With the McCanns, does anyone here appreciate what they must have, or are going through?

Question

I will explain why I have asked that question. Two days ago, I watched "The Street" on BBC1. The conversation between the mother and the guy who had years earlier killed her baby........

That was really powerful!! She was describing to him her grief versus his sense of guilt. It was powerful!

Before anyone jumps down my throat, I know that it hasn't been established if Madeleine is dead. Indeed, I am one of those who think she was abducted and could still be alive.

I suppose it is too much to expect that I won't get any abuse, but I can just ignore it.

Back to the question. I agree that they have not shown their emotions in public. Undoubtedly, they have been hurting inside.

If anyone on here has gone through what must have been awful, then I feel for you and sympathise. Apart from wanting Madeleine back, they must have gone through something of a nightmare with their lovely little daughter missing.

How many of us on here agree?

They are in my prayers every day.

Answer 1

I totally agree with you - we can only try to imagine what it would feel like to lose a child - but we can't. That has to be a pain you can feel only from losing your own. I pray none of us EVER go through it.

As I've said before, I've lost 2 cousins recently, and both of my aunts did not show much emotion in public. But when we were at home with them, they were screaming and crying. Some people JUST DONT SHOW IT - in front of strangers I mean. It would take ALOT for me to cry in front of strangers.

I don't understand the people that ridicule them all the time. They have experienced a pain like no other and people just keep picking at them.

I pray for Madeleine's safe return - that's all I want for Christmas

btw - i'm in the US, where can I watch that program online?

Answer 2

I have always sympathised with the parents.
They made a terrible mistake, but should not be persecuted for it.
I read in the newspapers today, that Portugese lawyers think the McCanns should be locked away for child neglect. RICH from a country who (unlike the rest of Europe ) has no paedaphile, or child sex offenders list, so is a magnet for paedaphiles.Also, check out the amount of children killed in Portugal, by parents, who sit them on the handlebars of speeding motorbikes, and on the laps of parents in the front of speeding cars, with no protection, seatbelts or safety regulations. VERY CARING PEOPLE THE PORTUGESE!!!! (NOT)

Michael w is such a wise man, and always gives a reasonable answer. Is everyone on here so perfect? I know I'm not!!!

Answer 3

I agree with you Ken and I tip my hat to you for posting this question.

People forget that one of the reasons the McCanns don't show emotion in interviews is because for on thing, they are British and Brits are very prim and proper in that way.

Second, and I can't say this loud enough to get through the thick heads of some people so I will shout it:
THE POLICE TOLD THEM NOT TO SHOW EMOTION BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT THE KIDNAPPER WANTS TO SEE.

If nothing else, I have learned a thing or two from this case.
Never go to Portugal
If you are ever a victim in a missing persons case, don't hold back your emotions

I can only imagine how painful this has been and will continue to be for the McCanns. And yet they must go on, for the sake of the twins.

I see some answers are already using the tired, worn out "they should not have left the kids alone" answer.

first of all, the McCanns were still on the grounds of the resort, and yes, they shold not have left them alone but the degree of contempt some people have for the 'crime' does not match the degree of 'neglect'. Had the McCanns gotten in a vehicle and left the premises, then yes, I can see where people would have a case against them.

It is my belief that Maddy was the target of a pedophile who was going to find a way, come hell or high water, to snatch the child.

JonBenet Ramsey, Elizabeth Smart and other children have been abducted from their homes in the middle of the night whilst the family was home. And for those people who think the Ramsey's killed JonBenet, what about Elizabeth Smart? She was found and her abductors caught.

If the McCann's did it, wouldn't they be more than happy to let the publicity settle down? They surely would not spend so much time making sure no one forgets Maddy.

I'll step off the soapbox now.

Answer 4

what a nicely written honest question. a breath of sparkling air in this undertaking. maximum judgements made in this website are in keeping with hearsay and unconfirmed comments interior the click. i'm disenchanted the mccanns left their toddlers on my own. i flap approximately when I take my 4 little ones to a park! i'm continually protecting them in sight. even with the incontrovertible fact that i'm wholeheartedly disgusted with many of the comments and theories and allegations made on right here. so a techniques as i'm worried they're accountable whilst a jury has made that verdict. up until eventually that element i will believe they're as much as victims as little Maddie herself. i could only desire to characteristic that from my very own observations there looks somewhat a bullying marketing campaign happening in right here over the previous few months exceptionally intimidation in the direction of those with differing comments. i won't point out names. your final sentence, i could think of, echoes throughout the minds of any logical, lifelike man or woman. each thing has a result, and it is a few thing the mccanns are going to could stay with for the remainder of their lives, and that throughout itself is punishment sufficient.

Answer 5

i find it difficult to image what it must be like to be a mccann

i cherish my children and worry when they are away from the safety of the home - and they are older than toddlers

i hope that she is alive

they must have some feelings of guilt - and feel if only, but this has yet to be shown

there has been a desire to blame others without accepting responsibility for their foolishness in leaving their children alone....

i don't which is the stronger emotion, guilt or despair, but i think if it was me i would find it difficult to get past the guilt....

Answer 6

just to let you know i'm not really uptodate with the case as i'm not in the uk. i do have sympathy for the mcanns in the respect that they have lost a daughter, i mean it is very tragic.

but i feel they dont deserve it sometimes as the children were left on thier own, okay people will continiue to argue it was only such and such amount of feet away, and they were checking every 30minutes. but as a parent you shouldn't leave your kids alone, not in your own country - let alone a foreign one! we've heard of so many child abduction cases, so many missing children... it just puzzles me to why parents would leave thier children alone whilst on holiday somewhere - they arent locals they dont know everything about the place.

when my baby brother goes to sleep if i'm watching him i need to listen to the baby monitor all the time, because he might cough or choke. and when he's awake i need to watch him every second because he gets up to mischief (ie. crawling up the stairs, pushing doors open, opening cupboards) so i just feel it's a bit, no infact very neglectant of the parents to leave thier children alone.

back to the question, i do have sympathy for the parents. but thier actions, blank emotions etc. havent really helped peoples oppinions and perceptions about them, have they?

Answer 7

It is obvious they love their children, so they must be suffering. Even if they did kill their child accidentally, they must be griefstricken. People like to think of them as cold-hearted and emotionless. That is impossible. They have lost a child and that is the worst thing in the world.
And for those still going on "they left her therefore they deserve it" those children were safe in their beds. Someone lifted the child from her bed. The chance of that happening is very rare - far more children get killed in car accidents, and yet we don't think twice before strapping our child into their car seat. The statistics were on their side. They thought their children were safe. They were wrong.

Answer 8

Keeping the Mccanns on display constantly does not help them one bit. If you really are interested in helping them the way you claim you should contact them privately and exchange sentiments. By resurrecting their case in the media and fora such as this, you give people opportunity to make comments they would otherwise not want to make. Think about it ... could you be acting as a catalyst for such reactions?

Answer 9

I have had sympathy from day one.I do not think they should have left her of course I dont,but I cant help but have sympathy.I only have to imagine how they must feel every minute of every day and just how guilty they feel,I cannot help having sympathy. I have been told by some on here that I must support child neglect because of this,yet when I answered a question about do you think its right to smack a child,I said no, never and I was told I was talking rubbish etc.
People can say what they like but I still feel very sorry for Kate and gerry McCann.

Answer 10

I have sympathy for them. They know that it was partly their fault that this happened, and the guilt must be unbearable. They've lost their eldest daughter, and it must hurt so much. This Christmas will be so hard for them and the twins. I sincerely hope that Metodo 3 aren't stringing them along, and that they do find Madeleine and give her parents a second chance with her, because that will be the one thing they want. Unless people have gone through this themselves, they don't know how they would react, or what it feels like. I just hope that she is found safe and well.