I'm 48, h'es a 52 yr old pastor, for 20 mos. we were close to the point of marriage , now an 23 yr old young woman has come in our congregation , and his eyes are on her now , till desire shows, I don't know how to feel , I gave up everything to relocate , to be in his ministry with him, now it seems all is in vain, she is young, physically attractive, that's all she has to offer , but I have the skill and ability to minister to him 3 fold body, soul ,spirit, with my attractiveness., do I lat go , are let this play out or will it ?
2007-12-15 05:37:34 · 11 answers · asked by rue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the chances of a 23 year old woman wanting to be with a 52 year old man are slim, she won't want him, not for very long anyway. never give up everything unless theres a chance of marriage, because it all could be in vain. he might have eyes for her, but that doesn't mean she could ever really love someone with that big of an age difference. but if his eyes are on this young woman now, there will be others too. so just wait and see what happens, but if u confront him be prepared to maybe hear things u don't want to hear.
2007-12-15 05:49:10 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to reality and count your blessing you didn't get married!!! How are you 48 and haven't learned the facts of life yet?!?! You are learning them now!!! Here are some more just in case:
1. There is no Santa
2. There might be a Bigfoot
3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
4. Marriage ruins relationships (moving in is the same)
5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
6. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me
if you want to hear the truth. You can ask me anything.
I don't lie.
2007-12-15 15:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea why you would want to bother with a grown man who thinks he's got a chance with a young woman half his age. Men in their 50's choose to ignore their aging bodies, not to mention the high rate of sexual dysfunction, but mostly forget that a NORMAL 23yr old woman should not want to be with a man her fathers age.
Honey, you are young enough to find a good Christian man who is grounded in reality. Move on.
2007-12-15 13:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter the age. Sounds like you are letting jealousy cloud your thoughts. Does it not occur to you he has just abandoned you for someone else? Doesn't matter if she is young or not. What matter is that he is a dog going after lust. Are you sleeping with him too? It sure soundsl ike he doesn't care for you, just leave out of sight. Run far away from him and NEVER take him back. He is a bad bad man.
2007-12-15 13:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by LiJones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it play out. Don't put the carriage before the horse. Our minds can play alot of tricks on us when it comes to jealousy. Good luck
2007-12-15 13:42:51 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to practice what he preaches and honor the promises he made to you. Sad world when even the pastor is mentally undressing other women right in front of his significant!
2007-12-15 13:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have asked the question to the wrong person he is right in front of you talk to him ask him what he thinks and wants, family friends co workers can not tell you what he wants and feels, only him, if you think something is wrong talk to him then god and you will not be lead astray, god has your life plan in line, pray and talk to your man god, then talk to your man at home, good communication with your spouse is the only way to work threw stuff.
2007-12-15 13:45:42 · answer #7 · answered by joe f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was messing with you from the start, when someone more attractive than that woman will come by, he will move on to her then....just keep yourself busy adn try not to think of him he was playing you and is also playin the girl
2007-12-15 13:43:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your are in the church than you know you should just leave it to the big guy. His will be done, He will show you what you need to see and give you the strength to make the right decision. good luck.
2007-12-15 13:43:52 · answer #9 · answered by mariarh79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has he said to you he liked her have you talked to him yet...talk to him maybe there is nothing there. but, if he is looking at a younger lady and in the ministry maybe he is not as good of a man as you thought. a man that will stray is a man to let go.......good luck........good luck...if you want to really feel good read some of my problem's then your life will feel like gold..............God bless
2007-12-15 13:43:20 · answer #10 · answered by daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋