I am not looking for a learned answer, merely your thoughts.
2007-12-15 03:27:16 · 17 answers · asked by Yellowstonedogs 7 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
~~~ Hi YSD! I am very shy,so please don't bite me. I'm attempting to overcome this"shyness" to answer your question. Okay,I think shyness may stem from being labeled as "shy" as a child. It's normal behavior for a young child to feel uncomfortable around strangers at first,but when the kid has a parent or older sibling there making excuses for bashful behavior it can become a habit. The child starts seeing herself/himself as shy ,so they sort of withdraw from people. That makes their early school years difficult because they see the more out-going children having fun with lots of other kids,and they feel left out. They begin to think there may be something wrong with themseves. Hopefully with maturity they can overcome that mistaken idea. Positive self-affirmations work wonders. Shyness can be a hinderence. I'm actually coming out of my shell after years of wanting to be heard,but being held back [by myself] because of that oppressing label of being "SHY."....Oh great,now i'm blushing. ~~~
2007-12-15 07:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by donelle g. 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty shy and I do have some self-esteem and insecurity issues. Being shy, for me, was a way of "being in the back" of the crowd instead of standing out. I didn't want to draw attention to myself.
A lot of it comes from being teased about something by several people, and I became self-conscious about it. This pushed me more into shyness because I felt everyone was thinking that way about me. Also, growing up in an environment where healthy social interaction wasn't nurtured added to my shyness.
Ultimately, it can stem from several factors.
2007-12-15 11:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by gogogadgetlonglegs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's from both. When I was younger I was very insecure with myself so I never had the courage to speak to people. Now I have a lot of confidence in myself, so now I can almost always talk to anyone. But I still have insecure moments and the shyness comes back.
2007-12-15 11:36:05 · answer #3 · answered by Lexy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In any event it is a form of resistance caused by some type of fear. That's all that is important to know since we know how to get rid of fear and resistance. You wouldn't believe some of the stuff kids get told when they are most impressionable.
The answer is simply to change this habit for another which is preferred. It is best traded in a step by step procedure to a wanted one since quantum leaps are a lot more difficult to achieve unless one is already well aware that this procedure works. The trick is to find trhe habit which one prefers and to focus on it and avoid focus on the negative one for sufficient time. This can be a relatively short amount of time, like maybe minutes. The best way is to notice when the bad feeling starts to appear and quickly change to a predetermined good feeling one by focusing thoughts and feelings where one wants to go. Then within an also short time re-focus on an even better feeling one repeating this process until thegoal is achieved.
I learned about this procedure from Jerry and Esther Hicks some nine years ago and it has worked every time since that time. Cheers!
2007-12-15 16:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by canron4peace 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For the most part yes. Confidence is the cure for shyness but there are some that are naturally shy. When the shyness is so extreme it is abnormal shyness then it is probably due to lack of confidence.
2007-12-15 11:34:12 · answer #5 · answered by Enigma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If one's self-esteem is high, they are not like to worry about speaking their mind. They will say what they think without worrying if someone doesn't agree with them or thinks them stupid. I equate insecurity as the same thing as low self-esteem.
Most times I'm reluctant to say something because I'm afraid of what others might think. So my answer is based on my own experience of shyness. This has often stopped me from socialising. Now, I'm working on saying what I think without fear of other's opinions. It takes work.
2007-12-16 06:57:42 · answer #6 · answered by ph1966 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I kind of think the one goes with the other, and they're pretty much the same thing. When you have no self-esteem you're insecure. When you're insecure you're not confident and lack self-esteem.
2007-12-15 11:35:42 · answer #7 · answered by Manda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both. One causes the other in a way and leads to shyness
2007-12-15 11:32:44 · answer #8 · answered by Blindness 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. There's a stong inborn component to where you are on the outgoing-shy continuum.
2007-12-15 15:14:27 · answer #9 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either one can cause shyness.
2007-12-15 11:30:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋