Ok, I have known her for about 6 years but now I feel uncomfortable around her. Her mom was diagnosed with a life threatning blood disease, and couldn't talk for about two weeks( her throat almost was swollen shut) and almost died. While she was in the hospital we stuck together...but now that she has been out of the hospital and is getting better I feel wierd around her. They always thought church was boring but now they go and believe, and she doesn't listen to our regular bands anymore, but seems totally different and I feel awkward. I understand all the change and accept it, but I have had 4 of my grandparents die in a year and she barely offered and sympathy. When I told this to my other friends they helped me. I am soooo confused. We are really close, but I feel as if we are spliting apart. Help anyone?
2007-12-15 05:01:37 · 9 answers · asked by Carey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well first of all people deal with things in different ways...for example I am a closed non-emotional person but I am always there for my friends. So when something terrible happens to a loved one then I may offer help but I don't smother them with emotion and I don't like it when people do it to me. She is going through a tough time right now and may be doing some soul searching. Give her some space...the church thing is typical after someone had a near death experience they feel that god helped them so they become more religious. I wouldn't stress over this too much I would just give her some space and still be friends with her.
2007-12-15 05:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by freaking_airhead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having someone in your family, especially a parent, go though a life threatening situation is hard on anyone. some are able to cope better than others. it sounds like her family is going through some changes to try to deal with what happened. be there for her, let her know you understand what she's feeling. give her some time to deal with what's been going on with her mom. everyone reacts to grief differently. make time to do the things you used to do. if, after a while, it seems like you're still growing apart, let her know you're worried about the friendship. sometimes, sadly, friends do grow apart. i hope things get better for the two of you, though.
2007-12-15 05:15:14 · answer #2 · answered by emo girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when on deaths bed a person changes and when children are involved its even more so you want to spend time with them even more cause there is not much time and also by going to church more and knowing someone is dying will make you change your life the things that use to be important ain't no more and you change..but i bet if you and her would sit down and talk about all this you both will do better understanding each other a little better..and that's what it takes to be best friends and stay best friends is to talk about it...don't be mad she is going through a lot of changes..its up to you what you do...good luck
2007-12-15 05:10:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a good time to desert your friend NO MATTER how she treated you when you had problems. She needs your friendship Many people that didn't have time for God reach out for a lifeline when faced with the possibility of death. She's going through a life altering crisis and is doing a lot of thinking about the really important issues of life.
2007-12-15 05:09:21 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some friends to unfortunately fall apart. Some people don't feel much sympathy for others, but when something happens to them their life can change drastically. Just try to stick by her side. Ask her to do more stuff with you. If things go sour you know you at least tried.
2007-12-15 05:06:05 · answer #5 · answered by Lillianessa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Friends forever," you promised.
"Together until the end."
We did everything together,
You were my best friend.
When I was sad, you were by my side.
When I was scared, you felt my fear.
You were my best support-
If I needed you, you were there.
But somewhere along the line,
We slowly came apart.
I was here, you were there.
It tore a hole in my heart.
Things were changing,
Our cheerful music reserved its tune.
It was like having salt without pepper,
A sun without its moon.
Suddenly we were miles apart,
Two different people, with nothing the same.
It was if we hadn't been friends;
Although we knew deep in our hearts
Neither one of us was to blame.
You had made many new friends
And luckily, so had I.
But that didn't change the hurt-
The loss of our friendship made me cry.
As we grow older things must change
But they didn't have to always end
Even though its different now,
You will always be my friend.
-Phyllis Lin
2007-12-15 05:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by <3 epiphany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to not scare you or something, yet there are various, many diverse varieties of melancholy, that are completely organic to have, and that can advance after a metamorphosis on your recurring or dwelling situatuation. have you ever talked to a doctor on the subject of ways you experience? they may well be waiting to help...there's no disgrace or harm in in simple terms getting their opinion. It seems such as you're extremely under pressure to me. i'd attempt blowing off some steam by using putting aside time to do issues you like which contain having individuals close to you, even even with the incontrovertible fact which you do not inevitably could work together with them...such as going window procuring, walking on a footpath individuals use, going to a gymnasium, or perhaps in simple terms sitting in a bookstall, cybercafe, or library to study or surf the internet.
2016-10-11 08:33:46 · answer #7 · answered by ragoonanan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well a friend is someone who is there for you no matter what the situation. they are someone who knows your mistakes, knows everything about you, and still love you for who you are. i dont think i would call this person a best friend. that is a shame because you have been friends for so long. but i was friends with someone for 4 years and that friendship just ended. i hope everything works out ok. and i hope you can find a true best friend but they are hard to find! good luck =]
2007-12-15 05:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your best friend doesnt comfort you in your time of need, then you cant really call them a best friend, can you? your other friends are better examples of what a best friend should be.
2007-12-15 05:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋