands before I touch you, just a minute sweetie" (to my son). It really bugs me, but I just try to ignore it. Grandparents... especially mil's can get very touchy and very opinionated about how you do things. But you're the mom, not her... so listen to your gut.
2007-12-15 07:05:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, all she wants to do is show him off. She is a proud Grandma. I'm not saying if it is right or wrong. If you are worried about the "germ thing" I just have to ask, has he been to a grocery store or mall? If so, and the party accommodates his nap/sleep schedule what is the harm?
She is just proud and wants to show him off. I became a Grandma 3 years ago and there is no feeling like it. If it doesn't hurt anyone let her. Her heart will be filled with joy!!
2007-12-15 10:40:48 · answer #8 · answered by proud grandma 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO I would sooo not let my MIL take my child to an office christmas party. If it was my own christmas party then yes... but you aren't going to be there so NO. If she wants to show him off she can take a picture with her. I would think that if your MIL wants to do something with him she should just be satisfied with visits from you to her house or visits from her to your house. Once he is past 6m old then maybe he could go over to her house but even then I would be freaked out.....lol. I feel more comfortable after they are a year old leaving them alone for a long period of time with g-ma and g-pa.
2007-12-15 06:57:51 · answer #9 · answered by lovemy2boys&girl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
3 1/2 months is not too young to start getting used to being around new people. Remember that your mother-in-law had to be a mother first before she could be a mother-in-law so she has had some experience. I understand your worry, especially if this is your first child, but there are things that you can do to allay your fears and still let Grandma have some fun. If you feel that you can trust her to do as you ask, send along a bottle of hand sanitizer and tell Grandma that you know that the baby won't remember his first Christmas but that you know that Grandma will, so you don't want Grandma's Christmas being spoiled by a sick grandchild. Then ask Grandma to use the sanitizer and have anyone else use it before they touch the baby. It gives her
1. some time alone with her grandchild,
2. shows her that you trust her to be responsible (after all she did a good job with your spouse, right?),
3. kills any germs before they get to the baby, and
4.gives you some, much needed I'm sure, time off.
2007-12-15 07:01:40 · answer #10 · answered by Jeanne R 7 · 0⤊ 5⤋